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caught my son masturbating

posted 1 decade 4 years ago
i walked in on my son masturbating. the thing that unnerves me is that is videos of women giving birth and breastfeeding . should i say or do anything and is this normal?

posted 1 decade 4 years ago
Trying confronting him about it. but its upto you at the end of the day. its your call.

posted 1 decade 3 years ago
It is natural - give him some privacy

posted 1 decade 3 years ago
I agree it's natural. Giving him privacy is the way to go.

posted 1 decade 3 years ago
As a mum of 4 boys, my advice would be to leave him to it. It's completely normal for him - and girls, as I will be telling my daughter if she does it.
I would mention to the child that it is only ok in his/her room and is not acceptable to do this anywhere else.
I hope all goes well. Smile

posted 9 years 6 months ago
Dont just be worried or dont be just afraid of the situations , his father should be come in to action and help in the situation. Try spend some family time with him . If he feels that he is alone and he has some time then he starts searching that kinds of images or videos over the internet .

posted 6 years 9 months ago
First, I would like to feel for you because of what your son is doing. Watching videos of mothers giving birth and breastfeeding indicates that the boy is maladjusted and needs urgent counseling. However, before we go there, I would like to know how old the boy is. If he is past 18 years, then I would reserve my comments. You see boys at this age are experiencing a lot of challenges. The male instinct in them tells them that they should start making love. Unfortunately, they are too shy to seduce girls. So they resort to methods such as masturbating to reduce tension. Masturbating is a learned behavior, and I am sure that with proper counseling, the boy should be able to control himself and stop the behavior altogether. However, if your boy is below 15 years, then I blame his upbringing. Allowing him to watch those videos is a mistake, and you will pay for it. Talk to the boy and let him know that what he is doing is not right.

posted 5 years 11 months ago
Hello parentof13ye,
I am shocked to learn that your boy was masturbating using pictures of pregnant and breastfeeding mothers. It shows how the society is degenerating and if we do not take urgent measures, we may not have a society. On the other hand, I tend to think that the problem is parenting. This is something that is despicable and which you should not condone. In fact, if I were you I would punish the boy so severely. I would make him understand that what he was doing was wrong and it must attract severe punishment. I concur with one of the contributors that the boy may be too shy to talk to girls. But again, think about why he is using pregnant women and breastfeeding mothers? To me, this boy is getting maladjusted. That he is admiring pregnant women and breastfeeding mothers and not girls. What could explain this? I think the only logical explanation of why he is using breastfeeding mother’s images is that it excites him since he is able to observe (sic). It helps him reach orgasm faster. Now the reason why he is choosing images of pregnant women is that he imagines how the woman become pregnant and so it excites him. However, this is unacceptable and I wish to state here that you need to sit your boy down. If he cannot listen to you, I would advise that you punish him severely. After the punishment, get him a counselor to explain to him why what he is doing is not right

posted 5 years 3 months ago
I think that is just natural for boys, they have their own preference. I suggest to just leave him alone as long as he only do it in his room. Teenagers are more engage with this kind of thing because they are still discovering themselves.

posted 4 years 9 months ago
I don't think that treating this as smth abnormal will help. Just let it be and better knock next time.

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