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So... I am a little scared

mich81mich81
posted 1 decade 7 months ago
I just found out that I am pregant- I took an at home test yesterday morning.
I am not on any contraceptive and am a bit worried because I did sleep with two differnt people. I consistently sleep with one person, but the other was a friend of mine... we used a condom and he didn't even ejaculate, but I can't help but wonder... what if? It would literally destroy my life... I never do stuff like this and now, with one simple mistake my whole life could change...I slept with him 9 days after the start of my cycle... I don't really think I was that fertile but who knows. My midwife previously told me that I probably ovulate later in my cycle... any advice?


RichRich Moderator
posted 1 decade 7 months ago
If you used a Condom and he did'nt even ejaculate, I think it's a pretty safe bet it's not his. Concentrate on the person you want to be with and try and put this down to experience. We will give you as best advice as we can Smile

bunnigirlbunnigirl
posted 1 decade 7 months ago
i agree with rich hunni thats the best thing to do
good luck and congrats
xxx

mich81mich81
posted 1 decade 7 months ago
Thanks! I am pretty sure too, I think I just need to hear it from other people. Do you think that by being with this other guy, it made me more aroused and fertile with my significant other? Just a thought- after all, ew have been trying to have a baby for about a year... perhaps it upped the passion!?!

RichRich Moderator
posted 1 decade 7 months ago
as we don't know the full story it's a bit hard to comment on this, were you with your partner when you slept with the other fella?...if so guilt can manifest in so many ways, and being suddenly very attracted to someone is one way..can you fill us in on the missing gaps so we have a better idea please hun.

mich81mich81
posted 1 decade 7 months ago
Okay, so one stupid night, I got drunk (which I usually don't do) with my friend. My partner was out of town. ( I do feel extreme guilt around this!) We ended up messing around for like 3 hours, then had sex, with a condom. He couldn't stay erect so we stopped. He does smoke a lot of marajuana- mutiple times a day- so if any sperm did get in, mobility wounldn't be good? (Wow, I sound like a real loser!)
The first day of my cycle was Oct. 11th. We slept together on Friday, Oct. 19th. This would only be like 9 days after my cycle. I slept with my partner the following week- we don't use any protection. (We have been trying to get pregnant- already had one miscarriage like a year ago). I don't know why I slept with this other guy- well, I hadn't been getting much attention from my man and he was never around- working or busy playing video games.
Anyway, according to all the websites and pregnancy calulators, most say my date of conception was most likely aorund the 25th or 26th. So, my chances of it being my partner seem highly likely! When I go to the doctor- won't an ultrasound be able to better predict my date of conception? Thanks for you help- this is really a low point in my life- I try not to get myself into situations like this- I now known not to give into temptation.

RichRich Moderator
posted 1 decade 7 months ago
It's a harsh lesson to learn, but at least you know it was a mistake. We'll be here if you need to talk. Smile

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