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angelmumangelmum
posted 1 decade 3 months ago
Help me please im going out of my mind with worry, Zoe for the past 2 week's has been crying at night everytime it get's dark she refuses to go to the toilet alone when it starts to get dark outside, I have always left the light on for the kids and she has been going to the toilet on her own since she was 4 years old threw the night she will be 6 years old in June and now she cries for someone to go to the toilet with her she wakes Demi threw the night or if she is down stairs she crys to go to the toilet and me and John have to take her or Demi will, i have asked her why she is scared to go to the toilet and she says because of the shadows i have talked to her and hugged her and told her shadows dont hurt we even played a game and made shadows on the wall with her and told her if she goes to the toilet santa and mummy and daddy will be very happy with her and she will get's lots of toys but still she refuses to go saying im scared of the shadows and she then say's other peoples shadows Sad she also get's scared and say's that mummy and daddy's bedroom door opend on it's own and wont use the toilet unless our door is shut Confused i don't know what else to do and i have rang my HV but she is off on sick im waiting for another HV to call hopefully it will be later on this afternoon has anyone else been threw this and what did you do to get your child threw this and has anyone got any other suggestions?


candgsmumcandgsmum
posted 1 decade 3 months ago
I remember being terrified of the boiler in my mums bathroom as a kid and wouldn't go to the toilet through the night without someone with me. My mum showed me why the boiler made noises, turned the hot tap on and stuff like that and it seemed to help. You have already showed her what makes shadows and tried to explain to her that they won't harm her. Has she become frightened since Halloween or seen a tv program with ghosts or monsters in? She might think that there are what are causing shadows, especially with her mentioning the door opening on its own? She may have even had a nightmare and it may have seemed very real to her and caused her to be frightened?

I hope you manage to get to the bottom of it hun, hopefully the HV will have some good tips for you xx

angelmumangelmum
posted 1 decade 3 months ago
Thanks for the reply hunni im not sure if she has seen anythig on tv e.c.t ? hopefully things will inprove soon the HV has suggested a sticker chart for when she uses the toilet alone but that's no good so far im not sure what else to try?

glennyglenny
posted 1 decade 2 months ago
aww poor little darling - i dont know what to suggest hunni - how have things been the last few days?

angelmumangelmum
posted 1 decade 2 months ago
Prob has been sorted Zoe has gone back to useing the toilet on her own thank god i think all the reasurance from me and her dad have helped Smile just glad she is no longer scared to go alone Clapping

candgsmumcandgsmum
posted 1 decade 2 months ago
Aw well done Zoe for being a big girl and going to the toilet on your own Clapping

Glad to hear she is ok now x

shiningstarshiningstar
posted 1 decade 2 months ago
Your child either is seeking attention or needs reassurance. With the seeking attention she knows that if she refuses to go alone, then you will go with her. Therefore, she will get what she wants. Try slowly lessening the amount of attention you give her each time she needs to go to the bathroom and wants you to come with her. If it's the dark, maybe give her a flashlight or walk in and check out the bathroom to make sure it's safe. If she needs reassurance, the same techniques of checking out the bathroom and reassuring her that it is safe may work. Either way, you can do it!

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