just spoke to my sil

I just spoke to my sil and she and my bro went for there finall check ups.They can now start IVF again straight away.She is wrapped and has asked me to be her support again.We also discussed issues about her comment etc that were making me feel bad.She apologised and told me she didn't want me to feel bad but she really wants to get pregnant first and will try not to be upset if i conceive first.I cant help but still feel a bit annoyed.I can't put my ttc2 on hold just to spare feelings.I am genuin when i say i hope she gets pregnant asasp and i will be sooooo excited for them even if im still having difficulties.I love them but im going mad.I guess she is lucky i am patient and dont get offended by her all i want is for us to all be happy in life. 😍

Thats fantastic news that they can start to try again now. And I bet you feel better for talking to her about her comments. It is always gonna be a crap situation, hopefully you will both come out of it with a beautiful baby for your troubles xXx

awwww hun. thats great news and im pleased its sorted bout the comments she made. i can see why yr still a bit annoyed. (((((((((hugs))))))))))

😘 Thanks guys we had a family dinner at mums tonight and we all sat and had a big girly chat tears hugs etc.We are all going to a huge toy sale thats on tomorow (retail therapy) lol 😀

good for you 😀

I'm glad you've managed to have a chat about how you feel and that your SIL can start IVF again.

You are right though that you shouldnt have to stop TTT no2 just cos she wants to get pregnant first. She may be really lucky and fall at the first attempt so here I have everything crossed that the both of you get what you want
x

I dont understand how you could still be annoyed? She has apologized and told you where she is coming from and a apology shows that she has recognized her behaviour.
If you are annoyed with her and the apology is not enough then I think you should tell her you cant be her support, put yourself in her shoes for a minute and think if you were in her position would you want someone supposedly supporting you but thinking things like you are now?

Your comment "I am genuine when i say i hope she gets pregnant asap and i will be sooooo excited for them even if im still having difficulties."

Shouldn't it just be "I am genuine when i say i hope she gets pregnant asap and i will be sooooo excited for them"

Isn't she asking you to be her support? Not about you??

Also the "I guess she is lucky i am patient and dont get offended by her all i want is for us to all be happy in life." Seems a bit of a odd thing to say.

A true friend dose not need others to be grateful for anything.

😘 Glad you both got to talk about it hope you both fall pregnant reel soon

lots of baby dust to you both 😀

Glad to hear you have been able to talk to her about it and I have my fingers crossed that you will both have some good news really soon. Sending more baby dust your way, Kerry xx

Sending baby dust to you both xxx

kylie1980 said:
I dont understand how you could still be annoyed? She has apologized and told you where she is coming from and a apology shows that she has recognized her behaviour.
If you are annoyed with her and the apology is not enough then I think you should tell her you cant be her support, put yourself in her shoes for a minute and think if you were in her position would you want someone supposedly supporting you but thinking things like you are now?

Your comment "I am genuine when i say i hope she gets pregnant asap and i will be sooooo excited for them even if im still having difficulties."

Shouldn't it just be "I am genuine when i say i hope she gets pregnant asap and i will be sooooo excited for them"

Isn't she asking you to be her support? Not about you??

Also the "I guess she is lucky i am patient and dont get offended by her all i want is for us to all be happy in life." Seems a bit of a odd thing to say.

A true friend dose not need others to be grateful for anything.

WELL i am going to be her support and be there for her all the way.Why is me being patient an odd thing to say?Im sure at times i test her patience also.I know at times she get's offended at what i have to say.I have never asked her to be grateful for me being there for her and i never will.I dont regret any thing i have said in my comments and matter of fact my sil has read this post TODAY and she doesn't see a problem with me discussing this.I guess we are just a pretty close pair and some people obviously dont understand our relationship so cheers for your input but we are fine!!!!!!!!!! 😀

jo-jo - ignore the last comment, this person has had equaly inconsequential things to say all over the site. Ignore 😀

😍 Thanks Hipmomma.xx What is there prob?Does everything have to be so negative?It makes me not want to share my thoughts or views,but then we have such great people on this site that are so supportive and helpful that ignoring comments made by some is by far the best thing to do. 😀

jo-jo said:
:love: Thanks Hipmomma.xx What is there prob?Does everything have to be so negative?It makes me not want to share my thoughts or views,but then we have such great people on this site that are so supportive and helpful that ignoring comments made by some is by far the best thing to do. :D

Totaly agree dont stop posting your feelings 😘 thats what all us mums are here for to help each other 😉