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Is spanking appropriate for a discipline??

joycenjoeyjoycenjoey
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
I am torn between this arguement can i get some kind of feedback and wheather you have/or do use this method of discipline?


AlexAlex Moderator
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
there are time I could probably spank Joseph black and blue and it would make no difference (I was the same apparently) I personally Like the naughty step technique, Joseph respondes well to it and I will continue to use it as long as it works

mumof2mumof2
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
not really a right or wrong answer to this but its not for me personally.ive tried it once in the past mainly through sheer frustration when nothing else would have an effect on my 2 year old and ended up feeling awful myself.it didnt even help the situation one bit for me as my daughter then thought she could go around hitting me or indeed other kids if she felt they had done something wrong or that she didnt approve of.in other words if its ok for me its ok for her and i certainaly dont want her hitting

sugarsugar Moderator
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
*moved to parenting*

I would never Smack my DD but i dont see any harm in a tap on the fingers if shes touching something she shouldnt be, afterall would u rather they got burnt or learnt they shouldnt touch hot things?

Ive not had to smack DD at all she knows from the tone of my voice and the look i give her that she is doing wrong and promptly stops and apologises or goes and sits down with a book!

TBH i think dicipline needs to be started asap! theres nothing wrong with telling a 6 mth old no when they start smacking - just do it gently and dont move thier hand away - as long as u alter the way u sort out the problem to the age and understanding of the child it should be fine.

For example - DD hit me on the stomach the other day and she was old enough for me to explain to her she shouldnt be hitting as it hurts and she espcially shouldnt be hitting me while ive got a baby in my tummy as it can hurt both of us - to which she said sorry and evern kissed my belly! Smile

i also belive in the time out - 1 min for every yr old they are - but never in the same spot as i feel this make the child scared of a certain area

FfionFfion
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
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if elise was naughty i will smak her but only a tap, just so she knows i mean bussness, lol

but when she went through the stage of biting pulling hair ect, i just did it back to her and she neva did it again!

AllyAlly
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
I was brought up in South Africa where it is normal to smack children if they are very naughty. I dont agree with always doing it though and I give my daughter three stern warnings first(We normally never go past the second warning). If she does not listen she gets punished (toys put away or no programmes to watch etc)and if she still does not listen then I smack her but it is not hard and always over the softness of her nappy. It breaks my heart when I have to but to me it is a last resort and she needs to know when she has done wrong. I do worry that others go too far and would never let anyone else smack my child or do so to others children.

GTTkelGTTkel
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
We save it only for very very bad behaviour on rare occasions but yes. My husband and I agree that children get away with too much these days and alot of people are scared to say it as it's politically incorrect but abit of discipline might mean less ASBOs and less young offenders Mad

hayzmagikhayzmagik
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
I might slap a hand but thats all. The naughty chair works way better.

SassySassy
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
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I think that for children three years old and younger it can lay a foundation of boundries. From three years old on other methods work better and respect the childs thinking and growing up.

RagsRags
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
i was spanked as achild and i think it taught me well bounderies and right from wrong horrible as it was at the time..

i smack my daughter lightly on the bum if she is continually disobedient.. i wouldnt thrash her though.

SassySassy
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
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Well said Rags!
I to was spanked as a child and I grew up knowing the ways of the world.
Any parent who might get out of control with a spanking should not ever spank in the first place.

CrazymamaCrazymama
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
I was hit when i was a child, but i was still a rebel when i was a teen, i dont hit my kids, only tap then lightly on the hand if they are naughty, well if i did that to brandon he would laugh at me lol the naughty step works best for brandon, he has to sit on there for 5 mins, i sometimes forget he is there and i hear this little voice "mummy can i come off now" lol

littleladylittlelady
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
i love a good spanking!! Wink
i use smacking as a form of discipline, and im not ashamed to say it

WitchyPooWitchyPoo
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
I think i have had to smack my kids less than half a dozen times and the oldest is nearly 13 - but that isn't to say i wouldn't have more, just that when a smack is given at the right time for the right reasons it teaches them right and wrong, and as with mine, done right it shouldn't ever have to be the *norm*.

What do you ladies feel about the ban on smacking?

I think its just another PC load of rubbish, i understand its there to protect children, however, the parents who would mis-use smacking won't take any notice of the ban anyway, so it only affect people like myself and not in a good way.

The less disapline children at home/school etc the more we see them getting asbo's ect.......is no one seeing the trend LOL

littleladylittlelady
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
the ban is pathetic, im sorry but if my kids misbehave and deserve to be smacked im NOT having some 'officials' telling me how to discipline my children, its not like i am beating the **** Angry out of them! lol!

littleladylittlelady
posted 1 decade 3 years ago

WitchyPoo said:
I think i have had to smack my kids less than half a dozen times and the oldest is nearly 13 - but that isn't to say i wouldn't have more, just that when a smack is given at the right time for the right reasons it teaches them right and wrong, and as with mine, done right it shouldn't ever have to be the *norm*.

What do you ladies feel about the ban on smacking?

I think its just another PC load of rubbish, i understand its there to protect children, however, the parents who would mis-use smacking won't take any notice of the ban anyway, so it only affect people like myself and not in a good way.

The less disapline children at home/school etc the more we see them getting asbo's ect.......is no one seeing the trend LOL

i totally agree there with the asbos, you should see the amount handed out in this town, my kids are not being one of the statistics!

bunnigirlbunnigirl
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
i too do occasionly have to give my children a little smack if they normally do something dangerous or something that could harm them other than that they normallyrespond to my voice and settle down and no they have done wrong and stop but yes i do have to smack them sometimes

chezchez
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
im not one to agree with spanking really. i dont think it would solve anything it would just make the child scared of you. But i must say my mum give me a few good slaps when i was younger and it never did me any harm but she never got through to me by doing it. With my children i use the naughty step when they are naughty and when they are really bad i take there favorite thing of them for the day in there case its there dvds they watch before they go to bed. they earn them back by being good for the whole day it really works. hope i was some help Smile

imakeboysimakeboys
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Admittadly i think if the child is really bad and needs it it is probably worth doing.

I try to avoid this at all costs tho.

When i grew up i was smacked black and blue, thrown down the stairs, punched, kicked you name it oh and hair being ripped out.
The social services were involved when our older brother got adopted but then nothing- they made a house call, she pretended to be out then that was that.

I hate to smack and i too think that ban was pathetic, probably mad eup by some tw*t that doesnt hav kids Mad Mad

chizzletchizzlet
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Hi, I dont agree with smacking but when my 4yr old DD started kicking and pulling hair I, like Ffion said, did the same back to her (gently though but enough to make her not like it!). She soon stopped and I always explain that if you don't want people to do it to you, don't do it to them. It has seemed to have an effect.
There are times though that my 13 yr old does push the boundaries and I could quite easily 'lose it' with him but manage to hold back!

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