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Jealousy among siblings

posted 1 decade 5 years ago
My oldest son has been showing lots of signs of jealousy lately. I have been trying to include him in on alot of different things to do with the baby but it doesnt seem to be helping! Any advice?

posted 1 decade 5 years ago
hi mabe try to see if ur son might feed his brother or play with him my son didnt actaully pay any attention to his sister till she started to walk i was told to give the older one more attention when my daughter was young because its true babies are reasnably content most of the time and when your baby is getting older he will learn from his brother most things.

posted 1 decade 5 years ago
I've heard of these things alot. It seems once another baby comes along the older child has a hard time with the realization that the wolrd does not revolve around them. What he needs is some one on one time with you to so he doesn't feel like your playing favourites.
It's good that your including him with baby time and your encouraging to help out. Just remember that he's a sibling and not a babysitter/child carer. A mistake some multi child families do. (Not everyone, just some.)

posted 1 decade 5 years ago
Well firstly hun, i think all parents of more than 1 child have experienced this to some degree, so you are not alone! Sounds like you are doing everything right. It does take time for the older child to accept a new baby. Having one to one time with your eldest child is a good idea but i realise this isn't always possible! If your older child sleeps at a different time than your younger then try and do something with the older child when the LO is asleep. What does he really like doing? Painting? Drawing? puzzles? Stories? etc. Keep including your eldest with the baby things like helping get a nappy or helping to bath etc. Only if your DS wants to help though, don't force him to be involved or he may start to begrudge the LO even more? Basically hun, just keep doing what you are doing. I'm sure you are doing a great job! Very happy Xx

posted 1 decade 5 years ago
Charlotte was very jealous of her brother to begin with. She seemed to get a little better, then he started to get to her toys and we had the jealousy again. Don't worry too much it's a natural thing for your LO to experience.

We used to reward her if she 'shared'. Something we found helped, was if she had a biscuit/piece of fruit ect, we would give her one, then say, 'one for George' so she could practise her sharing, she would go and give him it, and vice versa as George got older.

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