midwifes and doctors

i just wondered what sort of experiences you had with the doctors and midwifes while you were in hospital before and after having your children. Because when i had my first born 3 yrs ago all the midwife and doctors was lovely with me. But when i had my second child it was the most horrible experience i have ever had so i was petrefied about going in to hospital to have my third but as it come it wasnt as bad but still not very pleasent.

i hated mu first she was a cow and then the midwife i had with my secon was amazing i will never forget her then i had the same one for my last too and she was ok if u caught her right but up on the ward there were some but i guess all r different
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Ive had 2 pregnancys and they both were aweful experience, please refer to petition http://www.gopetition.com/online/11666.html

I will try and sue their off because still to this day im having nightmares, flashbacks and seem to drift off into trances i cant get out of.
Its fair to say my brains truely up.

I have tried counciling, anti depressants and nothing is working.

No one seems to be sorry either, thats the worst part of it.

No one even noticed in the hospital 29/11/2004 how i hated my baby - i even wanted him dead
And for those feeling ill never forget and never ever ever forgive myself.
After a week had passed i realised what had happened wasnt his fault at all, it was lack of midwifery support - i eventually kissed my boy and finally fell in love with my son.

I could go on for hours telling you how and what the nhs have done to me, but i cant because ive just started to cry - cant see out and im bloody sure if i cry over the pc ill blow up lol!!

Hope this hasnt scared you, i believe what happened to me was in some ways pretty common but in other situations is not (does that make sense) ?

Anyway take care xx

the problem ive had is that they didnt believe me when i told them i was in labour. i have 3 kids and with all of them ive had labour in my back. dont feel my tummy contracting just a blooming horrible pain in my back. with jami i was told it could be a water infection. she was born 4hrs later. with catherine i was told to go home and have a bath. she was born 3hrs later and with ben they wanted me to go to scarborough hospital (cause im a big girl) in an ambulance which was half hour away. he was born 50mins later. glad i didnt go lol

imakeboys said:
Ive had 2 pregnancys and they both were aweful experience, please refer to petition http://www.gopetition.com/online/11666.html

I will try and sue their off because still to this day im having nightmares, flashbacks and seem to drift off into trances i cant get out of.
Its fair to say my brains truely up.

I have tried counciling, anti depressants and nothing is working.

No one seems to be sorry either, thats the worst part of it.

No one even noticed in the hospital 29/11/2004 how i hated my baby - i even wanted him dead
And for those feeling ill never forget and never ever ever forgive myself.
After a week had passed i realised what had happened wasnt his fault at all, it was lack of midwifery support - i eventually kissed my boy and finally fell in love with my son.

I could go on for hours telling you how and what the nhs have done to me, but i cant because ive just started to cry - cant see out and im bloody sure if i cry over the pc ill blow up lol!!

Hope this hasnt scared you, i believe what happened to me was in some ways pretty common but in other situations is not (does that make sense) ?

Anyway take care xx

hi there hunni i am really sorry to here about your bad experience and im really sorry i made you cry. i had a simalar experience myself with my second child if you ever want to chat about it send me a message. xxx ps i have also signed your petition

i had my hips cracked out of place - i am disabled and they, in their words 'didnt realise,soz' (chav nurse) i now have to have metal 'mushrooms' fitted into my hips instead of cracked, worn balls.... ho humm... im going private for the next one

Hi well I was induced on the 22nd january which was ok but the midwive couldnt put a drip in. She couldnt find a vein and got another midwive to do it. Otherwise she was really good through my labour and when I gave birth.
Well the worse time of it was when I was in the ward after I had the baby. The baby kept me up all night and was walking up and down to calm the baby. I went outside and saw a midwive sitting down feeding someones baby but cant remember what happened though think I said to her i am trying to get baby asleep. He was not latching on to the breast aswell. Well this midwive told me go lie down and come and see you soon. Then she took ages to come by and when she did she put the bed in this position with the bars up next to me. She told me feed the baby lying down and when you both fall asleep I will put the baby in the his cot.
So I couldnt sleep most of the night as i was worried that I would roll over and squash the baby. I was so annoyed at this woman. I was ok in the morning my BF came and had the baby but I told some woman and she said thats what night staff are like. Couldnt believe it though and she said stop walking up and down you will hurt your back. I couldnt settle him. They say midwices are they to help but they dont.
My first baby was stillborn so never got the chance to any feeding etc. so with my second baby it was my first time feeding a baby doing all the rest. yeah the hospital food was not that nice either. Toast in the morning was cold. Apart from that everything was ok.

imakeboys said:


No one even noticed in the hospital 29/11/2004 how i hated my baby - i even wanted him dead
And for those feeling ill never forget and never ever ever forgive myself.
After a week had passed i realised what had happened wasnt his fault at all, it was lack of midwifery support - i eventually kissed my boy and finally fell in love with my son.

You said it yourself you fell in love with your son, so why are you beating yourself up about how you FELT (in the past) when you were a rollercoaster of hormones and emotions? It wasn't something you could control.

My daughter was born blind with a hole in her heart and when she was very very ill in the ICU i wished she would just die cos i couldnt' imagine how life would be for her or us because of her blindness.......im not ashamed that i felt that cos i was in a very very bad dark place and though yes its a horrible thing to have thought,but i refuse to feel guilty for something i couldn't control at the time - its done, over with and i love her to bits. You can't keep punishing yourself for how you felt, you love your son now end of story.

I had nice midwives during my pregnancies,my only complaint would be that I'd often see different ones and I expected there to be more continuety. For both births the midwives I had were great and really supportive and kind. There was one mega moody on the ward after my first but the rest were great