To many things going on at once

Hi everyone well theres so much going on at once at moment everybody get a time like this and want to escape.
Well I just had a baby who is 5 wks old. Trying to settle into motherhood and the sleepless night etc. Then my friends all got stuff going on. One friend about to have a baby anytime but worried because she not been feeling well with headaches. She was told he had high blood pressure, protein in urine. All signs fo pre-clampia. So worried for her plus she got a baby which is nearly 2.
Got another friend who is really ill. Which also upset cant help her. She lives far from me. She got 5 kids.
Another friend of mine also is going back to her country south africa. So dont know if i will ever get to see her again. Another friend also moved away but never really see her much anyway.

My mum is friendly with my step-brothers dad which is a sore subject. Not sure how my step-mother gonna take it even step-brother.
Boyfriend and I are ok I suppose but now he's starting to get tired so cant really help much with the baby.
Started to feel a little stressed not alot but I am finding it difficult to help my friends around me and even cope with the new baby. Well coping with the new baby is not too bad but just tired all the time. So much is going on.

😘 awww honey you do have a lot on, and most new mums find life hard in the first few weeks without all the worry and stress on top of everything else.Please don't start and question yourself as people often do in situations like this.......things are hard but you will get through it, things will get easier.

Im sure your friends will get themselves sorted out and yes its natural to worry, but don't let it pile on top of you, you have a lot of things going on.

Its always good to talk hon, and i know that you can feel totally comfortable talking, ranting etc on here and people will be supportive........keep smiling things always get better 😘

😘 😘 😘 Sorry to hear things arnt goos at the moment hun like witchypoo sed its good to talk, we are always eya anytime if u want to talk. 💐

mystery24 😘
Boy it sounds like you do need to take a deep breath and calm down.
Your smart to list off who has the issue and how it touches your life.
Enjoy your break.

Thanks for your advice

Then I do have problems too of my own my mum keeps telling me what to do with my baby. Thats annoying but otherwise ok.
Yesteday was just having a mad day but really worried about a friend who is ill though.She found out she had this sleep condition and really feel for her. As i said my other friend is due to have a baby but a little worried for her. She ok but wish i could help her more but cant. Even she wanted to decorate her flat and couldn't help her. Her brother was away and she couldnt ask her sister because she is pregnant too.
I know they will be ok but at the moment still finding it difficult with the baby.

Aww hun it is hard to deal with a new baby - i found with dd everyone wanted to have a say in what to do etc etc and it does get annoying! u know they are only trying to help but u wanna say "go away and when i need help i will ASK!" we lived with in-laws when i had dd and everyone was round all the time it got to a stage where i wouldnt let anyone else help me even when i know i needed it as i was annoyed they were all taking over! it does take time to settle hun and it seems everyone i know is prg atm or just had a baby! lol 😘

Whe anyone trys to interfere with the way you care for your child, be it friends, family or anyone else - it is important to stand your ground. Otherwise it can be really easy to fall into a pattern of doing just what other people say is best even if you don't really agree.

I had lots of problems with my husbands family afer I had my first child, and as you say - very annoying!

At the end of the day only you can know what is best, and if you not sure about something then it's ok to ask!

🙂

thankyou for advice

Well things are getting bad at home now with my mum.
My mum is interfering and trying to take over.
She's upset my boyfriend now he's telling me he wants to move out. He only raised his voice to the baby and she thought he was shouting at him. Then when he came from work she like hit him on his shoulder saying dont shout at my grandson. Also made him embarassed because my friend was there.

Now I am so angry today think I will explode at her.