what is the nastiest thing?

what is the nastiest thing anyone has ever said or done to you?

Nastiest thing?...

A blog I wrote on the subject...

You know, I don't want sympathy or any advice because you can't give me any that I hav'nt tried already....But I have just for some reason been sitting here playing a game on the PC, when my Daughter pops into my head....a burden I have carried for over 8 years now, yes I have a Daughter, she is 9 years old and lives in the USA with her Mother ( thats the polite term I shall use )....and it all started when...

Internet romances, they happen don't they, well Rebecca is a living proof that it works, it also is about to show how suckered in I got with this situation.

I met Jamie Price ( Yes that is a girl ), on the internet in a chatroom when I was 20, we chatted for ages ( weeks, months ) and we had feelings for eachother, we phoned eachother alot ( big phone bills )...eventually she decided she would come over to the UK and see me and stay as long as she could ( Which is 6 months on her Passport ). This happened, I was a happy bunny, the happiest I had been in a looooong time. We hit it off as if we had known each other for years.....well lets cut the story short - zoom forward 3 months, we find out she was pregnant, I was ecstatic because all I ever wanted was to be a Daddy....had been working with Children in a playworker and even a Youth working assistant for the best part of 6 years at that point....

Moving forward....We decide it's best for her to return to USA and get passport and working Visa sorted out so she can come back to live here in the UK and so that the baby would be born here to be a UK Citizen...

Fair enough I hear you say....

Well yes, everything went fine, she got on a plane and flew off home, and I cried my heart out that day....and missed her every day, phoned her every day for updates.....this did drag on a bit, I even asked for the British Embassy number so I could contact them....she gave a phone number.....oh yes, for a Pizza house in America...."Strange, thats the number that I call when I phone the embassy".....Well, it never worked for me, why did alarm bells not ring at that point I still ask myself today!!

So to cut some more time out of the story, she was due to have our baby in Decemeber, it was no November and despite her telling me her Mom was going to pay for me to go over to be with her, nothing happened.....I waited....and waited....finally my Mom who was widowed when I was just 17 years old put the money up for me to go to America to be with her to see my Daughter born.....GREAT!

So off on an adventure I went, America, the south of America - Louisianna to be exact, great place, friendly folk there too. They met me at the airport and we headed off to what I would be calling home for the next 3 months....Well, it was'nt the Ritz, it was'nt even a house.....it was a Trailer.....big one, but a little in need of repair in places lets just say.....

So, spin on to the end of November, skip past the sweltering heat and the horrible midgie bites etc....December 7th Arrived and the Doctors decided to bring her in to stay at the hospital as baby was due any day soon....great hospital, enough space for another bed which Partners can sleep there, which I did.....

Spinning on, my Daughter was born at 9.38 pm on December the 9th and I was there for the entire thing, never regret that ever....

So after a couple of weeks of being housebound due to too hot for baby to go outside, I start to get the plan together to get moving on the UK trip, only had until February to get sorted....we had the letter written and were on the way to the post office to post it, when she says "Why don't you go look at the PC games and stuff while I post this".....Again, alarm bells should be blowing my head off, but they did'nt.....

Lets spin past when I had to go home and leave my daughter at the airport with her Mother, promising it would only be a couple of weeks until I see them again...

Spin forward......Phone calls again, every day, whats the situation, I managed to get the Embassy on the phone this time from home and gave them a case number ( Which she had given to me ), and they said they could'nt find the application on the system.....Alarm bells should now be so loud the country should be shaking....but me being me, was suckered in AGAIN.....maybe they misplaced it I think to myself...

Then the worst happens.....

She phones me and says "Great news, I have a flight booked for August 17th, we're coming to be with you"....

Spin to August 17th......

Phone call "We have been delayed on the tarmac, we have a shuttle bus taking us to a hotel, picking us up in the morning"........

Fair enough, think I.....Mom phones to find out whats going on ( as she was going to take me to pick them up ).......she phones me back within 10 mins and drops the bombshell "I hate to tell you this, but there is no Plane due to land at that time or has there been any delayed flights from Baton Rouge air port"......

Oh........My........God! *Panic* what, why? what did I do wrong?.....

Spin on 3 weeks.....*phone call* "I'm sorry" was the voice I heard......"What the hell have you done?" I asked....."there was no plane, or delay, or anything, you lied, where were you when you phoned me???"

Get this....."At a friends house"...

Spin on 9 Years........How much contact do I have - NONE
How many times have I emailed asking for photos - LOTS
How many photos have I been sent in the last 9 years? - NONE

No letters, no photos, nothing.....I may as well not exist....

Do I feel used? - oh yeah....
Do I feel resent? - only towards her Mother, who tried to blame me for everything
Do I want to see her? - Of course, I would jump at the chance...
Do I know where she is living now? - No
Is there anyone I can contact to find out - No
Do I miss her? - Every day.......

