Can We Share Pregnancy Scares?

This topic still gives me a creepy feeling when I remember it. Did you have any bad scares during your pregnancy? I'll share my own story. It was quite traumatic for me.

I'd finally gotten pregnant after trying for 5 years following a miscarriage. It was the happiest time of my life when I found out I was pregnant and started with the doc visits right away to assure that nothing would go wrong and that I'd stay healthy.

A few doctor visits later, I'd had some spotting. After an exam, he told me that I was losing the baby and sent me to specialist "for a D&C, I'm not equipped to do them here." I can't even put the numb terror into words.

Got to the specialist who thankfully did his own exam instead of listening to the first guy and said, "I'm not sure why you were sent here. That baby's fine, and many women spot throughout a pregnancy." By that time I was nearly at breakdown stage. If the first guy had been authorized to do the procedure, I wouldn't have my daughter.

Next time I went to the doctor... the 😠 who did that to me was nowhere to be found and they'd assigned another doctor who turned out to be wonderful. I was all set to give the other one a piece of my mind... probably a lot more than one piece knowing me.

Oh goodness...that's awful! I have no doubt that would have been incredibly traumatic, especially after getting pregnant after trying for 5 years only to have a doctor tell you that! They should have to be accountable for giving misinformation like that...it does make me wonder how some people get their medical degrees in the first place!
Thankfully I had a pretty uneventful pregnancy. I only have the one child so far and everything was pretty textbook...I count my lucky stars for that every day, as a lot of my friends had difficulties both getting pregnant and for that pregnancy continuing successfully.

Amelia88 said:
Thankfully I had a pretty uneventful pregnancy. I only have the one child so far and everything was pretty textbook...I count my lucky stars for that every day, as a lot of my friends had difficulties both getting pregnant and for that pregnancy continuing successfully.

Yes, having a textbook pregnancy is wonderful, Amelia88... glad to hear that everything went well for you. 🙂 There are so many things that can go wrong, either serious issues or those things that scare us but then get resolved.

And yes, I never did find out what happened with that other doctor... I do know that he was thought of as a good doctor before that, and after, I do believe. My sister used him (for her kids older than my daughter... I hope she wouldn't have stayed with him after knowing what happened to me if she would have had more kids... but she didn't.)

But to hear a specialist say he doesn't know why I was sent there sure shook my confidence in the first guy, and I was so glad that they assigned another doctor to me.

For my first daughter I had a couple of scares. One I fell down the stairs really hit my inner thigh hard on the rail. I was worried for my daughter I think I was 5 months at the time. My first i.e when I got home and saw blood I was shaking with panick. My cousin is a nurse and said its normal to bleed after an i.e. When it was time to bring her into the world I felt the dizziest I have ever felt. They would not except me into the lying in and referred me to the hospital. I threw up alot of green substance and the doctor wanted to move me on to a cs. I for one did not want to have a cs and pushed to do it the normal way. I am very very lucky to have my daughter alive today. The cord was wrapped around her neck three times. She had a wound around her neck and a blood infection. She is alive and healthy to this day. 🙂

I had a couple of scares. The first one was when I was pregnant with my daughter after I had had a miscarriage and I started spotting. I was so afraid that I was having another miscarriage but when I went to the emergency room everything was fine. I did end up having her by C-section and she turned out to be healthy. My second scare was after I gave birth to my son which was by C-section as well. I had returned to my room and I was talking with my sister when I felt like I had urinated on myself. I knew this couldn't be possible since I had a catheter in so I had my sister check to see what was going on. She practically ran from the room to get a nurse because I was bleeding badly. By the time the nurse got into the room the blood was at the foot of the bed. That was the scariest time of my life because I was so close to dying. Thankfully, they were able to stop the bleeding and gave me 2 pints of blood.

My own experience was when I was 5 months pregnant, and I had a scan and a lump was found; it gave me a fright. The doctor assured me it would clear off before the baby was born but I was in a panic until an old midwife assured me that it was nothing to be scared about but I was going to have a boy.

She was right, I did have a boy and the lump did clear off. There are certain things you do not read or find on the internet, because I had an internet type of experience. Every time I felt or experienced something that was not mentioned in our antenatal class, I would jump on the internet to search.

darkchild said:
There are certain things you do not read or find on the internet, because I had an internet type of experience. Every time I felt or experienced something that was not mentioned in our antenatal class, I would jump on the internet to search.

Medical information on the Internet is such a double-edged sword. It's so wonderful to have so much information literally at our fingertips, but my goodness, it can be frightening, can't it?! It can turn a broken fingernail into cancer. (hehe Okay, that was an extreme example, but not by much sometimes!) Any ailment you suffer at all, you'll probably find a cancer scare warning about.

I've also noticed that there is much conflicting information available on the 'Net. I think it's very important to use only trusted medical sites... I like WebMD, but there are others just as reputable, I think... Mayo Clinic for one.

I have to be very sure before I try anything I see online as being something medically to try. Sometimes I see something that looks reasonable and then go to confirm and the second place says to never, ever do that. Common sense plays a big part of whether or not to take online medical advice, but that's not always fail-safe.

Also important to remember is that this applies to herbal remedies as well... they're not all safe, contrary to what many believe.

That's definitely a scary situation you've been in. I'm glad that you were referred to another doctor though and it turned out not to be a dangerous situation at all. I'm glad you got a happy ending still.(^.^)

The only pregnancy scare I can think of is when I noticed that my son isn't moving inside my belly for about two days already. We rushed to the ER and thankfully, it's nothing to be worried about. They checked his heartbeat and turns out, he's okay. But yeah, he was quite an active baby and would even kick my ribs a lot, lol. So I was a bit scared when there was no kicking happening during that time.