Need to rant girls

Well where do I start. This may not sound like a huge problem but believe me if you were living it day in day out it would really get you down. I have this neighbour a few doors up and her daughter is at the same school as my daughter (although not the same year). Basically this neighbour, I'll call her 'E', has totally latched on to me. She has herself told me that she has had no real friends since 2001 and when she does go out it's only with her husband and to see her mum and sometimes her mum's friends. She is 26 years younger than her husband so she really doesn't hang around with anyone her own age. She has an absolute obsession with a certain programme and literally acts like most 14 year old girls would have over Take That back in the day, her life revolves around it; I'm guessing it's been her comfort from the real world.
Now she has latched onto me and I'm feeling so smothered even in my own home. My hubby and other friends are calling her my stalker but it sometimes feels like it's true. Her husband takes their girl to school before work so she just stays in bed as late as she likes then just picks her up from school at 3, that's it. She doesn't go out or work or do anything. Whereas I have my son at home with me still full time and I go out lots to the gym, to toddler groups, to town, to see friends and my grandparents, do the paper work for our business etc; and when I am home I'm happy to have the peace. But she will not leave me alone. She wants to walk to school every afternoon with me, so ok I do that, but then she interfears so I can't talk to my other school mum friends. Then she keeps asking for us to go there for dinner or a cuppa which I know sounds innocent but it's ALL the time and when we have been round to keep her quiet then she wants to plan the next time so that doesn't work either. I got out of my car earlier and she was standing beside me already asking and when I said we'd been out and I was tired she's asking what about later, I say no, what about tomorrow, the next day etc. Some nights I go to bed fretting about it and wake up still feeling like it. I can't get away from her. But she hasn't actually done anything bad so I can't tell her to get lost, I just want space. Bare in mind this has all come from no-where over the past 6 weeks or so. I get that she's lonely or pleased to have a friend or whatever but I don't know what to do, she chooses to sit on her arse everyday and not get out and get a life and I don't want her affecting my life. What can I do? 🙁 😬 😠 😠

thats difficult, maybe she can join a group? why dont you suggest she volunteers to help at the school?

They would be glad of the help, schools always need readers.

Maybe she just a lonely person, but i can see why youd feel smothered if shes putting all her attention on you.

You have my sympathys

Funny enough I do reading in my girl's class!
Since putting this post up earlier she has knocked on my door and asked if I have a CD she can borrow so she can copy it. I already said I'd dig it out for her another day. Then when I did find it and gave it to her she said she's bring it back round later, to which I said "no don't worry I'll get it when I next see you, there's no rush" but she still left saying "I'll see you abit later".
It feels like she's obsessed or something. There's a guy on this programme she's obsessed with and he's got tattoos and now she's even started saying that my husband's tattoos are just like this guy from this programme and saying she wants things that I've got like flooring, decor in our place etc. Just TOOOOO much 😲

oh dear- sounds rough. I dont know what to suggest,Maybe by talking to you and you introducing her to others she will slowly try to socialise with others. hope it gets better soon.

Sorry to hear bout this hun.

Think what Alex has said is a good idea, if that fails, do you think it might be an idea to have a talk to her husband, mental issues? Maybe??? Don't want to sound mean but her show sounds abit made up. Maybe its her way of coping. Could get her to go on friends reunited and get in touch with her school mates?

Hope it sorts out soon hunny 😘

Is there anyway you can take her along to the toddler groups with you? Or maybe get her interested in going to the gym? I know it means that you will see her more but it may get her to meet new people and to maybe get a bit more confidence?

It's a tough one hun, but she sounds like she looks up to you and lacks her own mind a little. If she doesn't have a lot of friends she may lack confidence and thats why she's taken a big interest in you.

Maybe you will have to be a bit more tougher with her and when she is popping around a lot say that you will go round to her house for a coffee another time but can only stay an hour or so because you have things to do so it is on your terms rather than hers.

My other friends will talk to her if she's there but don't want to be friends with her coz she's abit weird and her husband is aswell so I don't think he'd get it. I honestly could not stand taking her places with me now as I see more of her than I want already.
I think my next move will be to suggest she invites one of her daughter's class mates back to play and suggest she talks to some of the mothers. Her daughter has even been having trouble at school which I'm sure is down to the way they are and she's just acting the way they have taught her.
If she just backed off abit it would be ok to see her occasionally but the way she's being makes me not want to see her atall.

is she weird or is she just a quiet private person- who wants a friend?

No she's not quite right, her and her hubby are both abit odd. Believe me she's not quiet she's really over-bearing. I'm sure she has been lonely but the way she is will more likely put people off. She is certainly not shy, she walked into my son's 2nd birthday party and started talking about Vaginal discharge! You know stuff you'd talk to your friends about during a private girly chat and the others were looking at each other in disbelief