So there you have it, my worst experience...

i have tears in my eyes just reading that Rich what a terrible thing to do to anyone 😢

Oh Rich what a terrible thing to have to go threw im so very sorry i have tears in my eyes reading that 😘 🙁

I am so sorry for what you've gone through Rich. I hope someday you will meet your daughter and can try to make up for all the lost time. I didn't meet my real father until I was 15 years old and I still love him, he died in a motorcycle accident when I was 23 and I was so happy that I got to meet him before.

The nastiest thing ever done to me, was a man took from me with brutality what did not belong to him nor was given to him, and as I result I became pregnant and chose to not continue with the pregnancy. This happened when I was 17 years old, the guy was in a steroid rage, and I hope some how some way he pays or paid for what he did to me, and I'm pretty sure did to other girls too.

hapydazy said:

The nastiest thing ever done to me, was a man took from me with brutality what did not belong to him nor was given to him, and as I result I became pregnant and chose to not continue with the pregnancy. This happened when I was 17 years old, the guy was in a steroid rage, and I hope some how some way he pays or paid for what he did to me, and I'm pretty sure did to other girls too.

im so sorry to hear this happened to you and i hope he rots in hell for the misery he has caused you and other girls 😠

For me it was being called a murderer by a member on JFMs when it was running.

I terminated my first pregnancy over 11 years ago as she hadn't developed right and the back of her skull was missing. I had the choice to terminate or she give birth and she would be dead within the day 😢

I took the first decision and it was the worst day of my life. it wasn't easy to decide what was best so to be called a murderer was a horrendous think to say to anyone imo 😢

Buttercup said:
For me it was being called a murderer by a member on JFMs when it was running.


I terminated my first pregnancy over 11 years ago as she hadn't developed right and the back of her skull was missing. I had the choice to terminate or she give birth and she would be dead within the day 😢

I took the first decision and it was the worst day of my life. it wasn't easy to decide what was best so to be called a murderer was a horrendous think to say to anyone imo :cry:

It's a bloody discrace that you were even considered that, small minded folk need to stay off the internet!!! From what you have said, I believe you also did the right thing there, and it must have been such a heart breaking decision, you are one very brave individual and I for one salute you! you have my utter respect.

Being told i was a murderer by a smack head who knows me from a long time ago he herd about my son's dying and shouterd out loud in the street while he was high off his f**king drungs that i killed my babies 😢 but then his own child died in a fire while his girlfriend was asleep high off drugs and now he lives in my road and has tried to say sorry but i don't want to know he see's how great a parent i'am and how well looked after my children are 😠 😢

also been raped when i was just a young child by my mum's friends partner and sexualy assulted when i was carrying my first born Kelvin this time i stood up to the bast*erd that did this to me and he got sent down for 7 months i just wish i came forward and told my mum what i went threw the first time round he could be still out there abusing other children 😢 😠

This thread is genuinely shocking me. 😲 I've been very lucky, it seems.

Hugs to ya'll 😘

I'm so sorry to see how much people have suffered 🙁

being beaten up by a gang of woman whe i was 15 😢 , right otside a pub. everyone watched and shouted styff to egg thenm on. although it taught me a lot, it would never happen now for sure 🙁 !

ive not really had any bad major incidents with any one although i have had my fsllings out with folk the worst thing to happen to me personally was having to bury my 10mth old baby girl 😢 🙁

Mitch that's awful 🙁 Big hugs xxx

Ladybug said:
This thread is genuinely shocking me. 😲 I've been very lucky, it seems.

Hugs to ya'll 😘

I'm so sorry to see how much people have suffered :(

You and me both Ladybug.
Big hugs to all of you 😘 😘

🙁
I have also been very lucky and never experienced anything close to the things mentioned on here.

I can only admire you all, you all seem such strong people and you've coped with these things that have been thrown at you far better than i would have. Big hugs to everyone 😘

Buttercup said:

hapydazy said:

The nastiest thing ever done to me, was a man took from me with brutality what did not belong to him nor was given to him, and as I result I became pregnant and chose to not continue with the pregnancy. This happened when I was 17 years old, the guy was in a steroid rage, and I hope some how some way he pays or paid for what he did to me, and I'm pretty sure did to other girls too.

im so sorry to hear this happened to you and i hope he rots in hell for the misery he has caused you and other girls :x

Thanks Buttercup... I'm sure some how some way he's been paid... maybe all the steroids made his 😠 fall off!! The world would definately be a better place if so!! I've basically self healed, went through a little messed up stuff because of it, but in the end, I think it made me a stronger person some how.

I'm also sorry to read the other posts to know what other suffering people here have had 😘

Bless everyone who has had bad things happen to them. I thank God eveyday nothing bad has happened to me. The worst experience was when my closest friend had a still born daughter at 7 months. It was'nt even my baby but i grieved (stil do) as she was to be my God daughter. Least you all seemed to have come out sronger people. At the end of the day i believe we all have judement days and these evil people will pay

i just want to give all your girls lots of hugs 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘

im so sorry for what u all been through! 😍 😍 😍 😍

Hayley said:
i just want to give all your girls lots of hugs 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘



im so sorry for what u all been through! 😍 😍 😍 :love:

😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘

thank you, and there's a few for Rich too 😉

oh yes sorry rich heres lots for you too 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