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catgirl_872catgirl_872
posted 1 decade 5 months ago
i didnt know who else to turn too cus i dont know what to say to her,
shes not from uk and am talkin to her through netmums,
shes 7 weeks pregs and keeps bleedin, she has been for a scan but cant see a heart beat yet and dont know if baby is alive still but they did say the baby is there, does that mean baby is still alive if it is still seen on the scan? because i dont know what happens when it is a miscarriage is baby goes or what??
so confused and she is soo upset and dunno what to think Sad Sad i just dunno what to say to her xxx thanx all xx


hapydazyhapydazy Moderator
posted 1 decade 5 months ago
I think it depends hun, I think that sometimes a DNC has to be done to remove (I'm sorry Sad ) the fetus or toxins can cause the mom harm. I had a miscarriage when I was very young and didn't even know I was pregnant until after the miscarriage and they did a DNC on me (I forget what DNC stands for??)

I feel so bad for your friend but I think she needs to get more answers from her medical team. Good luck with trying to help her through this Cass, that's really sweet of you, even if you don't know what to say just having somebody listen helps Hug

catgirl_872catgirl_872
posted 1 decade 5 months ago
even at 7 weeks it needs to be removed?
my sister inlaw had a miscarriage but she didnt need to weird, i dont understand it all.
yea she lives in cardiff by me but shes not from uk shes moves around alot cus of her husband so shes got no one to talk to so i try LOL thanx again tho xxxx

hapydazyhapydazy Moderator
posted 1 decade 5 months ago
I've know people who've had miscarriages early on like that and didn't need to have one, so I guess it just depends on the circumstances, let us know how things for her hun Hug

catgirl_872catgirl_872
posted 1 decade 5 months ago
thanx hun and im sorry to hear what happened to u when u were young that must of been horrible Sad xxx

hapydazyhapydazy Moderator
posted 1 decade 5 months ago
awww, thanks, I was only 15, in an abusive relationship (that unfortunately went on till I was 17) and I never had to make a decision about keeping it at that point in my life so I think what happened was meant to be.... I still wonder sometimes though what would have been... I would have a 22 year old Shocked... I really believe that sometimes things happen for a reason.

catgirl_872catgirl_872
posted 1 decade 5 months ago
yes ur right it does and thats good thinkin Smile xxx

EmilysmamEmilysmam
posted 1 decade 5 months ago

hapydazy said:
I had a miscarriage when I was very young and didn't even know I was pregnant until after the miscarriage and they did a DNC on me (I forget what DNC stands for??)


Really sorry to hear about any of you who have had miscarriages- it's a horrible thing to go through.

D&C stands for dilation and curettage hun. This needs to be done sometimes if the foetus isn't naturaly expelled from the body or if some tissue remains in the womb to prevent infection and bleeding. We used to have women in for D&C's a lot when I worked in gynae.

I sincerely hope that everything works out for your friend hun. Have they done an internal scan? They do those in my area. It's where instead of scanning belly they actually insert a probe vaginally and can get a sometimes get a clearer picture of whats going on in early pregnancy.

I have my fingers crossed for her and think you are a good friend for being there for her. Hug

EmilysmamEmilysmam
posted 1 decade 5 months ago

hapydazy said:
I think it depends hun, I think that sometimes a DNC has to be done to remove (I'm sorry Sad ) the fetus or toxins can cause the mom harm. I had a miscarriage when I was very young and didn't even know I was pregnant until after the miscarriage and they did a DNC on me (I forget what DNC stands for??)

I feel so bad for your friend but I think she needs to get more answers from her medical team. Good luck with trying to help her through this Cass, that's really sweet of you, even if you don't know what to say just having somebody listen helps Hug

ellee1984ellee1984
posted 1 decade 5 months ago
hey hun i had a m/c before i had izzy and i didnt need a d & c as the foetus had left me naturally they can normally tell u from a scan if everythings ok with the baby i really hope everything goes ok for your friend.

candgsmumcandgsmum
posted 1 decade 5 months ago
It sounds like maybe she has had a m/c if they can't find a heart beat at 7 weeks but maybe her dates are different to what the hospital date her at. Fingers crossed for her hun Hug

catgirl_872catgirl_872
posted 1 decade 5 months ago
thanx everyone Smile
she hasnt come back onlin yet since i talked to her yesterday but i will let u know how she gets on xxx

catgirl_872catgirl_872
posted 1 decade 5 months ago
she said she lost the baby today Sad
she was bleeding loads with clots.
she said she not goin to the hospital cus they will only tell her what she knows but she does have a scan on tuesday.
i feel so bad for her but i dunno what to say to her.
anyways thanx everyone for the advice xxxx
love u all xxx

candgsmumcandgsmum
posted 1 decade 5 months ago
That is really sad to hear Sad

Hug to your friend xxx

jo-jojo-jo
posted 1 decade 5 months ago
Sad That is so sad Sad
big hugs Hug she really should go to the hospital to get herself checked out though just to be on the safe side.

hapydazyhapydazy Moderator
posted 1 decade 5 months ago
Sad Hug 's to you and your friend...

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