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Does anyone else ever feel like they have losed themselves?

TAMSTAMS
posted 9 years 10 months ago
I feel like where have i gone Crying . since when do people stop asking about me or what U think that stuuf? Rather than first question being how is the child?


AlexAlex Moderator
posted 9 years 10 months ago
I remember that (and at the moment I am getting it again because Joseph has started school) I think people ask because they are really interested in the baby and they grow up so fast and their development is HUGE when they are tiny tots and people want to know what they are doing. I don't think people mean to come across like they don't care about you and baby is the centre of the universe, they just don't think.

Say to people when they ask oh she is fine but I fell .............

Hug It does pass but unfortunelty it comes back at landmarks in the child's life.

Hug

SeaThreePeeOSeaThreePeeO
posted 9 years 10 months ago
You are not alone. I too have moments where I feel that in having children I have lost myself. I feel that in looking after the demands of someone else I no longer have the time to do the things that make me, me.

Also sometimes I feel like a spare part when people stop me in the street and just talk about the children.

But that is just what they are, moments and they do pass. But I understand fully how you feel.

Hug

angelsmomangelsmom
posted 9 years 10 months ago
i get that. im getting really bad around my birthday. mines the 12th and caseys 15th so i lose my birthday. i was like a lil brat this year, coz we had her party on the 12th. LOL. and now haydens stole xmas LOL.

it is really bad when they are new born, and if people havent seen you for a while. strangely tho i find people ask about casey before hayden.

hapydazyhapydazy Moderator
posted 9 years 10 months ago
I've occasionally felt/feel like that too, but in so many ways Aaralyn has helped me find myself again too, as strange as that may sound... Sometimes I think my whole point in life was to give birth to her as she has made sooooooo many people happier by her just being in this world Love

I think it's normal to feel like this as I know you are guys are not the only ones who feel this way Hug

TAMSTAMS
posted 9 years 10 months ago

hapydazy said:
Sometimes I think my whole point in life was to give birth to her as she has made sooooooo many people happier by her just being in this world Love


I agreee with this as cassie is first grandchild on both sides plus have two sets of friends who haven't managed to conceive in 10years Crying. Just want to scream at times hello the milk machine is here oops sorry that would be me

mum2popsnjakmum2popsnjak
posted 9 years 10 months ago
Yep you are not alone hun, i think all mums have felt/feel that way sometimes. Straight after you have a baby you just become mum. I don't think i had an intelligent conversation that didn't involve how is she/he sleeping. Is she/he eating ok. blah blah blah. hehe. it does get easier though as the others have said. Xx

jo-jojo-jo
posted 9 years 10 months ago
Hug I know what you mean hun,i remember feeling like that after i had my eldest son,i think i even had a tantrum at my parents for "ignoring me" Embarassed We go through so many hormonal changes before and after pregnancy so i guess its only natural to feel a bit lost during these times.

candgsmumcandgsmum
posted 9 years 10 months ago
Yup sometimes I feel the whole reason for me to be here was to give birth and raise a family LOL. It does pass, but like alex most people are asking if Charlotte is excited about going to big school, and I'll admit I'm a one for asking my friend how her little girl is sometimes before asking her Embarassed

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