HELP!!! What do i do???

i was checking chris' emails coz we done the lottery online last night and there was an email i thought id check while i was there. it was a link to another site id not heard of from a 26yr old blonde girl. when i went on there it said he had six pics on there and there are 4 of him half naked hes not put anything about being married or having kids and that he wants fun and flirt. hes done it while we've been here coz the pics are in our bedroom. im in a state at the mo im due to give birth to his son in 7weeks and i now dont know what to do. i dont know whether to confront him or not. iv gotta be careful coz of my blood pressure aswell. its on person.com??? has anyone else heard of this or a member of it?
any help would be much appreciated. i hate him for this im now upsetting charly. im sorry

sorry to hear that..if it was me ide ask him coz ur only gonna worry urself.. just dont get to mad or upset..dont wasnt ur blood pressure going any higher..hope u get sorted

if it was me I would confront him as otherwise it would drive me mad,dont scream and shout just ask him for a explaination and say you stumbled accros them by accident,hopefully it will be a innocent explaination or a bit of harmless fun,but you need to talk to him,but keep calm and take it from there,big hugs to you and let us know how you get on xxx

Oh sweetie! 😘 😘

I agree with the above - confront it in a none hysterical way! If you do not feel confident doing that - write a letter? Explaingni just how you did to us that you were checking the lottery results!?

Alot of men tend to get bored durng the 'pregnancy' period and are just looking for a bit of hands off 'fun' - i'm sure it is all innocent - he maybe just feels the need to get attention - feel fanciable instead of daddy or the 'other half'.

Hope you are okay honey! xxxxx

he opened the account and put the pics on july 07 jus a few days after we moved in here i wasnt even preggers at that time!
i texted him and asked him coz i dont want to talk to him and he said it was just a bit of fun! nearly flashing his willy off (the only thing covering it is one hand) to loads of diff woman all over the world is just a bit of fun! this isnt the first time either.
a few months ago we had a bank statement saying that a porn site had taken some money for joining i put in the username ad password he would use and it connected and it had his bank details but he said he didnt do it someone else must have fraud his card etc... but now im not sure! he keeps saying he wants to go out clubbing its beginning to feel like he wants his single social life back!

I would sit down and have a ggod talk,tell him how you feel and how upset you are,tell hime that your finding it hard to now trust him and that he needs to decide what he wants,sounds like it was just a bit of fun but also sounds like he has been lying about stuff,am sure you can work it out but please talk to each other,I would also be very upset but if you really love each other am sure you can work throu this,

really sorry to hear u'r having a ruff time babe. i agree with the others, u need to sit him down, tell him how u feel about it and if he has any repect for u then he will never do it again 😘 😘

sounds to me like he is just having a bloke moment because he is about to become a dad and getting a bit scared,if he loves you he should say sorry and like kel said never do it again

thanks guys its really nice to be able to talk to someone about this before i talk to him. you are all such a big help thank you again charlys having a nap so im gonna chill out a bit and close my eyes for a lil while thanks again girls 😘 😘

Oh hun 😘

I would be furious and probably would have gone all guns blazing or done the hysterical thing, but do try to keep calm and get him to explain his actions.

He might think its a bit of fun, but at the end of the day it's hurting you so make sure you tell him that.

Shortly after having Charlotte I found some porn on the computer that DH must have been watching and looking at. I was fuming just from that and got really upset over it. I was feeling low with myself as it was and then finding that made me so upset. I shouted and screamed at him and was about ready to chuck him out lol. It wasn't really the porn that upset me though, it was the secretiveness that hurt the most.

😘 😘 😘 Hope you manage to sort it out hun. We are all here for you xx

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I'm not sure what I would do about the half naked pics, that would make me wonder why the need for it?? I would confront him and see where it goes from there babe. I'm so sorry hun, you certainly don't this stress and worry right now 🙁 😘 😘 😘

I hope this all gets sorted for ya hun!

