Finding out the sex....dilemma

With Georgia-Mae we both wanted the surprise and it really was the best feeling in the world! (even if we wanted to find out the sex the hospital would not tell us anyway - their policy something to do with ethnicity)

This time Mark has said he'd like us to find out and a few weeks ago i agreed. However i know feel like i'd still like the surprise with bump!

We are pretty set on names (first names atleast) and it would just feel as if most of the excitement and suspense is taken away.

A mum in the playground the other day had everyone calling her bump him and by the name she had chosen and it all seemed a little weird to me!

I'm only 16 weeks and have a number of weeks until the san - did anyone else feel the same?

i wanted to know the 1st time as it was all so new

this time i would have left it but DH wanted to know so i was happy to find out


i like to plan - knowing the sex is great for picking up clothes and stuff if peple are passing things on

you can use it to save heaps of dosh

you dont have to tell anyone - except us

if anyone asks just say we dont know the sex

First time round we both didnt want to know and it was such a wonderful feeling when she was born! In two minds for next one though i dont think i would tell anyone else what i was having if i did find out.
I think at the end it is just so wonderful to meet them even if you do know the sex of the baby.

This is just a personal opinion hun, but for me. I really didn't want to know either way. I felt there are so few real surprises in life that i didn't want to spoil such a fantastic one! I can totally understand why some people want to know. Planning etc. However the feeling of giving birth and finding out what flavour we had after all that hard work was like nothing else i've ever known. It also gave me something to focus on during the labour. Near the end of my pregnancies i was dying to know but i am so glad i waited. I just feel that some of the fun would have been taken out of it for me? DF wasn't that pleased at first as he was desperate to know but after the labours he said he was so pleased not to have found out earlier. I realise whether you know or not it is still the most fantastic feeling in the world and something you will never forget. I guess i am just the kind of gal that loves surprises? Xx

Just remember that the scans can be wrong, my boy was meant to be a girl when we had the scan at 24 weeks....wrong! so it was still a suprise I can tell you!

We did finde out and it is going to be a boy. But we have to see, like Rich did say David should have been a girl. We have names for a boy and a girls so

I asked at my 24 week scan but my mum butted in and said yes its a surprise and the MW listened to her!! Im glad though that I didnt find out because i made the birth more exciting wondering what I had had. If I ever find the man and have any more kids I would go for the surprise again (if he was in agreement)

I stocked up on many neutral coloured baby grows and outfits and when Joseph was born I got so many blue suits it was fine.

But it is really up to you and hubby.

Hmmmn yep you see i am not into all this 'stocking up in the right colour' for baby!

Mark has said if i want a surprise then sop be it - although i think it's upset him a little!

I might change my mind before then - but as you say they do not always get it right.

My younger sister was supposedly a boy - bless her! xx

I found at with both my boys as I was in such a pickle over names,people kept offering clothes as well and couldnt say yes or no to things,I also think it helped me bond and prepare for the boys arrival,but its such a personal choice,am not sure if next time I would want to know but think I would as have sooooooo many boys things would want to know if I should keep them etc,

Just go with neutral colours, greens, yellows and whites etc, that way, either way, you are safe

JOJO said:
I found at with both my boys as I was in such a pickle over names,people kept offering clothes as well and couldnt say yes or no to things,I also think it helped me bond and prepare for the boys arrival,but its such a personal choice,am not sure if next time I would want to know but think I would as have sooooooo many boys things would want to know if I should keep them etc,

also I just knew deep down mine where boys and wanted to be proved right lol

its still a surprise when you find out

its just i found out at 20 weeks and not 40 weeks

yep its defo a surprise whenever you find out,I am just too bloomin nosey

My problem is being indecisive!!!

I wasn't interested when I had Jas as we decided to just wait and see so bought everything in neutral colours beforehand. All the little pink dresses and cute girlie stuff arrived with visitors at the hospital and afterwards. Mind you, we had to go shopping ourselves quickly as she was also premature so everything we bought for 'new baby' was far too big!

This time we decided to find out and know we are having a girl. We therefore refer to her by her name and I have felt that it's already created a great bond before she's been born. All my friends call her by name too so it's nice when we are talking about her rather than 'the baby'. The hospital won't say sex unless they are 90%+ positive so we are pretty sure. I also asked them how they told which sex it was so I could get a second look and it explained (I saw the first time but wanted to be sure!).

Whichever way you go, it's a nice surprise, whether it's an early surprise or on the day

When we had Charlotte we had a nice surprise TBH though the mw's had to ask us if we wanted to know what sex we'd had because we were both just like 'Wow it's a baby' haha!! I wanted to wait until the birth because it gave me something to aim for.

We found out what flavour we were having with George because we needed to know whether to keep Charlottes clothes, although we painted a couple of walls blue and got blue stuff we still had a girls name just in case. But I did find it nice to bond with 'him' already and call him George while he was in my belly

We didnt find out the first time around as we wanted to be suprised but i knew it was a boy i was so sure that i went ahead and brought blue blankets and grow suits etc.The second time around we found out what we were having as i wanted to be prepared (having a girl would have shocked us both)im such a tom boy and i always wanted two boys

i didnt find out what my girl was. I thought it was nice to have a bit of a bantter with husband over what sex she was and i was right.

We actually did a game where family and friends guess date weight and sex closest won ( which was candgsmum). I think it is personal prefrance but i do agree that it is nice to have a suprise.

Before I ever became pregnant I thought I'd always want to be surprised.... as soon as I found out I was pregnant I wanted to know right away LOL... but the little stinker wouldn't let me see anyway.... I knew it though, had to be a girl to be that stubborn and she still is!!

Good luck with your dilemma hun!

I didn't find out on James, found out on Gem. We are both in agreement (at the moment!) that we want to wait 'til Baby arrives. I have seen some lovely neutral clothes, think I will pick up a blue and a pink blanket to take to hospital and take back the 1 we don't need!!