help? advice? Im not sure

I have to speak up and just say.... Mike has been completely supporting Aaralyn and I for a couple months now, and technically we never even dated 😲 LOL

I do want to point out one thing though Ellie, I have not yet seen you mention you love him or are in love with him... That's a very important thing in a long term relationship, especially if you are considering trying to have a baby together. It's nice to have that security of being taken care of but you have to be in total love with that person for it to be a long lasting happy relationship.

Constructively I'd have to agree with those who've said wait a bit and see where things go a little further down the line...

Good luck hun, and remember we are here for you, even if it's to give constructive criticism, it's cuz we care about cha 😘

exactly tammy!!!

we only critise (sp?) cuz we care - and dont want see none of our JP buddies hurt and upset

i dont let him pay my bills i refuse his money when he offers and usually when we end up food shopping we kinda pick up bits that we both want and we put it in the same trolley and then one of us pays for it.

i really dont see him as controlling hes a bit shy hes never had any luck with women. i knew the girl he was kinda seeing before me and she mucked him about and ended up getting with one of his mates. hes never pressurised me into anything hes the first guy ive known thats not been pestering for sex within a matter of days hes always told me to take as long as i need. wed been together for nearly a month before he stayed over for a night. he understands my independance and that if i need my time alone and gives me my own space. he wont offer me money now unless i ask him to give me a hand if im short.

he told me he loves me and he understands i cant say it back cos everytime ive ever told someone i loved them i ended up having my heart ripped out and stamped on. i want to tell him those words but i cant say them but i show him in over ways how i feel about.

he just been told he might have diabetes and is going for tests tomorrow and is very nervous about it so i told him ill go with him hes torn the fibres in the muscles in his back and basically cant move at the moment and i have been looking after him as best i can im been buying pain killers & heat pads. picking him up so he doesnt have to drive to mine and giving him back massages to try and help ease the pain.

i understand people are saying what they are saying because they do care but he really isnt controlling he is the complete opposite.

well hun, it sounds like he is a nice decent guy. I think maybe when you're comfortable and confident enough in your relationship to tell him you love him then maybe it would be a good time to think about having a baby with him, if that's what you both really want.

all I can say is just take it slow and see where things take you,you have lots of time to make a future together and have babies,

yeah he is maybe when he speaks to his mate who has a baby he may realise what a big step/commitment it is and decides he wants to wait a while.

I would say that if you've had to ask for advice, you're not sure so wait a while, see how you get on. Wait until you are 100% sure you want another baby.

Me and my bf (now dh lol) talked about having kids and got broody from time to time but decided to have kids later on, (well it kind of happened a bit sooner than we wanted but never mind lol). I helped him out with bills and stuff even when we had been together only a few months so personally I don't think that's either here nor there. No offence anyone 😊

yeah it is a battle of heart virsus head if that makes sense

Yeah it does hun. Unfortunately usually the best bet is to go with your head x

thats the thing i cant work out what is telling me what

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😘 's back thanks hun. im going to speak to a friend who knows us both and get there advice on it tonite im going to put izzy bed and go home in a min and call them maybe they be able to help straighten my mind out

Good luck hun 🙂

hope you get things straightened out xx

his mates made him see a bit of sense that its too soon we had a chat and i told him we'll talk about it again at the earliest after our holiday in the summer we have to egypt and told him if it happens it happens and if it dont it dont i dont see the point in knowingly trying as you just get disappointed every month and he seems ok with that and says that it makes sense just to see how we go etc.

good luck hun sounds like sound advice hope it all works out for ya

Glad you both got it straight with each other hun 😘

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