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prenatal depression

Hayley_KevHayley_Kev
posted 1 decade 5 months ago
iv searched loadsa sites and looked on the nhs website and i can relate to everything that theyre saying on there.
has anyone ever had this? you here of post natal depression but very rarely prenatal.i dont want how im feeling to effect ethan and i try to be as happy and as playful around himas i can but i feel everything i say and do is wrong.i have a great family and millions of people around me yet i feel theyre completely useless to me! since waking up this morning i have done nothing but cry constantly! about stupid things really,but my main concern is that i feel imnoty attaching to my unborn baby and its that which is hurting me the most.
i mentioned on another post about this and most said that you think its because im more focused on ethan that i aint having time to sit andthink about bump,but i dont think thats the case anymore - i dont know what im saying! i see my midwife on the 13th so maybe i can open up to her a little.
i tell kev everything and he just tells me to let it out if i need to as it will make me feel better - but it never does,if anything i feel i sink deeper and deeper into how crappy i feel!
i just want to go away for a while and take ethan,just spend a bit of time away from everything.


ellee1984ellee1984
posted 1 decade 5 months ago
hun i had pre natal depression and post natal depression. i was suffering with slight depression before i was pregnant i spoke to my doc and they referrred me to shrink which was quite good and then she referred me onto another guy who i see once a month now and he helps me alot i would really reccommend you talking to someone as mine got so bad before i got help i couldnt even get out of bed most mornings Hug

Hayley_KevHayley_Kev
posted 1 decade 5 months ago
ethan is the only thing that gets me up in a morning - if i didnt have him i dont know what id do!
think im gonna have a word with my mw when i see her next week.

ellee1984ellee1984
posted 1 decade 5 months ago
thats what izzy is to me at the moment cos i been really down. yeah have a word with a mw i know exactly what you mean by feeling bad cos u dont think your bonding to the baby i felt guilty during my pregnancy cos i had a phobia of needles and couldnt give blood til i was 36 weeks and they kept telling me certain blood groups harm the baby and i was scared my body was harming my baby and that it was my fault cos i couldnt o a simple thing like giving a tiny bit of blood.

i feel the same to about wanting to disappear for a while maybe it would do you could if you kev and ethan go away for a few days together as family even if it aint far from you like the lake district or the peak district there both nice and relaxing and secluded.

Hayley_KevHayley_Kev
posted 1 decade 5 months ago
iv mentioned going away for abit to kev and he thinks its a good idea we get away.
to top it off my dog has eaten my flipflop!!! im so fat and swollen (i was really swollen with ethan too) and the only shoes that seem to feel comfy is my flip flops!! and the dog ate one this morning!! i could of beat him to death with the thing!
im just a depressed fat flump at the moment and nothing is going my way Crying

mummyheathmummyheath
posted 1 decade 5 months ago
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i have went to see a (dunno what they're called) person about depression and they diagnosed me with prenatal and a mix of postnatal depression. they said its normally caused by just stress and worry but they cant give meds coz theres alot of high risks to baby so instead iv got self help websites and told theres some kind of book you can buy LOL

Hayley_KevHayley_Kev
posted 1 decade 5 months ago

mummyheath said:
i have went to see a (dunno what they're called) person about depression and they diagnosed me with prenatal and a mix of postnatal depression. they said its normally caused by just stress and worry but they cant give meds coz theres alot of high risks to baby so instead iv got self help websites and told theres some kind of book you can buy LOL


this is something iv just been thinking,say i am sufferin pre-nd... surely i cant take meds for it cuz of bump! so am i expected to just get on with it!? i aint got the patience to sit there and read a book!

how have you been coping with yours? is it hard having to do it alone without any meds or anything?

mummyheathmummyheath
posted 1 decade 5 months ago
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yea i have found it really hard but i have found keeping a diary of everything mood swings everything has helped. there are a few self help websites:
- http://www.livinglifetothefull.com/index.php?section=login
-http://www.moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome/new/terms
those are the only 2 i was given. i didnt find them much help but they might better for you.
but other than the diary iv just had to get on and deal with it and try hard not to let it rule my life. the only other thing i was told is to socialise have friends round to talk and laugh it takes your mind off things.
sorry its not much help Hug

AlexAlex Moderator
posted 1 decade 5 months ago
Speaking to someone is a good idea Hayley, it will make you feel better and might help you find someway to help pick your self up again, it is a shame you feel so down as this should be 1 of the happiest times of your life. Hug hope you feel brighter and more like yourself soon.

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