Help Me with Trying To Conceive

Hello Pals! I hope everyone here is okay. I am here again to thank you on your advice on whether I should conceive again or not. I talked to my husband about the matter and we reached a conclusion to do it once again. Unfortunately, I have noticed that my husband seems not to be as active in bed as he used to be before.

He is kind of losing interest in the whole thing. I can describe it as premature ejaculations because the sex period only last for about four minutes and it is done. After this happens I am forced to wait until the next day. Help us guys!

We only have one child and with the current situation I fear that we might not get another one anytime soon. I humbly request you people to give as some explanation to why this is happening to my husband. I Love him so much and I cannot bear it losing him. I am looking forward to hearing from you, and please explain ways to help resolve this condition. Your advice is highly honoured. Thank you friends!

Hello @ Braxton
I’m very sorry about your case, but by being here I’m so optimistic that very soon you will reach a solution. I’ve been dealing with cases like yours for quite some time and I have no doubts that whatever I will post on this will be of great help to you.
First of all, you need to know that your husband might be suffering from premature ejaculation. This might be as a result of several reasons ranging from diet to psychological problems. I’ll give some tips to try and observe if we will have any changes.
For your man to perform in bed he must have the right mind set. If you are planning to conceive then you should ensure that there are no mishaps between you and your hubby. Having aright set mind will give your husband the necessary interest he requires for the whole process.
You should also be keen with your diet at this moment. Premature ejaculation is mainly caused with deficiency of certain minerals and nutrients in the body. This implies that he should eat food rich in vitamin C, vitamin D, zinc, calcium and omega 3s. These nutrients will greatly boost his ability during sex.

Hello honey! I think your husband maybe under stress. I know it from my own experience. We've been trying to conceive by our own for so long. And this situation was as hard for my husband as it was for me. This's great you decided to continue your ttc. It means both of you are on board which is very important. I think you should try to relax a little bit. Do not turn sex into routine though I know this is hard when you're desperately try to conceive a baby. Maybe you should go on a date or have a vacation somewhere in the countryside. Do something which makes both of you happy and brings happy memories. Do something romantic. I think it might help your husband to relax and fully enjoy making love. I wish you to get pregnant as soon as possible! Good luck!

Hi Dear!
This is indeed a sad story. However, I want to take this early opportunity to thank you for bringing it forth. I am sure we have plenty of fertility doctors here who will help you. Before then, I want to give insight into the whole situation and open the Pandora ’s Box. First, I would like you to remember that three things can bring about the behavior you are experiencing in your husband. I think he is under duress and stressed up. This is why he is lasting 4 minutes only. It is the reason why he does not go beyond 4 minutes. This is why I recommend that you try to examine him and talk to him to help you discover the possible causes of the stress. Second, you may have to revisit your diet. Men who are poorly fed don’t find fun in sex and will behave the way your DH is behaving. Talk to your dietician and ensure that you feed him on foods that are rich in zinc and proteins. Food such as legumes, beans, nuts is the best for men and women who are TTC. Notice that Men who find it eager to sleep than to have sex need some boosters because their libido is low. However, this does not mean that they are done. It just means that they should be put on a libido-boosting diet. Consider putting your DH on Black Raspberries and their seeds to help transform his mood and mindset. These are phytochemical-rich foods that enhance sex and sexual endurance. Other than putting him on the right diet, you need to check out if your husband is suffering from a psychological problem.

You must know that it's hard for your husband too. Sometimes they don't want to feel like their only role is to make a baby. Try not to force him. Be gentle and the rest will come, I am sure.