my child wont eat

Is anyone else watching this?

I am and although I find it interesting and the psychologists approach is very different but I still find myself SHOUTING at the TV and asking why.

yeah im watching it now, because i have one of those children!

Lucy said:
yeah im watching it now, because i have one of those children!

whats your one fussy for?

Alex said:

Lucy said:
yeah im watching it now, because i have one of those children!

whats your one fussy for?

My Tom is a really fussy eater, he wont eat veg except Salad and peas, he lives on cheese and milk and yoghurt.

Bread is a staple and ham and chicken (not off the bone, processed) and fish, but everything has to be covered in batter and breadcrumbs except sausages!

Things are slowly getting better, he eats a roast dinner now as hell only eat Turkey off the bone, hell east roast potatoes, yorkshire puddings and peas, he will not touch gravy! Everything has to be covered in Tomato sauce.

Now the funny thing is he has taste buds, but this is a habit i think, hes got into as a small child. Even as a baby he wouldnt have breastmilk, he hated it, he preferred formula and i had a limited suppy of b/m so i stopped and bottle fed him, once he was off that he only ate soft foods, nothing with lumps in. Then once on finger foods, it had to be dry, toast, fish fingers, no veg, only cheese.

He didnt eat potatoes for a long only crisps and chips, but now the only he doesnt eat them is mashed! So thats a great mnilestone.

He wont eat pasta, he wont eat mince, chicken, beef (only in a burger, but has to be in the mood) carrots, brocoli, cauli all the usual.

But look at him! Hes fit, hes healthy, never goes to the Dr and he drinks plenty of water and milk and fruit juice, which i make, i do occasionaly sneak in the odd veg, he can taste it though.

But its been a struggle, mealtimes were always a battle and i like some of the mums on that programme gave up trying it was easier to have calm mealtimes and give him what he wants, then to force him to eat veg.

Gemma eats loads!! I couldnt list all the stuff she eats, she even eats sprouts!

She could see what a battle it was from the start so she never rebelled.

I sometimes worry that when hes old enough to want to take his girlfriend out the only meal he could comfortably go for is a macdonalds or a carvery!

But as i said look at the size of him hes 14 hes 5'7" and he weighs about 7/8 stone.

Hes fit, hes young. I dont know why i worry so much, i thinks its because his diet is so limited but not to the extreme of these kids shown on the programme. But i have to say the little one Bobby was just like Tom, i wished id known what they know now and the advice i was given was "its a phase" but this phase lasted 13 years and is still going on.

Anyways, OMG i wrote alot more than i meant to !!!!

Sorry

I also have to add my sister was exactly the same, and my aunt and my grandfather were also the same. I wonder if this is a heredritry thing and my mother also hated mealtimes and everytime it was a battle.

Shes a lot better now and eats quite healthily, but it took 30 years to get that far! These light at the end of the tunnel and he has to be the one to do it, i cant do it for him. So far hes ok, but i worry about the health side later in life, but well cross that bridge when we get to it!

my youngest owen is a fussy eater, he won't eat roast,
any veg,and very few "proper" meals, He'll eat chicken burgers or crispy chicken and fish/fingers. he mostly eats what he calls a picnic (sandwiches yoghurt etc.) he would also live on ice cream and lolly ices i've tried making pictures with the food but it doesn't work.

mumof2boys said:
my youngest owen is a fussy eater, he won't eat roast,
any veg,and very few "proper" meals, He'll eat chicken burgers or crispy chicken and fish/fingers. he mostly eats what he calls a picnic (sandwiches yoghurt etc.) he would also live on ice cream and lolly ices i've tried making pictures with the food but it doesn't work.

yeah i tried that too, but he wouldnt either, he eats pizza and recently he ate a homemade pizza with salsa on so we are getting there as long as he doesnt know then we get away with it sometimes!!!

in the end its not always worth the battle

My lot are also fussy eaters - except Josh (4) who will at least try a new food put in front of him (after a lot of coaxing)

My girls, 6&11, are very bad at trying new things. Jordan won't eat meat only cos she 'knows' she won't like it!!!

Today I am doing a roast for dinner and the only thing Jordan will at will be the roast potates and yorkshire puds if I make them!! Everything else will get left. I refuse to cook separate meals though so if she doesnt eat, that's it until breakfast in the morning!!

xx

alis378 said:
My lot are also fussy eaters - except Josh (4) who will at least try a new food put in front of him (after a lot of coaxing)

My girls, 6&11, are very bad at trying new things. Jordan won't eat meat only cos she 'knows' she won't like it!!!

Today I am doing a roast for dinner and the only thing Jordan will at will be the roast potates and yorkshire puds if I make them!! Everything else will get left. I refuse to cook separate meals though so if she doesnt eat, that's it until breakfast in the morning!!

xx

i have to make separate meals otherwise Tom wont eat, but i taoiler what we are having to his needs, if we eat chicken he has crispy chicken or maybe some turkey, if we have a roast or pork he has a sausage, if we have steamed fish hell have fish finger or perhaps an adult piece of battered cod, and then sometimes we have a Tom like tea for all of us.

