was i being silly?

took casey to a messy tots group the other week and not 1 mum spoke to me or casey and no child spoke to casey either.

I tried again today and it was exactly the same, not even the women who run the group spoke to us, i felt like a leper. i dont think casey was too comfortable either she kept coming to sit with me.

I nearly cried once n then took casey to toilet n burst in to tears. so i brought her home.

I feel bad for her so ive let her watch lady and the tramp and we gonna go in to town on the bus later (she loves the bus)

I know the crying was prob just baby hormones but was i totally silly for taking her home?

wasnt sure where to put this

hunnie u'r not silly at all. if u dont feel comfy with the place then dont leave her there. u'r just being a normal protective mummy 😀

Your not silly for doing that, if they can't be nice and talk then its their lose. I don't know why people are like that your all there for the same reasons, wanting to make your kids happy. I hope you have a good time in town.

your not being daft at all hun! these parent & tot groups have their little clicks and alot of the parents are so nasty - what example does that set for their kids!! i used to go one with ethan in town,nobody ever spoke to me but i held my head high and stuck at it for the sake of ethan mixing - eventually people and kids started to mix with us but talkin to he mums,they were so bitchey,judging other mums/always talkin about this poor woman who was always on her own/and always talkin about their dirty bedroom antics which id rather not hear every week!!!
we broke up for the half term n i never went back to that one,im gonna start taking ethan a new one which is closer too,but es flued up at the moment so im waiting for that to clear - just try loadsa different ones hun... iv been 3 different ones so far and they have all been pretty similar to be honest.

just hold your head high and walk in beaming - you will stand out and they will want to make friends with you then rather than you sneakin in all shy.

is there any other ones you could go hun? xx

baby harmones suck!!! i hope you find a nice group soon. 🙂

we go to a couple of others, we go to bumps & babes on a tues, been goin there for a long time we both love it. we also go to jabadao on a thurs so its not like she doesnt get to play with other kids.

It just gets me coz ive been 2 a few other groups with the same mums and they were the same.

no hun yr not being silly at all. the same thing happened to me when i took jami along. it put me off and i never took catherine or ben

I wouldn't have liked it feeling isolated like that, I think it's ok that you went home. It's meant to be a fun social thing isn't it but it sounded horrible. Find somewhere nicer where you can have fun together and feel welcome

Hun it was the same for me, I tried to go to a Baby massage class with Charlotte and no-one talked to me they had already met at antenatal (which I was too frightened to go to). It knocked my confidence a lot, I wish I would have just kept on as I was very isolated until I returned to work.

You're not being silly feeling upset about it, tbh it's just plain rudeness that they ignored you and Casey.

wasnt so much that they ignore me its that they ignore casey, even the kids ignored her.

have spoke to a few other mums and theyve found this group of mums to be the same with them.

i have a few mum friends and we go to some groups together but we would never isolate someone, even made a new friend today.