Feeling really down and could do with some advice!!!!

Hi, I've just signed up to this website as it's now been 8 months since my husband and I have been trying to conceive and....nothing!!!
My period was three days late this month which meant that I'd already completely convinced myself that I was pregnant!!! Not to mention the fact that I really didn't feel like I was going to come on, I've had continual headaches (which is not normal for me) and I've been more tired than usual.

However today the dreaded thing has occured and once again it would turn out that I'm not pregnant!

I feel so upset! I know that so many people wait for years and have real problems trying to conceive..so I know that in the grand scheme of things 8 months isn't anything...but it's just so difficult! My husband is so supportive and picks me up every month...but I know how hard it is for him too! Since trying to have a baby I have officially decided that I'm most definately IMPATIENT!!!!

I would really appreciated any kind words from people in the same boat or from those lucky ones that are on the other side but still remember how heart wrenching this whole process is!!!

Aww hun. Firstly welcome to the site I am Mandy, mum to a 3yr old DD and a 1yr old DS.
Sorry it seems to be taking a while for you to get that BFP, as you say in your post though hun 8mths really is nothing in the scheme of things. It is perfectly normal for a couple to take a year or more to conceive. I know it is easy for me to say and i'm sure it must be sooo frustrating when you come on every month but fingers crossed you will get there soon. Stress and worry are some of the worst things going when TTC. It can cause all sorts of symptoms and even stop you ovulating. I would try and have a few romantic evenings, make it fun and not all about making a baby. Relaxing in quite often the key! I have my fingers crossed it happens for you soon hun. Good luck. I am sure we will speak again soon. Xx

Hi Swalk,

I cant really give you any advice but just wanted to say i know what your going through and how hard it is! Im trying not to focus on it too much though and trying to forget about it then im hopin it will happen when i least expect it! I hope it happens soon xxx

Recently I found a brilliant website offering awesome ideas and products to conceive. We bought few ovulation strips and once we knew the most fertile day it was all easy. Today I am 4 months pregnant and we are so well looking forward to holding our bundle of joy in another 5 months time.

If you think going to a doctor could be embarrassing then why look any further when the test can be done at home. The same test is used by NHS all over in UK.

Few of the main products I have noticed on 'mothersbliss com' website are following with a FREE delivery .

Female Fertility Test- 6.25
Male Fertility Test – 18.50
Ovulation Strip Test – 0.30 p
Pregnancy Strip Test – 0.35p

Also the Natal Hypnotherapy cd seems to be a good try.
Good luck with baby shower on you. Hope 2009 brings good news for you !

It took 11 months with my son so don't worry, it's not just you (although I know it does feel that way).

It does happen when you least excpect it I had become focused on losing some weight and getting into the gym as I'd been asked to be head bridesmaid at my best mates wedding so I wanted to shift some pounds and get healthier...LO and behold I fall on within a couple of months lol!! I had my son 2 1/2 weeks before my friend was married My friend was a little upset when I first told her I was expecting as we thought I'd miss her wedding and she had warned me that I would end up pregnant but i brushed her off reckonning it wouldn't happen!

Chin up and best of luck

Hey, don't worry. It took me 2 years. Candgsmum is right. You are not alone. It does feel that way. I'd advise to just lower your expectations. When you least expect it, that is when the miracles happen. Wishing you good luck!

Hey! I am sorry for you. It is a frustrating situation. I am well aware of this. I also had many complications during the first year. I went to TTC for one whole year. There were ups and downs. But you should not give up. There is always a hope. Wishing you the best of luck!

Hi, my dear!
Sorry for that! I know it can be upsetting especially when you believe that you are pregnant only to discover that you are not. It can be frustrating and worrisome. However, when you continue worrying, you make it difficult and hard to conceive. For your information, when you are stressed up and worrying about something, it becomes difficult to conceive. This is why I would like you to assume that nothing is amiss and continue with your life. I thank God that you are aware of women who are finding it difficult to conceive, but they have not lost hope. I am sure things will work for you. The only thing that you need to do is to remain focused and continue TTC. About the headache and feeling tired, it sometimes happens especially when one becomes anxious. I guess you are so much engrossed in conceiving that it is having a toll on you. I would recommend that you try to take in a lot of water, feel relaxed. You may also consider consulting a physician to establish if there is any other cause of the problem. Lastly, I would advise you to consult your dietician so that he can recommend the special foods that you must eat if you are TTC. Also, remember to exercise but don’t over exercise because too much exercise could also make it difficult for you to conceive.

Hey honey. Don't give up. I know what you're going through. 8 months isn't that short a time. Your impatience is understandable. However, you must try to remain calm. This worry isn't helping matters. Have you considered going to a doctor? Maybe that will help you understand your situation better. There might be something preventing you from conceiving. The sooner you know, the sooner you can go about fixing it. However, I don't mean to imply that there is definitely something wrong. It could just be a coincidence. I hope things work out well for you. Good luck!