I'm sorry you're upset, especially being pregnant. If it were my other half I'd kick his f:angry:ing arse, no chance of an explanation but that's just me, act first think later!

hey hun my dd's dad done things like this to me messaging over girls telling them he loved them and made out he was a single dad and that i had either died or abandoned him and izzy. i found texts on his phone messages on msn history pics that girls had sent him of intimate areas shall we and pics he had sent them of his intimate area to put it politely i found love letters from girls the lot and he made me think it was all in my head that they wanted him and they were sending things like this becuase he had rejected them or he would just have ago at me telling me i obviously dont trust him and that he would leave i stayed with him for so long because i thought i couldnt do it on my own and because i actually felt apart of his family i eventually couldnt take it anymore and left.

i would say sit him and down and have a discussion about it and be mature about it dont turn it into a fight as thats where my ex and i were going wrong and be sure you can forgive him. and if you need to chat you got me on your msn feel freee to message me anytime. 😘

well we didnt talk last night as a thurs night is my shopping night he bought a bunch of reduced half dead roses ( 😕 ) he then seemed to think all was ok coz he bought me flowers.
then when i got home and charly was in bed he offered to massage my back coz iv been having alot of probs with it but he suddenly entered me from behind (not in my arse) it really hurt and i felt used and abused. now this morning he tells me hes going out to pubs and clubs with the guys from band.
i want to kick his backside but im trying to keep myself so calm because of my blood pressure and charly its not fair on her to see me in the stat i was in yesterday again!!!

hun... he entered you withough your consent! no matter if hes ur fella or not,it is still wrong!
as for what he has done,i dont know what to say - but alls i know is i would confront him about what id seen. he may be abit lonely with you focusing on charley and bump but it still gives him no right! id also talk to him about what he did lastnight too and tell him hes hurt you enough without him making things worse by forcing himself on you like that.
the longer you leave it the more opportunities hes getting to carry on doing what hes doing,if he doesnt know that you have seen these things,then hes gonna think its ok to carry on secretly chatting on this site,iv never heard of the site.

he knows iv seen them i text him about it yesterday and he said it was just a bit of fun. if it was porn i wouldnt have been so mad but the fact its him with his willy out only being covered by one hand and the fact his profile said nothing about being married or having kids and he put looking for girls aged 18-25 for fun and flirt. and he now seems to think its all good iv forgiven him and everything is ok.
im stuck hes the father to my kids, charly loves him to bits so i cant leave him i cant do that to charly but at the same time i keep thinkin do i still love him does he still love me?
i feel like hes using me for kids and to cook and clean for him while he goes out and keeps his single social life. but if i confront him properly it will end up shouting and arguing and il end up crying, i dont want charly to see me in a state again!
hes even going out tonight. iv asked my mum what to do aswell. mum thinks he got me preggers on purpose coz i had started losing weight after charly and started looking good again so im back to fat and frumpy while he flirts and shows women his bits and they show theirs.
i really dont know what to do anymore i sometimes wish i had never married him.
sorry its so long

well if it was me I would give him a choice,stay with me and treat me right and no more flirting or the door,is there anyway you could stay at your mums for the weekend to give yourself some time to think and let him stew

i did think of that but shes only got a 3bed house with 3boys sharing one room my sis in the box my mum n dad shring and my bro on the sofa so theres no room lol i cant go anywhere thats the prob. he could go to his mums but he wont coz in his words he pays the rent

well I would say to him for the sake of your relationship you need some space if he cant respect that then he is not worth staying with,if your married it shouldnt matter who pays the bills thats not the issue,tell him you want some space and some time to think,if he refuses to go then you know he is using you

i dont know what to say hun,only you can decide what you want to do.iv been in this exact situation myself,but i dont think theres any advice out there that helps. We always put our kids first in everything,and the amount of times we say 'if it wasnt for my child id be long gone' but you also need to think of you too. would charly want to live with a unhappy mummy and daddy who stuck together to think it was best for her, or would she rather be with 2 seperated happy parents.

if you want to forgive him thats nobodies choicebut your own,and i know that what ever choice you make,its going to be the right decision in one way or another. look after number 1 hun - you and the kids... the rest can take care of itself.