Advice after Miscarriage

Hey guys, it’s now a year since you advised me on ways to prepare myself for conceiving. Your advice was of great help to me .I tried it for the first time and it was very successful.

I got pregnant, but unfortunately lost it on the second week. Since then my husband stopped sharing a bed with me. I don’t know what to do now that he seems to have dropped the blame on me. I’m afraid that he may soon or later sign divorce papers. I’m so stressed I can’t have my meals at peace, I don’t have any one to talk to, this house is kind of hell to me. I therefore, humbly request for your advice on what I should do next. Thank you!

Hello @ Braxton
I am so sorry about your case. I can feel the pain you are going through at this moment. Don’t forget that everything good or bad that happens has a purpose. God has a reason for everything and he himself shall restore your joy. Have faith in him and pray that he may see you through in this time of problems.
As for your husband, it’s better for the two of you to visit your doctor for clarifications. Many times it is impossible to judge such cases without proper medical check-up. You and your husband should accept the condition and work together in solving it.
I would like you to know that miscarriage come as a result of different factors. At times, it is so hard to diagnose those factors by the use of our naked eyes. However, there are some that can easily be figured out by simply reviewing the life of the victim before the miscarriage.
Your husband needs to understand that some of the causes of the condition may even be as result of his behaviour when he is around you. Therefore, he needs counselling on the same matter. For that reason, it will be of more benefit to visit your doctor and believe in God.

Hello hun! I've also had a mc and I'm so sorry you went through this. It was hard to continue ttc and get pregnant again. We can't control much our pregnancy but the most important is to stay positive, avoid stress and care about yourself and your baby. I don't know which advice you want or what you want to hear. I think you should talk to your dh. I understand this is hard for him, but you’re a family, you’re both into the same boat. You should support each other no matter what. If he makes you feel that this’s your fault, something is definitely wrong with his behavior. I wish you good luck!

Hello Braxton! I hope you are fine. I know that you feel lost. Sorry that you haven't got a support from your husband. It's not OK to blame you. You are not fault for miscarriage. Maybe he will change his mind when some time passes by. He is angry and sad to. Try to talk to him. Tell him that you still have a chance to have a baby. It's hard to think about it after miscarriage but it's not everything lost.

My dear, I am so sorry about you. How hard is when you think you are finaly succeed and something like that happens. I understand how you feel. I know that is hard for your husband too. But it's wrong to put the blame on you. Things like that happens for reasons that we cannot understand. I hope he will find strenght and be a support to you. That is what you need now. To be with each other no metter what.

Hey there! Dont be sad. These misfortunes are part of life. They just make you stronger and stronger. They will help you fight anything that comes on your way. I believe in smiling and dealing. Dont stress yourself. Sit back and relax. Meditate as long as you can. Focus on your diet. It plays a major role for your future offspring. You see may be the primary reason for miscarriage could be in adequate diet. Invest time on yourself and not on wordly things. It will surely help you.

Hey, dear, I am really sorry to know about your situation! A miscarriage takes a toll on a person's emotional well being, and I cannot imagine the pain you must have suffered through! Your husband needs to know that there are so many reasons leading to miscarriage, It's not you whom he needs to blame! You both were in this together so you both should support each other through the difficult time as well! Try talking to him and get to some conclusion! He might be willing to try again if you persuade him! Wish you all the luck xx

Hello there Braxton. First of all, let me tell you how sad I am to hear about your loss. It can be so hard to deal with losing a child. As far as your husband is concerned, you need to understand that he too lost a child. This means only the two of you can understand completely what the other person is going through. Be supportive, and soon enough hopefully he too will realize that he is being unfair towards you. I wish you both strength in these difficult times.

Hello, dear. What an awful situation. Your husband should do everything possible to support you. I think you should talk to him. Try to explain him that you are scared and tired. You need his help and support. He seems to be very selfish. I also lost my son when I was 6 months pregnant. I remember how awful it was. I didn't want to talk to anyone. But I appreciate my husband for his support. He explained me that we still can have kids. Now we are waiting for our coordinator's call. He is looking for a surrogate for us. I'm hoping for a positive result.

I'm so sorry you are going through this... I really understand what you're feeling right now. I came to this forum after I had my m/c. I feel that I'm so lost and empty. I've been trying to get pregnant for 7 yrs. I tried everything I could. IUIs, finally we tried IVF… I was soo happy to get pregnant! I was not expecting to lose it.. Feeling so sad!! My heart breaks when I hear story like this... I know once you get pregnant, there’s a baby there inside of you... It’s your baby... Sorry if it seems like I’m venting. It just hurts me so bad... Some people don’t understand what we go through. They’ve never experienced it. So it is easy to say things that will hurt our feelings. But here on this forum we know how it really feels. We find comfort from each other… Thanks to all of you ladies. Hopefully you'll find comfort & be strong.

I'm very sorry for your losses. Seeing a specialist is definitely the right move. I like my OB, but the reproductive endocrinologist I have been referred to seems to have a much more comprehensive and nuanced view of things (and not just the doctor - the entire nursing staff). Because they deal in this stuff all the time, they are a lot more knowledgeable and willing to do the detective work.