Advice needed on 8 year old and her friend

My daughter has had this friend since the infants been about 2 years now,they moved upto juniors together and were put in the same class.When they were in the infants they did nothing but argue and they have continued to do the same in the juniors,Ive kind of had enough the teacher says its an unhealthy relationship and not to encourage it so I have'nt. I signed my daughter upto brownies to met new friends and to acting lessons so what happens the girl goes and does the same..It has all came to a head today as yesterday my daughter came home and said that she skived a lesson for 15mins in the toilets with her friend as she asked her to go with her the teacher didnt even notice they went.So she has been punished for that at home and at school.I spoke to the teacher at lunch and she said that they should be separated as my child is being bossed around by this other one.Well I agree with what the teacher says so I thought I would be grown up about it and speak to this girls mother well she blow completely off the handle and was rather rude and blamed it all on my child she went on saying how awfull it will be for her daughter if she cant be friends with mine and how she will play up and not want to attend school etc.I said we both have to do whats best for our own child and she just didnt get it..My daughter is happy with the outcome but have I over reacted I dont think I have but I dunno.I dont want to be sitting here in a years time with the same problem..Any advice welcomed...Sorry for going on...

I don't envy your situation... from what I can tell, I think you did the right thing. A friend of mine is going through a similiar situation with one of her son's school friends (he's just finished 1st grade). The other little boy is very mouthy and fresh to other kids and adults (he mouthed off to me one day and I gently put him in his place). He is pitting my friends son and his brother against each other all the time and is very bossy. She spoke with his mother about it (whom she has become friendly with as well) and she just basically blew it off (the other mom)... Now my friend's hubby doesn't really want this kid coming around anymore so now she's in a really sticky situation. As long as your daughter is happy about not hanging out with this other little girl anymore, I think that's what matters the most. I know I wasn't very helpful but I think you did good 🙂

You ahve to do what you think is best for your daughter. And the hard bit is stick with your decision.

Hope everything sorts out soon hun

i agree with alex hunni hope everthing works out for you hunni x x x

cheers all well took little one to school this morning it was so tense never spoke to this girls mum.Teacher phoned up at play time wants us to have a meeting with me the other mum and her.The teacher is concerned that as it was 3 of them who were friends the other girl is left upset as she don't no who to be friends with I do feel really sorry for her.So that is happening Monday after school but I have told the teacher I'm not going to sit their and be talked down to by this girls mum and I have no intentions of backing down.One of the other mums who saw what happened yesterday said to me this morning that she is not surprised at what happens and that this little girl is trouble...Thank god it's Friday!!!!