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2 year old with anger issues!!!

posted 1 decade 3 years ago
My 2 year old son is a handful. The same as any other 2 year old, but probably worse.
He has a short temper, and if he doesnt get what he wants he smashes things up. And we are talking whatever is in sight.
I am on my own with with my 2 children (eldest is 7 years old) and i really dont know what i can do to control my son.
For example, this week alone he has cracked a car windscreen by throwing a large stone, run out into the road on several occasions, wipes pooh all over the walls and furniture and has done other excessive amounts of damage to the house. I wouldnt call this normal. Is it? I really needed to know if there was anybody out there that has or is experiencing the same issues, and if theres any advice. At the minute im at the point of giving up. I dont know what to do anymore. Im physically and emotionally drained.

posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Hi,do you take your son to play group at all? Maybe he has alot of energy to burn and gets bored quickly. At the age of two my son would scream,cry and hit just to get what he wanted and it was very hard to ignore especialy out in public and some days were very exhausting and i would have a good cry. I used to set my son some activities(drawing,pasting,playdough etc) to do on his own during the day so he was occupied, it was great especialy when i was trying to get dinner ready or get things done around the house it also gave us a bit of time out from each other.
If you are concerned about his agression it would be best if you see someone about it. Even if its nothing at least they might be able to give you advice on how to deal with certain situations and give you piece of mind.
I hope things start looking up for you soon.
Take care.xx

posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Hey, thanks for your response. My son is at playgroup 2 afternoons a week. I have spoken to the playgroup leader and they don't have seem to have the same child lol. I have contacted my health visitor regarding his outbursts, and i have even cut out high sugar foods and drinks to see if it changes anything - FAIL!
My real concern is that his father has issues with anger and so does his father - Could this mean its hereditary? I know im probably looking too much at the bad points, but it is extremely hard to deal with, and i really do hope it will become easier.

posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Its funny how our children behave for other people and play up at home lol. Does your son spend alot of time with his father and grandfather? he might be picking up on the agression shown by them? I guess if he does its a case of breaking the cycle.
My DH came from a very violent angry father/family and it took us a while to break that pattern. He used to yell and scream like a crazy person when he would get angry it would scare the life out of me as i grew up in a very calm house. When we decided to have children he got help as i wouldnt agree to get pregnant unless he got help with his anger issues which he did. I think in a way it can be passed on if thats what you see as you end up thinking it is normal to behave that way (which is what my DH did).
Try to praise your son when he does good things even if they are minor things. Create a sticker chart or something and constantly remind him about all the good things he does. He will always have bad days (my 7yo is worse than my 3yo at times)and i feel like i want to run away lol.
When he is shouting remove him from where he is and sit him in a quiet spot. Try calming him and talking about what is wrong and set him a task to do so he forgets about whatever he was upset about in the first place. (this works for me SOMETIMES).
Good luck im here if you need a chat.

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posted 1 decade 2 years ago
I would try praise and lots of it Very happy My son started to show signs of anger and I quickly spotted when he was going t blow and would put him in a cool down spot (however, he never got as angry as your wee one)

posted 1 decade 2 years ago
Sometimes we lose our patience because we are expecting our children to behave in a way they are simply not capable of. Take time to examine the situation and try to put yourself in your child's shoes.

posted 1 decade 2 years ago
It becomes really irritating to see your kid angry and you can do nothing about it. But some kids are really fidgety, they just love to trouble everybody....

posted 1 decade 2 years ago
I'm afraid I don't really have any advice but my eldest is exactly the same. He breaks things, takes tantrums, hits his little brother, puts poop everywhere all over his room. I don't know what to do :S

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