A question for the Dads....

Ok, if you drove over 8 hours to spend some precious time with your child, let's say you arrived Friday evening and were going to leave Monday morning to head back.... would you want to spend all the time you could with your kid or would you want to spend the last night you're there without your kid in the hotel room with just your girlfriend that you live with and see every day????

I'm just curious because that's what I think AARALYN'S DADDY would want to do when he doesn't see her very often as it is.... especially when he was told he could bring her back as early as he wanted to on Monday morning if his reason for not having her sunday night was that they were leaving early..... I just don't get him sometimes, actually most times I know he loves Aaralyn but I really think he has a warped sense of what loving your daughter really is

I'd want to spend as much time with my kids as possible, especially if that sort of drive was involved. I assume if he had her Sunday night he'd take her to school on the Monday morning? That's one of the things I miss most is being able to take the kids to school or go and pick them up (working from home sometimes gave me the flexibility to do that). It's Jack's first day in reception class on Wednesday. I'll be there for that.

I would think considering how little he sees Aaralyn that he would want to spent as much time as possible with her (but maybe not)


Owen, hope Jack has a good first day at school on Wednesday, Joseph started last Tuesday and loves it but he is only in until 12noon until 8th September when he starts full time. He might not be so happy about it then.

deffo see my kid as long as i could or whatevers given to me as a dad. your ex sounds a little bit like mine interested in themselves and what suits them first.. maybe there from the same planet?? i just dont get how anyone who cant see their child(ren) often not grabbing every opportunity and squeezing every last drop of time out of it..

Thanks guys (meaning girls too) I'm glad to see I'm not out of line for thinking he'd want to squeeze all the time in that he could with her right now. I appreciate the effort that he put into coming here and all that and I know that I'm the one that moved her away but I do every thing I can to make sure she can see him somewhat regularly. I just don't understand what makes him tick

the same as MOST men they dont tick they dont have a brain...

It's his loss.

I forgot to add to Owen, she's off school, and doesn't start till Weds full time. I would have even thought he'd take a day off work or school (he goes to nursing school) to take her to school her first day officially... as Ellee said, he just does things that won't inconvenient him too much

Hey guys, 1st post I am going to be making here so just a quick hi before I give my main part of the post so ummm, HI!!!!


Ok, I have a 4 year old and don't see her for a few reasons. Main 1 being the tension between me and my ex which is unfair on mine or her other 2 kids as it feels like we are going to argue at any moment.

From where I live to seeing her it would only be a half hour drive at most and I would do anything to make that drive (including taking my test AGAIN and hopefully passing this time) and would take any time to see her. If I had to drive 8 hours I would definately have her for the entire time I would be allowed to despite having my new partner with me! I really do not understand Dad's like this, correct me if I am wrong but I assume he calls or texts regularly to find out how your daughter is therefore obviously means he loves her and obviously being 8 hours away it must be and understandably be difficult for him to see her on a regular basis therefore why would he waste another night in your area and not have his daughter!

Good luck with how it goes

Richie said:
Hey guys, 1st post I am going to be making here so just a quick hi before I give my main part of the post so ummm, HI!!!!


Ok, I have a 4 year old and don't see her for a few reasons. Main 1 being the tension between me and my ex which is unfair on mine or her other 2 kids as it feels like we are going to argue at any moment.

From where I live to seeing her it would only be a half hour drive at most and I would do anything to make that drive (including taking my test AGAIN and hopefully passing this time) and would take any time to see her. If I had to drive 8 hours I would definately have her for the entire time I would be allowed to despite having my new partner with me! I really do not understand Dad's like this, correct me if I am wrong but I assume he calls or texts regularly to find out how your daughter is therefore obviously means he loves her and obviously being 8 hours away it must be and understandably be difficult for him to see her on a regular basis therefore why would he waste another night in your area and not have his daughter!

Good luck with how it goes

Thanks, he actually doesn't call her on a regular basis, maybe once a week, lately it's been like every two weeks.... I know he loves her, but she's the kind of kid you can't meet and not love so I don't know if he really knows how to love her like a dad should...

His relationship isn't new, they've been together for going on 2 years now and they live together so you would think that spending one night with her in a hotel would not be better than spending it with his daughter... he won't admit that's why and I'm not asking him but why else wouldn't he keep her Sunday night as well??

Well 1 more night can't hurt can it, if he really loved her then surely he would want her for that 1 more night. Don't get me wrong I am not in any way saying he doesn't love her but thing's just don't add up to me. Yeh alrite I aint no angel myself and unfortunatly I do have a rather unpleasent temper sometimes but I would do anything for my kids. I don't like Crystal seeing my temper but as I'm sure you understand it aint easy to keep it under control 100% of the time but still... things don't add up and I think for you it would be better to come out and ask rather than thinking "what if..."

He's just implied that because they are leaving monday morning to drive back to Massachusets that he should bring her home sunday evening, right after dinner he says... I just don't even bother trying to figure him out anymore... honestly I wonder what the hell I saw in him in the first place

Well they do say you learn from your mistakes. And if you don't learn from them you aint ever gonna learn! I've learnt from mine, a couple of relationships gone wrong cos I lost my temper at the wrong moment but eamesy has turned me round mostly which I feel I will always be in forever debt with her for! Anyway, as long as you learnt from the mistake then it's alrite ish. Nothing will ever take the fact that he is the father and no matter how much you may dislike him your daughter will see for herself just how much of an ass he is in her own time, it's just a case of biting your tongue till that moment