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Driving me insane!

DanielleDanielle
posted 1 decade 1 year ago
I love my little lad to bits, but for some unknown reason he's just driving me insane today Sad

I acknowledge he has toothache and give him medicine to help him, but he's so whiny - He's shouting at the X Box and back chatting and being picky and more demanding.

He's really shouting out loud, and it's getting beyond the joke.

Roll on bedtime, just haven't enjoyed him today. Sad

Danielle x


gemmagemma
posted 1 decade 1 year ago
Hug i don't envy you at all

i have a 11 yr old step son and he has times like that, nothing will do, rolling his eyes all day Frustrated what scares me is chances are its only going to get worse Scared

Atleast he's back at school in the morning Smile

DanielleDanielle
posted 1 decade 1 year ago
My little one has Asperger's Syndrome. He has it quite bad, bless him.

He was up at 5am this morning, I hope I don't have another day like it Sad

Danielle x

bunnigirlbunnigirl
posted 1 decade 1 year ago
ahh bless ya hunni
i dont no what that is but i am guessing u have bad days and good days
hope u have more good than bad
just wanted to say thinking of u
xxxx

DanielleDanielle
posted 1 decade 1 year ago
Last edited by Danielle 1 decade 1 year ago
Aye Bunni,

Asperger's Syndrome is Social and Communication difficulties.

My son has to have a routine if it is broken he gets very distressed.

He needs assistance at 9 with bathing and dressing.

He smells his food before eating it.

You have to give very simple and clear instructions, if he doesn't understand, he will be confused and frustrated.

He has no friends - While his peers can talk effectively, he doesn't understand what they're saying and they think he's a freak. Not his peers fault, they don't understand.

He has fixations, which he can have one over a month - He will constantly ask about his fixation all the time he is awake.

He can wake up in the middle of the night and be hyperactive for up to 3 hours. He is unaware of day/night. No matter what time he goes to bed or even if he wakes, he's up at 5am each morning on the dot.

He is very unaware of danger.

He has poor concentration span.

He has no motor skills.

His sensory skills are poor. He has an intense fear of large buildings, and loud noises. When we use to take him to kids play areas, he would cry and shake and refuse to go into a building.

He's hard work, but he's still my baby.

Danielle x

bunnigirlbunnigirl
posted 1 decade 1 year ago
less huni i bet he is hard work sometimes but he sounds amazing and rally loving hun i bet u r so proud of him i no hes ur baby and i no u love just as much as if he didnt have his problem it doesnt matter what he has does it he is urs i would still love my kids the same way no matter what
hope all is ok will ur family
xxx

WitchyPooWitchyPoo
posted 1 decade 1 year ago

Danielle said:


He's hard work, but he's still my baby.

Danielle x


Im a beaver scout leader and have had 2 boys with Aspergers, and I'm due to have another boy enroll. I found that, though they could be hard work they were very rewarding kids Smile

DanielleDanielle
posted 1 decade 1 year ago
Hi Witchy,

I sent my lad to Beaver's, and they didn't know how to cope with him, had to remove him. Sad

I sent him to Football, and they asked me to take him out, they couldn't cope with him.

What does he do? Where does he go?

Danielle x

WitchyPooWitchyPoo
posted 1 decade 1 year ago
awww hon, im sorry to hear that he was removed.....i can see things from both sides, as my daughter has special needs too, shes blind, so i see things from a parents point of view and a leaders too.

I have found that communication is the key to deal with the boys i have had, and being taught *how* to handle them and what to honestly expect so i could deal with them.

The little boy who is about to join us really suprised me the other week, his mum came to take pics of us to get him used to the idea of *us*, then she brought him along with shoes for the shoe appeal we were running, and only stayed 5 mins, then the plan was she would come in and out as she wanted while i ran the session to let the little boy deal wth us and the noise without feeling he had to stay or join in, last week he joined us for a game, and the craft too! his mum was really surprised - however we are a small group at the moment only 6 other boys.

Did you offer to come into the sessions with your son, to help out with him, were you able to talk to the leader etc etc.

I know all children with aspergers show different *symptoms* for want of a better word, and some are harder to deal with, but i have found that routine within session, and clearly knowing what to expect and how to handle them, helps me, and speaking to them and the parents about what i expect helps them too...

sorry for the waffle!!!!

Is there any other group nearby? the little boy im getting has bi-passed his local group and is coming to me, cos she heard about my group?

sliceslice
posted 1 decade 1 year ago
Hey there,I kind of know how you feel as my son has bad concentration and hyperactive and impulsive,obsesive behaviour, we are having him assesed at the moment and it looks like possible A.D.H.D which is really frustrating and tiring,Josh will also be up at the crack of dawn and hard to settle at night and yes we get to a piont of praying for bed time to come as you cant please him and if he doesnt do somthing to kill himself which most days he has a good try then we are thinking of the best way to do it!!! no no really we love him with all our heart and he is the funniest most loving kid but im just about to turn thirty and my hair is getting greyer by the minute. Josh also is finding i difficult to make friends as they dont want to play with the naughty kid and he cant explain to them that it isnt his fault and he isnt meaning to be naughty he is just bored and un stimmulated. we are in the process of looking at clubs like beavers for Josh but he has not been successful in any other group up till now.Oh well we do worry about them, but im sure they will turn into great men in the long run, hold in there girl and message me any time you need to chat,as it sounds like our boys are similar. xx kel

CathyGCathyG
posted 1 decade 1 year ago
i recently (as part of my employer) volunteered to attend a CV writing & Interview skills training programme for teenage kids with Aspergers. I really didn't know what to expect & was a little nervous. I just wanted to say what great kids they were, to look at them, you wouldn't know they were different, it was only on talking to them that you notice it. They were all so different too, some were quite severe & could barely hold a conversation, some were really chatty & funny & great personalities. I was so impressed with them all & felt the whole experience very worthwhile. these kids all went to a special unit within a local school so their needs were well catered for. I hope that there is somewhere your child can attend to make him feel he can fit in. Sending you lots of hugs & support.X

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