my 3 and a half son won't listen to his dad

hi everyone, im new to this so please bear with me.
my little boy is nearly 4, and he has always
been a mummys boy. the problem is now he will
not listen to a thing his dad (my husband) tells him.
he is constantly back chatting at him, and we have
tried everything to get him to listen, timeout,
things taken away. talking to him, family rules, and
nothing is working. we are in desperate need for
some advice and suggestions as this is putting a major
strain on our marriage, and our family unit. thank you
for any suggestions you may have! xx

I was just wondering do you play equal roles in things like
* disciplining him
* putting him to bed
* reading stories
* helping him to dress
* playing
etc etc?

I only ask because I know we each have our 'role' within our family and in a marriage often you get into a routine where each parent carries out certain tasks or spends time with the children doing different things. Are there any ways you could shake your normal routine up a bit to change the dynamic in the family and to encourage a new level to the relationship between your son and husband?

GTTkel said:
I was just wondering do you play equal roles in things like
* disciplining him
* putting him to bed
* reading stories
* helping him to dress
* playing
etc etc?

I only ask because I know we each have our 'role' within our family and in a marriage often you get into a routine where each parent carries out certain tasks or spends time with the children doing different things. Are there any ways you could shake your normal routine up a bit to change the dynamic in the family and to encourage a new level to the relationship between your son and husband?

that is a good point. unfortunatly my husband suffers with depression, and his body clock is all messed up, so he dont go to bed till early hours in the morning, and gets up late afternoon, so my little boy is with just me all day. because of this, i am the one that does everything for him as my husband is unable to. i think the father and son relationship is being effected because my husband dont like my son only doing what i say so he dont feel like a dad, or a role model and he believes that our son could end up on the wrong path in later life. i didnt have a male role model in my life, so when my husband attempts to discaplin him, it feels to harsh 4 me, so that causes conflict between my husband and myself if that makes any sense. xx