advice for a friend

i didnt know who else to turn too cus i dont know what to say to her,
shes not from uk and am talkin to her through netmums,
shes 7 weeks pregs and keeps bleedin, she has been for a scan but cant see a heart beat yet and dont know if baby is alive still but they did say the baby is there, does that mean baby is still alive if it is still seen on the scan? because i dont know what happens when it is a miscarriage is baby goes or what??
so confused and she is soo upset and dunno what to think i just dunno what to say to her xxx thanx all xx

I think it depends hun, I think that sometimes a DNC has to be done to remove (I'm sorry ) the fetus or toxins can cause the mom harm. I had a miscarriage when I was very young and didn't even know I was pregnant until after the miscarriage and they did a DNC on me (I forget what DNC stands for??)

I feel so bad for your friend but I think she needs to get more answers from her medical team. Good luck with trying to help her through this Cass, that's really sweet of you, even if you don't know what to say just having somebody listen helps

even at 7 weeks it needs to be removed?
my sister inlaw had a miscarriage but she didnt need to weird, i dont understand it all.
yea she lives in cardiff by me but shes not from uk shes moves around alot cus of her husband so shes got no one to talk to so i try lol thanx again tho xxxx

I've know people who've had miscarriages early on like that and didn't need to have one, so I guess it just depends on the circumstances, let us know how things for her hun

thanx hun and im sorry to hear what happened to u when u were young that must of been horrible xxx

awww, thanks, I was only 15, in an abusive relationship (that unfortunately went on till I was 17) and I never had to make a decision about keeping it at that point in my life so I think what happened was meant to be.... I still wonder sometimes though what would have been... I would have a 22 year old ... I really believe that sometimes things happen for a reason.

yes ur right it does and thats good thinkin xxx

hapydazy said:
I had a miscarriage when I was very young and didn't even know I was pregnant until after the miscarriage and they did a DNC on me (I forget what DNC stands for??)

Really sorry to hear about any of you who have had miscarriages- it's a horrible thing to go through.

D&C stands for dilation and curettage hun. This needs to be done sometimes if the foetus isn't naturaly expelled from the body or if some tissue remains in the womb to prevent infection and bleeding. We used to have women in for D&C's a lot when I worked in gynae.

I sincerely hope that everything works out for your friend hun. Have they done an internal scan? They do those in my area. It's where instead of scanning belly they actually insert a probe vaginally and can get a sometimes get a clearer picture of whats going on in early pregnancy.

I have my fingers crossed for her and think you are a good friend for being there for her.

hapydazy said:
I think it depends hun, I think that sometimes a DNC has to be done to remove (I'm sorry ) the fetus or toxins can cause the mom harm. I had a miscarriage when I was very young and didn't even know I was pregnant until after the miscarriage and they did a DNC on me (I forget what DNC stands for??)

I feel so bad for your friend but I think she needs to get more answers from her medical team. Good luck with trying to help her through this Cass, that's really sweet of you, even if you don't know what to say just having somebody listen helps

hey hun i had a m/c before i had izzy and i didnt need a d & c as the foetus had left me naturally they can normally tell u from a scan if everythings ok with the baby i really hope everything goes ok for your friend.

It sounds like maybe she has had a m/c if they can't find a heart beat at 7 weeks but maybe her dates are different to what the hospital date her at. Fingers crossed for her hun

thanx everyone
she hasnt come back onlin yet since i talked to her yesterday but i will let u know how she gets on xxx

she said she lost the baby today
she was bleeding loads with clots.
she said she not goin to the hospital cus they will only tell her what she knows but she does have a scan on tuesday.
i feel so bad for her but i dunno what to say to her.
anyways thanx everyone for the advice xxxx
love u all xxx

That is really sad to hear

to your friend xxx

That is so sad
big hugs she really should go to the hospital to get herself checked out though just to be on the safe side.

's to you and your friend...