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2 year old hittng - Not a temper tantrum?

posted 1 decade 4 years ago
I need help! My little boy is two in May, and he is constantly hitting people, but he's not frustrated or screaming, or even crying, sometimes he even smiles while doing it!!! I'm really worried about it and how to stop, we use the naughty spot, but it doesnt seem to make any difference to him, he will just come back and hit someone else!

Any advice, anybody been through this?

posted 1 decade 4 years ago
I know its not quite the same, but my son went through a stage of biting at that age, especially if there were people he didn't know very well in the room, he would get embarressed and turn round and act as if he was going to give him a cuddle, then sink his teeth in. largely the threat of the naughty step worked, but I also tried to get him to see it from other peoples point of view.asking him how he would like it if we all started biting him etc etc (maybe you've already tried this) I was told that biting was a way of acting when they couldn't get a sense of frustration across verbally, maybe this is the same with hitting? hope you have some success soon x

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posted 1 decade 4 years ago
Pick a consequence(naughty spot or similar) and follow it through every time. With hitting I gave no warning and he was put straight on it with a stern warning that the behaviour was unacceptable. he got 1 minute for every year of his life and I always got an apology BEFORE he got off, no apology- another 2minutes (or however old he was) on the step. If he got off during the time out he was put back on it and I never spoke to him. I found a spot easier than a step becuase it can be anywhere that I am.... toddlers, the kitchen, I even put him on it in tescos once (just sat him on the floor, at the side for his time)

Good luck.xx

posted 1 decade 4 years ago
I agree, with the idea of a spot rather than a step or a seat. I can basically sit my Son down where he stands and that is his naughty step' and it works.

posted 1 decade 4 years ago
You need a consequence for the behavior, something he isn't going to like as stated already. Also remember it is a faze, he will grow out of it particularly if you show him it is wrong every time he does it. I often find my two will hit when they are tired and self control goes out of the window.

posted 1 decade 4 years ago
My Granddaughter is only 15 months and she has started having terrible tantrums already! She smacks quite a lot, but I think it's because she cannot verbalize properly yet. The important thing is if you remain in control, consistent and firm without shouting every time she has a tantrum, your child will begin to see that you are not phased by his/her behaviour. So whatever strategy you decide to use, try being consistent with it. My problem is that my daughter is very young and won't listen to any advice I give her, so I can only do this when my granddaughter is with me and she has a tantrum. However it seems to work so good luck!

Kind Regards

posted 1 decade 3 years ago
My little boy went through this stage at just under 2 years, he stopped after a couple of months

posted 1 decade 2 years ago
My little boy who is also 2 does this constantly at the moment - but he seems to be very angry hitting biting kicking and screaming its really exhausting.... I am not sure where he gets it from as I have never so much as raised a hand to him altho must admit felt like it a few times - he seems to relish doing this in the most public of places and its becoming so embarrassing as other people look at me as if to say "control your child" he is just horrible at times. That said he can go from that to being the perfect child in 60 seconds flat?!!

I have an older son who is 6 and pregnant with my 3rd and am struggling to cope with him at times - I dont remember my oldest son ever behaving like this...

I can offer no words of wisdom but I use the naughty spot/step and find that ignoring the behaviour works best as it feels like he is looking for a contfrontation so I dont give in to him and I ignore it - he always eventually (sometimes after several hours) comes round... its just difficult in public places cos you have no option sometimes but to deal with it before he has calmed down... one time in the supermarket he sunk his teeth so hard into my arm whilst I was holding his hand that he drew blood...

posted 1 decade 2 years ago
I agree with the consequence for his behavior. If something happens he doesn't like, he will soon stop.

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