WALKING ON EGG SHELLS
🤔 I just need to vent my sis in-law and bro lost there baby in the second trimester it was awful. They had to terminate and go thru the whole labour and all.Then a week later my sis had a baby girl who is now 4 mnths old and healthy.My son is 3 1/2 yo and healthy,We both had good pregnancys and emergancy c-sec.Recently my sis in-law has been making rude comments about me getting pregnant.Every month she constantly asks about my period. When i say im late she gets annoyed and makes remarks such as "you better not be pregnant".I love her and my bro to bits and i know they have been through hell and back but what happen isn't my fault but yet she makes me feel so guilty for wanting another child.She also had problems conceiving and has to go thru ivf again im trying to be supportive but at times im a week person and i get walked all over. 😊 sorry ive babbled enough....
aww hun sending some (((((((HUGS)))))) for you! it must be so hard for both you and your sil! but your right it isnt your fault and you shouldnt feel guilty! her time will come and i hope it all works out for you both! 😍
come and babble as much as you need to hun, thats what we are all here for! haha xxx 😘
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Must be so hard for you all, its not fair of her to make you feel like that though even if she does feel jelous about it, im sure it is really hard for her 😘
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I wouldnt wish what she has been though on anyone, but it certainly doesnt give her the right to make you feel guilty. Try not to let it bother you, if you want more kids then go for it xXx
Just wondering if any of you ladies have actually been in the sister in laws prediciment? How it eats you up month after month when everyone around you is falling preg and people are leaving their children alone in hotel rooms to be taken??? When you finally get your one wish in life only to have it ripped apart.
Maybe if you just walked a small distance in her shoes then you would have the right to comment on how she should or shouldnt behave, untill then think about your callous remarks.
😛 Amy454 i have been in her shoes and i don't feel my remarks or anybody else's are callous my sis in-law and i are very close but this is one topic i have tried to discuss with her but i get shot down and yes i know only to well what it feels like to get something you want (a child)only to have it gone before you even get to hold it and yes i know only to well what it feels like when everyone around you is pregnant and you cry every month.I am always there for her when she goes for her IVF treatments or hormone injections so please do not think that just because i vent my frustrations that i am or we are cold hearted people because that is far from the truth 😠
amy456 said:Amy, I hardly think the comments that have been put on here are callous!! Yes, the sister in law has had a truly awful time and has a rocky road ahead of her but she also needs to think about the comments she is making to others.
Just wondering if any of you ladies have actually been in the sister in laws prediciment? How it eats you up month after month when everyone around you is falling preg and people are leaving their children alone in hotel rooms to be taken??? When you finally get your one wish in life only to have it ripped apart.
Maybe if you just walked a small distance in her shoes then you would have the right to comment on how she should or shouldnt behave, untill then think about your callous remarks.
People can not go tiptoeing round her because she has lost a baby and they cant be expected to not conceive just because it makes things hard for her.
I think a little give and thought on both sides is called for
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:kiss:Thanks Alison im glad im not being judged for something im not as i said i just needed to vent.
😘 thats what were here for, it must be so hard for your SIL as you know because, you have been there for her through it all and still are, but as alison said she needs to think about the comments she is making to others and how it makes them feel.
amy456 said:No-one has said anything callous. The comment about people leaving their children in rooms to be taken, well thats just totally unrelated to this specific curcumstance. I can only imagine how hard it is for the SIL to deal with, but i can also imagine how hard being made to feel guilty for wanting a child must be also. It is a difficult situation, and by no means is anyone here thoughtless or ignorant to the complexity of the feelings of everyone involved.
Just wondering if any of you ladies have actually been in the sister in laws prediciment? How it eats you up month after month when everyone around you is falling preg and people are leaving their children alone in hotel rooms to be taken??? When you finally get your one wish in life only to have it ripped apart.
Maybe if you just walked a small distance in her shoes then you would have the right to comment on how she should or shouldnt behave, untill then think about your callous remarks.
jo-jo said:Jo-Jo sorry I really didnt mean to judge anyone. I went through infertility and although I now have 2 beautiful children, I was probably exactly the same as your sister in law with friends. I know how I did and still do feel when I had a miscarriage and it is terrible to have something you want with all your heart and soul taken from you.
:kiss:Thanks Alison im glad im not being judged for something im not as i said i just needed to vent.
I totally understand your need to vent.
Thats ok i just felt like i was being attaked i really feel for people in this type of situation so im not being selfish when i want to vent.Im sorry you had a hard time i have always been there for my sil and i always will but im a person with feelings to and she also knows what i have been through this past year so all i wanted is a little understanding and not to be made to feel guilty if i do conceive soon if she is to get pregnent any time soon i will be over the moon for them.