can someone give me advice pls

me and my partner have been trying for a baby for 2 and a half years. im a little over weight and im dieting. he thinks he may have a low sperm count but is worried to go to the doctors can any one tell me what i need to do please im very worried and dont no what to expected

the first thing, BEFORE you start blaming yourself, which you seem to be already doing, is to get you and your hubby checked out, it might be that neither of you have anything wrong, it could be that one or both of you have a low fetility.......only when you know the reason why can you think about doing anything about it, like having sex at your most fertile, or think about IVF etc.......its nothing to be ashamed of for either of you, just one of those things!

Just a quick one hun! if your hubby doesnt want to go to the docotors to get checked out i do believe Boots sell testing kits for men & women to see what thier sperm count/egg count is like! Only thing is the kits cost £60+ so i would think a free trip to the doctor may be in order?

here's a link hun! one kit is £180! maybe if u tell ur partner and he sees the price he may want to go to the docs instead?

http://www.boots.com/shop/product_list_new_template.jsp?classificationid=1037588

we have stoped drinking and even my bf has stopped smoking. i dont no if he will still come to doctors!he nervous is there any one(men)that can reasure him that he will be ok pls)

Well done Val1983. It sounds to me like you have made some very positive changes. I would switch him from briefs to boxers. The air moving around and cooling things off can help too! 😉

Most of all relax. Stress can hinder baby making.
Make a point of letting yourself laugh and smile, it will help you relax.

If he will not go to the dr. with you start out going by your self. He might just see how important it is to you and go because he wants to.

thanks for all ur advice my partner comes with me but i think he is a bit worried about the male tests(he dont wanna let me down same as i dont wanna let him down) i will always love him no matter what any advices on getting him to relax tryed massarges n things but wannna try some thing else (ohhh n he goes commando lol so he feels the air lol )

😀 lol about the last bit val1983!

Your not in this alone all of JP is here for you. Take us with you on you adventure tward parenthood.
Even when the advice makes us giggle we all grow and gain from it!

don't know whether this will reassure your man but i went through this with a previous partner and the test for the mans sperm count can be done away from the hospital as long as its there in under an hour so its quite private but the womens tests go on and on and on,.,.,.

aww val, my brother was to embarrassed to go to the docs, i litterally dragged him! tell him not to be embarrassed, thousands of men a day have to go for similar reasons, i hope all goes well hun 😘

Hope you can persuade him to go, the sooner he does the sooner you can get things sorted and start making those babies!!!!!

Hi, your husband can’t say that he has low sperms like this. First, I would advise to go to a GP and do some check-ups. I would like to share my experience with you.
Me and my husband were unable to conceive almost 1 whole year and finally we decided to go to a GP. We have gone through several tests and it was seen that I was infertile; the GP finally prescribed me to take pregnyl
And finally after 3 months of treatment, I got pregnant and it was unbelievable for me, because I was trying to conceive a baby during 2 whole years but without success. The incredible news is that it was twin babies and now I am happy to have 2 little babies.