Am all over the place today
James rang me yesterday evening to say that he couldn't get hold of his dad to bring him over which annoyed me even more. I sent a t ext to his dad saying that if they couldn't get him to school or back over here when he was due back then he wouldn't be staying there during the week as a result. Had no reply.
This morning James rang me at 7.45 to say that he, his nan and his 2 cousins that live with their nan had all come down with a tummy bug. After fuming over this new revelation, when I eventually calmed down I texted his dad again and said that it would be best if both James and Gemma stay with me this weekend so as to avoid them being subjected to the bug and thus passing it on to me as the baby is due tomorrow and I will be going in for a c-section next thursday if I haven't gone into labour in the meantime. James somehow got the wrong end of the stick and thought that I was going to stop him coming over on the weekends as well as the tuesday, he rang me at 1.30pm saying that if he couldn't stay over on the weekends he wanted to move in with his dad. By this point I felt like I could end up in hospital if this went on much more, with my blood pressure being the way it is despite taking tablets to stabilise it I can still develop pre-eclampsia.
I went up to his nan's and put them straight on what I had said and confronted James on why it was that he had decided that he didn't want to live with us anymore. His dad has regular weekly access to him and his sister, I have never stopped either of them. Turns out that James doesn't like his school any more and wants to move back to the one that he was in last september. He couldn't give any other reason. What annoys me is that he is very much a loved and cared for child, never been neglected unlike his cousins- their mother doesn't even bother with them and was actually going to put them into care if their nan didn't have them. She knows I am not like their mother in any way, shape or form- I know that he's at that age where he thinks he knows it all and I can kind of see how this has come about given that the last few years have been quite a challenge to him at home as well as school, it just hurts that he felt this was the best option for him. I personally don't think this will be a long-term thing and that the novelty will soon wear off, but I have to respect his decision and let him find out for himself.
Feels so weird that as we welcome our new baby, my 1st baby will be preparing to move out. Can't believe I'm actually typing this, as I read it I'm thinking "Why?"
I have told him that I want him over with us every weekend as a condition of me agreeing to this and also that he should be with us next week so he's here when his new brother or sister arrives. Already I wonder how the hell I'm going to get through this.