Children and name calling....

Last night Aaralyn and I were playing with her stuffed animals and pretending we were "talking" for them back and forth. Well, she was the little doggy and I was one of her stuffed horses ... Aaralyn as the "doggy" asked the "horsey" if she wanted to meet her brothers, "horsey" said yes she loved to make new friends, then the "doggy" said, but my brothers are mean and they call me names like poopy and slimey well, as serious as she was about this it sounded so funny so I tried to be serious and not laugh and... the "horsey" told the "doggy" it wasn't very nice of her brothers to call her names like that. Then Aaralyn (as Aaralyn) looks up and asks me if her and I can talk about something for real, so I said sure what's up.... well, she tells me that Jacob at school calls her mean names like poopy and poophead, so, I asked her if other kids at school call her names and she said no, just Jacob, so I asked her if Jacob calls the other kids mean names at school too and she said she didn't know.

This morning I asked her teacher about it and she said it wasn't just Aaralyn, that he calls all the other kids mean names too, and quietly mumbled that he's not a very nice boy... just then, Jacob and his Dad came in so our conversation ended abruptly.

Last night I just told Aaralyn that sometimes kids can just be mean and call other kids mean names for no good reason. I said when that happens she should just walk away, ignore him and find someone else to play with. I told her not to call him mean names back because that wouldn't be nice either... she said she doesn't, she just tells Mrs Kaupa (her teacher)... that was it, she seemed to be ok with it, but why do even little kids have to be mean... I guess at that age it's just being silly and drawing attention to themselves the best they know how

Heh! kids!

Also, if the name calling is the norm in his home life - it will spill over to school
Does Jacob have older brothers? Parhaps his parents use those terms on him

I'm not sure about older siblings but that was my thought too... when his dad brought him in today he had a little 1-ish year old baby with him.

I hope his parents aren't calling him poopy and poopy head but they may not be discouraging him when he uses those words either. It was hard not to giggle when Aaralyn said her "doggy's" brothers called him poopy and slimy, but the laughing would only encourage that kind of talk so I had to contain it

I think stuff like this comes from a combination of older siblings they hear talk and also television programming... 5 year olds are like sponges and obsorb everything they hear and then interpret it only as their little selves can.... I think that the older sibling influence was apparent a few weeks ago when Aaralyn asked me if she was "hot, ya know, like really pretty" then again, there's a chance I could have used that word around her to describe someone too

Its so hard when they are at school or kindy as you dont know what they hear from others.My DH nephews are 4 and 7 they are really foul mouthed and i can only tell them off if they say something at my place (its normal in their house )they call their mum a f***-b### and dont get told off,their mum just laughs and in return they get called names back.When my DS hears them speaking like this he grabs my arm and wants to go home (which i gladly do)my DS hears his cousins speak like this often and he knows NEVER to repeat these words and that its not ok to use them out of home or in our home.
As you said you just dont know what language is acceptable in their home and unfortunatly kids think its ok and normal to do what their parents do.
Aaralyn is a smart little cookie hun,i think she is a sweety and wouldnt be nasty to anyone.xx

wow, that's horrible to hear your DH's nephews get away with talking to their mother like that and she laughs and does it back that's sad.

Aaralyn does hear adults use bad language sometimes but she never repeats f words or sh@t or points out when people say them, but she will never miss telling me I said a bad word if I say hate or stupid, (or frickin ) I've told her when I'm referring to an object, not a person it's not as bad to say hate or stupid

This kid always seems very quiet when I'm in there, kind of reserved, but maybe that's cuz he's callin my kid poopy head and he's skeered of me tee hee j/k!

This kid always seems very quiet when I'm in there, kind of reserved, but maybe that's cuz he's callin my kid poopy head and he's skeered of me tee hee j/k!


It could be!!! lol
Vic had a boy in his class last year that grabed his neck and left big red marks, he was so polite when ever i saw him,it wasnt untill Vic's kindy teacher told me who did it and other parents were complaining that i believed it was him.

Vic' favourite saying is "ummmmmm you said a bad word. TIME OUT" lol

poor Aaralyn here are some hugs from me

some children can be very nasty. jami suffered quite badly with headlice, which has been clear for 2yrs but still ppl call her 'nithead' and since wearing glasses its 'four eyed freak' which really upsets her.

then there are children as others on here have said it could be normal in their house. a few weeks ago while i was collecting catherine there was a boy playing with a ball that he kicked into the carpark and his dad said to him 'well go and get it you d**khead!!' it really beggars belief.

trouble is that if they see this as the 'norm' then they will use it out and about

my daughters had this since primary school it soon stopped but it started again at high school till i got police involved...kids are so damm cruel for aralyn..

Well, I met Jacob's mom today on the field trip and she seems really nice I guess he just tries to get attention by calling kids mean/silly names. Funny thing, this morning when we were waiting to head out for the field trip, Jacob started to call another kid poopy head, looked up and saw me, and then didn't say it, then he asked me where Aaralyn was as she was on the other side playing with some other kids. She must have told him that I said it wasn't nice of him to call kids names because he was looking like he was feeling very guilty when he realized I was right there to hear him almost call this other kid a poopyhead...... poopyhead... hmf! guess there could be worse things to say

Oh yea, we are also going to Jacob's birthday party tomorrow LOL, had no idea when I RSVP'd that it was this kid... It's a pool party at an indoor pool I'm going to be signing Aaralyn up for swim lessons while we're there!!

I told Charlotte off a while back because she came home saying that a boy in her class had fleas I asked her if she would like it if people went around saying she had fleas, and she said 'no' and explained that if she didn't want people saying things nasty about her she shouldn't say it about others. I haven't heard her saying anything since so fingers crossed she understood.

She is a bossy boots and something we noiced while on holiday she can push other kids around a bit We have tried to make her understand that she needs to treat others the same as she would like to be treated.

When we were in the pool while on holiday she pushed straight infront of everyone for the water slide, Martin had to rush up to make her line up behind everyone else but she then waited pretty patiently for her turn. I noticed that another parent was there but he didn't really want to say anything to her, maybe he was scared we would have a go for telling her to go to the back