What happens if...

I did something a bit naughty and tried to get some of my boyf's come (sorry TMI!) from my finger and self-inseminate myself (which was very bad, I know!) as he didn't come in me, only after oral sex. I don't actually think there are many chances of me becoming pregnant this way but I would be interested to find out what others think?

I don't think you can get pregnant by "self inseminating" like that. I have to say that if it could happen, that might not be the best way to go about getting pregnant. Probably should be something you and your BF agree to ... seems like you would be tricking him into getting you pregnant and that could have some icky results in the end. I would discuss trying to have a baby with him before you try to get yourself preggers

Yes, I agree it isn't the best way nor the most mature. We have discussed having a baby (and I've said that I really want one) but we're trying to figure out our relationship's future in the long-term at the moment. I guess if I did discover I was pregnant, I would be overjoyed but also feeling guilty as it wouldn't have been in the conventional way, and so he may start to ask awkward questions about how it could have happened etc which may lead to some bad feelings after if he discovered the truth. Maybe I'll stick to doing it properly next time and try not to let my feelings get the better of me at the time and try to do stupid things!

To be honest it sounds like you are really not ready to have a baby together at the moment!

Give it some serious thought and time - don't push things!

As far as i know once sperm hits the air it dies. I would be very surprised if you did get pregnant this way but i could be wrong.

Irish_Rose said:
As far as i know once sperm hits the air it dies. I would be very surprised if you did get pregnant this way but i could be wrong.

i think it lasts 2 hours in the air i remeber reading it somewhere,and you can get preg by messing with come and then messing with yourself - its happened to a pathetic girl i once knew.

but why oh why are you wanting a baby with a) someone who doesnt want one and b) someone who u dont actually see a future with anyways! its not all about YOU wanting a baby, YOU getting pregnant YOU looking after it - its about the BABY. say u were preg - babies born and your alone - the older that child gets the more questions they start to ask things - would you really tell that child the truth of conception? what sort of role model would you be!

im sorry hun but i agree with hayley, not only are you not ready in your relationship for a baby, it doesnt sound to me like youre ready for a baby at all - it's a very immature approach to having a child

I also agree with what everyone has said,you can not base this decision soley on how you feel (everyone gets broody at one stage or another)but at the end of the day it would be your child that misses out on the stability,love and support from both parents it deserves especially if the father isnt ready to be a father.

Feel a bit awkward being in here but Marie read this post to me so ….I totally agree with Hayley , Also this is no way to bring a child in to the world …the man I would guess will feel trapped and abused or cheated as this is what’s happening , a child should be conceived by two people who are willing to cherish, nurture and love the child, not by some slight of hand like a cheap card trick.

I agree with everyone, myself and my fiance sat for months talking about if we were ready and if we could financially support it. You have to think about everything.

I don't think that your partner would want to be tricked into having a baby when he has expressed that he's not ready.

x

Thanks for all your replies – I have been thinking long and hard about what I've done and the repercussions of what could happen if the worst case scenario occurred and I do feel very guilty, ashamed and stupid at what I did, as well as quite remorseful.

Anyway I've taken into consideration everything that has been said here and won't ever do anything so silly again. My boyf has expressed a desire to get married and have children so it's not something he would be taking lightly. We're still in the process of discussing where our relationship is ultimately leading to and will assess everything that could/couldn't happen including starting a family the PROPER way.

(*Goes off and feels remorseful*)

I think (and dont take this the wrong way) you are too immature to have a baby and become pregnant.
You need to get your partner to agree to having a baby first, dont force him into something he doesnt want.

I also think - if he wants a baby - and you do too, then sex in the usual way i.e ejaculating in you - will be the best viable method.

Good luck what ever.