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Feeling a little miffed

GTTkelGTTkel
posted 7 years 10 months ago
and need to vent.
As you will all be aware our little darlings here are going back to school in a weeks time. Some parents are relieved as they've found the holidays hard work, others are sad to see their children going back to school.Some of us a bit of both! I myself have enjoyed spending some time with all three of my children together; and because my second child is starting in reception next week marking the end of another chapter of his life and starting a new one.
Anyway my rant is that a friend (not a great friend but none the less a so called friend) has just really wound me up. She herself has a daughter who is 3 and she has decided she is going to home-school her. I personally have had my own thoughts about this decision of hers but have never interfeared with what she wants to do, as even though I don't share her views I don't feel it's my place to offend her or dictate. HOWEVER, now that I have just expressed a little sadness over saying good bye to my little boy going off to school next week; and so leaving me with only one of my three at home my friend has been quite hurtful and bloody rude! Basically that it's my fault, I'm sending my kids to school, she's not so I'm not allowed to feel sadness as I should be doing the same as she wants and home schooling otherwise I've got no right to be sad about 'letting go' of my little ones. At this point I still held my tongue over my thoughts on her 'home schooling', out of respect for her beliefs even though I felt ready to explode. I know home schooling would not be the best thing for my children; not socially, academically or in terms of the kind of stimulation they need. I simply expressed a basic feeling about school starting again and got shot down, I feel in a nasty and narrow minded way by someone I wouldn't have treated this way!
RAHHHHH vent over!!


SamuelSamuel
posted 7 years 10 months ago
Firstly, you need a chocolate bar.

I don't feel sad about Mike's going back to school this September, but thats because he chose to go to school, it isn't something we have chosen for him, if that makes sense. Just as Jamie wants to be home schooled, so he is.

GTTkelGTTkel
posted 7 years 10 months ago
Haha Samuel chocolate does sound good! My children are excited about going to school. My girly is going into year three and looking forward to seeing her friends; and my little man is feeling quite important and happy that he's a 'big boy now' going to school. For my children I am quite sure it is well and truely the best; and I have never said anything negative to my friend about her choosing home schooling for her daughter even though it's not what I have chosen myself. I just felt quite resentful that she expected understanding from me but didn't give it back.
Anyway I'm feeling ok again today and just think I wont converse with her again over this subject. It's interesting though that you say your children are being schooled in the way they each want and have chosen; I really don't believe that my friend's 3 year old daughter has chosen or even thought about this. If I'm honest I think the reason my friend is doing it is because she has lost both her parents over the past two years and wants to keep her daughter at home with her as some source of comfort or companionship if that makes sense.
Well we all have our beliefs don't we. Anyway calmer now Smile

SamuelSamuel
posted 7 years 10 months ago
Save loads of money as we don't have to buy Jamie uniform!

Do you ask your children if they want to go to school? When the holidays begin Mike's cries because he wants to go to school...he used to cry every weekend at first, haha makes it look like we beat him at home!

GTTkelGTTkel
posted 7 years 10 months ago
My girl does miss it when she's not there. She loves the idea of a school holiday to begin with as she can stay at nanny's for the night and go out for days etc. But I have known her to cry because she misses it; and she will often play 'schools' at home and in the game she includes people from her school and work she has done at school. She will include her little brother and will pretand the teacher in the game has her real teacher's name etc. She really does love it. She sometimes says she wants to be a teacher when she grows up (although she also tells me she'd like to be a princess).
I have spoken to my little boy about school just to make sure he's not anxious about starting and surprisingly he seems to be really looking forward to it. He keeps wanting to play with his book bag and new school things and is sporting a mini ruck sack when we go out at the minute in which he carries his drink bottle, bless him Smile

candgsmumcandgsmum
posted 7 years 10 months ago
I haven't the intelligence or patience to home school my two! They both love school, but the jury's out at the moment whether I've sent them to the right one but that's another story...

Anyway, you can feel sad about your little one moving on, whether taught at school or not. Maybe she's just wanting to make herself feel better about her decision to home school by shooting you down?

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