Still in shock

Hi my boyfriend got a text on his phone saying his friend was in a motor bike accident. This phone is not one he carrys on him and plus his phone needed charging so when he got that text it was a shock because she said it could be a matter of life or dead.
All week we been waiting for news about his assumed that no news is good news but then my bf looked on this website and told me come read this. His girlfriend said he's gone he's dead.
feel so bad for my bf and I feel sad too. I think what makes us both sad even more is that we were gonna make his friend godfather to our baby who is only 7wks old. My bf friend lived in america and never seen the baby. Think he might have seen a pic but it sad.
What am I going to do its not hit bf yet he's trying to be strong but he is gonna bre

ahh bless ya hunni and as for what u r gonna do i dont no but all i can suggest it be ther for him when he needs u cuddle him when he crys and listen to all his stories of them when he talks about him
i love talking about my brother and i like it when people listen

not sure if i am allowed to do this but here is a couple of site for u one is a memorial site your boyf could do for his best friend and the other is to light a candle
i use both and have found them really helpful with my grief
hope u manage hunni and i ma here if u need me ok
thinking of u all at this sad time
xxx

http://gonetoosoon.co.uk/index_main.php

http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/candles.cfm?l=eng

take care hun
xxx

Not sure what to do my bf still not cryed or anything just seems angry.I asked him if he's ok but obviously that a stupid thing to say. I mean how he coping but dont think he's not he's lying down gonna go and cuddle him so hopefully he will open up.
I am so upset as his friend was a really nice guy who was gonna be godfather.

grief some times takes a while to kick in he might not have cried yet but ine day he will and be there for him when he does cuddle him like u said u dont have to say anything he will no hun
hope all gets better soon and check out those site ur bf talking about him might help u never no
u r in my thoughts and prayers hun all of u
xxx

Hi my boyfriend found out that his friend was not wearing an helmet. He kept saying why was he so stupid in not wearing an helmet.
So I think now he is feeling it bad because he's been chatting to his friends girlfriend. Also they had said he was brain dead but his organs were still working and was on life support for 2 days. Then they told them that their is no chance he's gonna recover.
Then he said they should have kept him on longer. I gather they couldnt do much more for him.
Yesterday I was talking about his friend but think this is now getting to him. He said to me that why you keep going on about the same think you make a man depressed. So I just dont talk about him unless he does but before he didnt mind when he first found out. Do you think its hit him and he's bottling it up?

ahh bless ya hunni i think the stage of anger is setting in now he is gonna be so angry at his friend for not wearing his helmet and for leaving him shall we say
when thats why he might not want u to talk about him at the moment even though he starts at thim
once he has had time to calm down and the anger subside that is when he is gonna let everything go and cry and open up about it all hun and then thats when u need to be there for him
i am not saying this will happpen like this or anything but it is what i have seen through past experiances
and i cant say i no what u r going through as i dont hunni just had to be there for my mum when my brother dies and for a 6 year old it sticks in your head
i remember her being so angry and then everything was let out
hope all gets a bit better soon hunni
xxx

Thanks for your reply.

Yeah think it is gettng to him now.He's angry

well i hope everything settles down soon hunni and u r all in my thoughts and prayers
xxxx

**HUGS**

I lost a friend like this a number of years ago (he was 23) and i got a phonecall from his hysterical fiance who happened to be passing as the ambulance pulled up to phone his parents. 😢 🤪

I was sooo shocked, and it was an awful time.

Unfortunatley these things happen - my dad is a biker and has lost several friends, colleagues etc.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your bf and your friends family. May he rest in peace.

Awful to say but he passed away doing something he loved!

xxxxxxxxxx

Yeah thanks for advice.
It is such a shock because even though I didnt know him as well as my boyfriend.
He used come over ask my boyfriend come out tonight. The last time he was over here he invite me and my bf to the pub were him and his girlfriend was. Also this other guyw was there with his girlfriend. I was pregnant with my son at the time. It was so funny they trying to figure out the name of the baby and my boyfriend saying he's gonna be godfather.
His girlfriend is in bit and dont know how she is coping but think my bf said she is back at work taking her mind of it.
Before this happened I would worry about my bf thinking I am gonna get this phone call about him etc.
Still cant believe such a nice guy like him died. He was not a bad person at all.

From america

My love to you both. Losing a loved one is never easy. I also know from experience it can be very hard if you didnt really know the person and the grief lies more with your partner.

My only advice would be allow him to grieve. Forgive him if he is angry, abrubt, unfair or difficult. It can be difficult but keep reminding youself that even though normally his behaviour may anger you or cause a row, right now he has every reason to be acting and feeling the way he does.

His reactions are normal, its all part of the process, and everyone deals with it differently.

All you can give him is your love when he needs it, and space when he needs that. And above all time.

Thinking of you xx