Another thing we will not eat is baked beans! The childs not normal!!!!

it was a very interesting programme. we watched because ben is a nightmare. he has refused lumpy foods since he was weaned. everything was pureed. then last month he got quite ill from a virus and the only thing he would eat was fromage frais. thats what he has for breakfast, lunch and dinner.

like the family whos daughter only ate chocolate we gave up fighting and let him have it. just caused everyone getting stressed out. he now eats wotsits and just recently tomato soup. this is his daily menu

breakfast; fromage frais
lunch; fromage frais usually followed by some wotsits
dinner; tom soup then fromage frais

staceyb said:
it was a very interesting programme. we watched because ben is a nightmare. he has refused lumpy foods since he was weaned. everything was pureed. then last month he got quite ill from a virus and the only thing he would eat was fromage frais. thats what he has for breakfast, lunch and dinner.

like the family whos daughter only ate chocolate we gave up fighting and let him have it. just caused everyone getting stressed out. he now eats wotsits and just recently tomato soup. this is his daily menu

breakfast; fromage frais
lunch; fromage frais usually followed by some wotsits
dinner; tom soup then fromage frais

how old is he?

Lucy said:

staceyb said:
it was a very interesting programme. we watched because ben is a nightmare. he has refused lumpy foods since he was weaned. everything was pureed. then last month he got quite ill from a virus and the only thing he would eat was fromage frais. thats what he has for breakfast, lunch and dinner.

like the family whos daughter only ate chocolate we gave up fighting and let him have it. just caused everyone getting stressed out. he now eats wotsits and just recently tomato soup. this is his daily menu

breakfast; fromage frais
lunch; fromage frais usually followed by some wotsits
dinner; tom soup then fromage frais

how old is he?

he turned 4 back in may

staceyb said:

Lucy said:

staceyb said:
it was a very interesting programme. we watched because ben is a nightmare. he has refused lumpy foods since he was weaned. everything was pureed. then last month he got quite ill from a virus and the only thing he would eat was fromage frais. thats what he has for breakfast, lunch and dinner.

like the family whos daughter only ate chocolate we gave up fighting and let him have it. just caused everyone getting stressed out. he now eats wotsits and just recently tomato soup. this is his daily menu

breakfast; fromage frais
lunch; fromage frais usually followed by some wotsits
dinner; tom soup then fromage frais

how old is he?

he turned 4 back in may

sounds like the little chappy who was on milk all the time. i think maybe a trip to macdonalds or maybe a friends house.

and maybe he can stay to lunch when he goes to pre-school.

it wont kill him for a day to miss a meal, but be tough and he can still have his fromage just a bit of something else 1st.

I tried all the trick with Tom, he has a more varied diet than your little chap, but it was limited, he just doesnt seem to have moved on from kid food.

but be strong and hang on in there whatever he eats is good

Lucy said:
sounds like the little chappy who was on milk all the time. i think maybe a trip to macdonalds or maybe a friends house.

and maybe he can stay to lunch when he goes to pre-school.

it wont kill him for a day to miss a meal, but be tough and he can still have his fromage just a bit of something else 1st.

I tried all the trick with Tom, he has a more varied diet than your little chap, but it was limited, he just doesnt seem to have moved on from kid food.

but be strong and hang on in there whatever he eats is good

i know. when he asked for soup it was like a miracle lol. we have taken the girls to mcdonalds and ben refuses his yoghurts and asks for chips, which we give him. he will take a lick but thats it. its like hes scared to actually eat it.

were waiting for a referral to a psychologist to see if they can help but from what i saw on that programme its just a waiting game. he'll do it when hes ready. just keep encouraging him.

staceyb said:

Lucy said:
sounds like the little chappy who was on milk all the time. i think maybe a trip to macdonalds or maybe a friends house.

and maybe he can stay to lunch when he goes to pre-school.

it wont kill him for a day to miss a meal, but be tough and he can still have his fromage just a bit of something else 1st.

I tried all the trick with Tom, he has a more varied diet than your little chap, but it was limited, he just doesnt seem to have moved on from kid food.

but be strong and hang on in there whatever he eats is good

i know. when he asked for soup it was like a miracle lol. we have taken the girls to mcdonalds and ben refuses his yoghurts and asks for chips, which we give him. he will take a lick but thats it. its like hes scared to actually eat it.

were waiting for a referral to a psychologist to see if they can help but from what i saw on that programme its just a waiting game. he'll do it when hes ready. just keep encouraging him.

sounds like he may have a genuine fear of food, but keep going and dont pressure him, hell be ok, i take it hes healthy?

and good luck all power to you

Lucy said:
sounds like he may have a genuine fear of food, but keep going and dont pressure him, hell be ok, i take it hes healthy?

and good luck all power to you

thanks hunni. and yes hes healthy with it lol. his height and weight are right for his age 🙂

staceyb said:

Lucy said:
sounds like he may have a genuine fear of food, but keep going and dont pressure him, hell be ok, i take it hes healthy?

and good luck all power to you

thanks hunni. and yes hes healthy with it lol. his height and weight are right for his age :)

no worries, i hope that he grows out of it, but as long as hes not living on fresh air hell be ok. Sometimes it takes sheer boredom to actually jolt them out of it