Advice on getting pregnant please!

Hi, I'm Hayley and almost 22. I'm engaged to my wonderful Fiance Bryn who I've been with for nearly 4 years. We have lived together for 3 1/2 years and been trying for a baby for 9 months after believing I was pregnant last year.

My periods are all over the place and so I can't work out when I ovulate without buying an ovulation test (and they are too expensive!)

Over the past 12 months my cycles have been as follows,

9, 21, 82, 35, 43, 37, 50, 34, 35.

I know that you ovulate on day 14 of your cycle if you have a 28 day cycle. But when I ovulate obviously isn't this.

Could anyone work out when I would ovulate going off my very varied cycles? I have looked at a few websites which are meant to work it out for you but they all seem to charge you for access or give limited access to the features of the site, again unless you pay to enter these 'locked' features. (which I can't afford to pay).

Has anyone got any useful advice on how to improve chances of getting pregnant as each time my period is late I get my hopes up, only to be disappointed when my period eventually arrives.

Thankyou in advance for any help or comments I receive. All will be most appreciated.

Hayley

is there a medical reason why your periods are all over the place?? Maybe you should go see your GP hun (he will help and maybe give you ovulation tests on prescription)

And in the meantime stop thinking about trying for a baby and just have lots of good sex

Good luck hun I hope it happens for you soon.

My friend has very random periods like this as she has cysts on her Ovaries; they are not dangerous just a pain in the bum! As for ovulation, the only way to guarantee you're not missing your fertile time is to have sex every day I suppose. I have had two friends who were told to go on The Pill for 6 months to regulate their cycles, one of them has still not concieved but the other became pregnant quickly and now has a son. I'm sure your doctor will talk it through with you.

we were very lucky and i fell preg very quickly both with this one and our son. try having sex every two days or more if you can. cutting out alcohol and smoking will greatly increase your chances of getting preg to.

i would agree with everyone else though that its worth a chat to the doc as they might be able to tell you when you are ovulating

good luck

im not understanding what all the numbers you have put down are - but i would get advice from a doctor as you may not be getting pregnant because there could be something wrong - or your lady bits are just stubborn.it may not even be you hun - he could have a low sperm count so the both of you get yourselfs to the doctors together and the both of you get checked out.

but best of all, dont see sex as a routine to get pregnant,enjoy it and dont think of the baby makin.

The numbers are the length of each cycle between each period. Sorry I didn't explain it very well.

Just to wish you good luck in TTC. it took a while for us to conceive our second and I understand how you must feel. All I can suggest is what Hayley has already said, don't make it a routine because you think you may be at the 'right time' to make a baby.

One thing my DH and me always said was that if we did that then we would lose the fun, and ultimately may delay things even more! xx