my ten mnth old baby wont sleep at night

hey all,

im new to this site so just abit lost on it at the mo oops!..hope all the parents are doing good...

i have a 10 month old boy and we're having a little trouble he used to sleep soo well but since july/aug hes been getting up every night sometimes he'll settle no problem and sometimes i have to take him out the cot and settle him but lately ive been soooo damn tired that im taking him into bed with mee just so that i can get some kip and its been happening almost every night i really don want to be taking him in the bed but im that tired i really dont know what to do..my partner doesnt mind but i do i feel lik im kinda failing and its really got me upset ..any advice? also does anybody co-sleep with their child if so how does it work for you

is he teething? this could be unsettling him.

I didnt co-sleep i beleive that children should be in their own beds, but my son whos 14 and cant get him out of bed these days often came into bed with us as he used to get unsettled at night, my DH used to just bring him in bed with us, id often wake up and find him in there!!!

But my suggestion is just to put him back to bed when he wakes and keep going till he settles.

If you like co-sleeping them its up to you when you put himback into his own bed but i wouldnt leave it too long

Firstly hun, Welcome to JP I am Mandy, mum to Lauren 3 in Jan and Jake coming up 10mth. Secondly, Please don't think of yourself as a failure. Every family life and child is different and what works for you may not work for others and vice-versa. If it is working having him in your bed that is fine! I personally haven't co-slept. My 10mth old has recently been very unsettled too as he has been teething and he is also going through that clingy stage where he cries every time he can't see me lol He only cat naps in the day too so i know how tirying it can be and how tempting it is to put baby in your bed ( I have done it myself a few times!)

However if it is really an issue for you and you don't want him to get into the habit then i would say perseverance really is the only way. When he cries (and won't settle) pick him up, comfort him and when he is quiet again, put him ack in his cot. Use very minimum noise (ie talking etc) as this will just engage him. This can take a while but i found it worth it in the end. If you continue putting him in your bed every night, you may find the original reason he was unsettled for goes but he is still waking because it has become a habit to wake and be put into bed with you?

I hope you find a solution that works for you hun. It really isn't easy. Stick to what you feel is right to suit your family! Xx

I agree, maybe you jut wait until he settles and feels comfortable. Just a have patience when comes to kids.

hey thanks for you replies im going to continue to perserver..hes not been too bad the past couple nights, but i think the stress of motherhood is getting to me, hes teething so hes soo cranky and wont eat anything, i know i need to be patient but im not a very patient person so that doesnt help.