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has your relationship changed?

mumof2mumof2
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
has your relationship changed since having your child/children?


mumof2mumof2
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
id say for definate.almost tore us apart having 2 kids 13 months apart but its made us alot stronger as a couple longterm and made us appreciate each other a whole load more

BeckyBecky
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
As I haven't had children yet, I can't really comment on that! But I can imagine how the physical and emotional strain of having two children in such a short space of time would put even the most rock-solid couple to the test! I know quite a few couples whose realtionships weren't strong enough to survive that, which is really sad. The important thing is that you survived it all as a couple and now you have two beautiful children to show for it. Smile

HayleyHayley
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
ours has changed sligthy as we dont have time for each other much now, but we still love each other! Love

EveryRoseEveryRose
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
It has a bit as the kids get in the way LOL

mumof2_jomumof2_jo
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Yes i suppose it has, its a lot more stressful we don't get to do what we want to and money is tight Sad Face
But were still here going strong and there will be lots of time when there older for us to go out and catch up. I think its hard as we had our first so young, so Even thought we wouldn't change a thing we have missed out on alot Embarassed

GTTkelGTTkel
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Initially it changed for the worse and there was so much strain on the relationship. But now it's like I think a proper old married couple are Very happy Kiss

EmilyEmily
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
We have changed, Isabelle is the focus of our world, so everything we do is for her, sometimes it feels like we don't have enough time for each other.

I can't remember what it was like before her though, so can't fully comment!

gemmagemma
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
I can understand completly mumof2. Our 2 are 13m apart too and it has certainly made things hard at times. It feels like we constantly have 1 child each and never have a monents peace.

For a long time too i didn't feel like 'me' i felt to have been pregnant or breastfeeding FOREVER...infact i was for 3 years, on;y stopped feeding last oct! So i think hubby got ignored a bit.

Looking forward to things getting easier...they will won't they???

Having said that i wouldn't change a thing, to watch them running around giggling at each other is really amazing and stupid and i'dlove to ahve another one now so they can all be close in age.....my hubby says NEVER again though.

Gemma

CrazymamaCrazymama
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
A big fat Yes i have changed loads, i had pnd so i runined our marriage but it also tested us we argued alot and i did it all (still do)

staceybstaceyb
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
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i already had jami when i met james. so i dont think its changed us at all as we already had a child in the relationship

StaceStace
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
having theia put extra strain on are relationship at first but lately we've never been so happy Very happy

FfionFfion
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
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i already had the 2kids b4 i met nick, and he know i had 2 kids! hes brill with them, so know it hasnt changed our relationship, it might do when we ahve your own kids, but only time will tell!

LuandTyeLuandTye
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
same here-me and my bloke use to always get drunk have loadsa sex and never argue, now we have seperate lives-he pretty much live downstairs and im wit baby all the time-we argue non stop, i even told him last nite i want to leave him but im not sure coz my baby is only 7 months old so its complicated.

CathyGCathyG
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
things have definately changed & not all for the better (sadly). Me & my hubby have been together 20 years so are used to being a couple. We decided to finally have a baby & love him to bits, but it has put a strain on us. there is no us time really & we don't go out as a couple anymore. we both work & are tired in the evenings/weekends, so find looking after the LO difficult. I think he doesn't do enough, he thinks i don't do enough. Before we did everything together, but now we have to do things separately (e.g house work, gardening, decorating etc). Its a huge adjustment having a baby, but having said that, we wouldn't go turn back. Of course we still love each other & love our new life, but sometimes we get stressed & frustrated.

LuandTyeLuandTye
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
I am really quite down about my relationship. my bloke loves online poker and ever since we got computer he on it from the moment he get back from work til 1 or 2 am! i have to nag him to give baby a bath or his food. its like im his mum! he just doesnt understand anythin i try to explain. i really want to b single but i dont no wats stoppin me, i think mayb incase its a mistake then i will turn back and think 'shit wat have i done' then it'll b too late but wat if i stay wit him-then after a few yrs realise i cant stand him and have to go then ive wasted all this time and baby will b old enough to realise daddy is gone. What shall i do? take a chance or stick with it?

CathyGCathyG
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
In my opinion, it must be better for a child to have 2 parents about than 1. I'm sure being a single parent is very hard indeed as there is less support both emotionally & financially. I would give it a few more months & see how it goes, your baby is still young & men aren't really too involved at that age, perhaps your man will get more involved when the baby is walking, etc when he can play & bond better. At the moment its all feeds, nappies, sleep etc Hang on in there, if you love each other, things will work out i'm sure & if you do decide to part at least you can think you gave it a good shot.Xxx

candgsmumcandgsmum
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
I would definitely say it has changed for me and DH, when we first realised I was pregnant with our first, we bickered and argued for the first 3 months! As she wasn't planned we were both in total turmoil but we cam round to the idea and had a lot of support from family.

I was desperate to have another baby but DH was not so sure but eventually agreed. About three months before LO was born he began to become irratable easily and after we had a bit of a difficult birth (which he missed) he wouldn't bond with our second LO so easily as our first. Now the sleepless nights seem to be over and he is less 'stressy'.

We always have loved each other, no doubt about it but at one point I think he could have easily walked out of the door and not returned but he always tells me he loves me and vice versa.

miarubymiaruby
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
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LuandTye said:
I am really quite down about my relationship. my bloke loves online poker and ever since we got computer he on it from the moment he get back from work til 1 or 2 am! i have to nag him to give baby a bath or his food. its like im his mum! he just doesnt understand anythin i try to explain. i really want to b single but i dont no wats stoppin me, i think mayb incase its a mistake then i will turn back and think '<img src="images/censored.gif" alt="Censored" title="Censored" /> wat have i done' then it'll b too late but wat if i stay wit him-then after a few yrs realise i cant stand him and have to go then ive wasted all this time and baby will b old enough to realise daddy is gone. What shall i do? take a chance or stick with it?



I felt the same about my relationship when my daughter was younger! stick with it hun, times are hard and you might feel that he doesnt do enough but that is how i felt!

i stuck with it and now me and my partner are happier than ever, we have arguments but hey who doesnt!
i found that things started to get better when mia started to walk and my oh seemed to bond with her loads more than before!

i think it came down to the fact he was scared of bonding with her when she was younger, he found it very difficult to! but now he does everything for her that he can (and i will let him do!) they get more of a sense of love from them once they are walking and trying to talk!

mia even learnt how to say daddy before mummy because he was spending that much time with her! Very happy trust me things will get better once LO is abit bigger and easier to cope with! Kiss

hope all is well hun! pm me if you wanna chat! Kiss

jodie xxx

bamikbamik
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Yep, loads Sad Face I just find that we have got to a point in our relationship where i know that DH is no longer interested in me in any way, shape or form.

Been with DH since I was 14 (29 now). Got married when I was 21, had LO 18 months ago and things are not the same between us.

TBH, I feel as though I'm living with a complete stranger Sad Face

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