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glennyglenny
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
i have very strong opinions on this one aswell

i certainly have nothing against young mums(i like to think of myself as a young mum at 26) or people claiming benefit, but at 12 years old (11 when falling pregnant) she is only a baby herself, and i personally think for mother and baby to have any sort of life the baby should have been taken into care - what kind of life can a 12 year old give a baby?

and as for the 12 year old, her mother should be strung up!!! that may sound harsh, but if her child knows how to have sex at 11 then there is sumthing quite wrong in her parenting - sorry just my opinions - hope i dont offend anyone x


glennyglenny
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
and i forgot to add sorry - that magazines should not be allowed to run these stories or pay these people for their stories - it is just glamourising the issue Tounge Out

Kelly_CaitKelly_Cait
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
12? Well I got pregnant at 15 and had Caitlin when I was 16. I think the money she is on is alot. Being a teen mum is hard and if she got pregnant at 12 her parents mustn't been great to begin with. I am not saying what has happened is good but I guess I have more of an understanding, I had support from friends and family. I don't give Cait coke or coffee, we do have takeaway now and then, everyone does. I'd rather eat healthy but it doesn't hurt now and then.

As for the job situation, I've had 3 jobs since I've had Cait and been to college for 3 years. I'm not being big-headed or anything but people cope in their own ways. I think more should happen to prevent teen pregnancies but theses do happen and I don't think teens are getting enough help or support.

I agree with your Lauren_22, I couldn't get my maternity grant thing my mum had to get it for me, so with the benefits I dunno how she got them, unless her parents did claim them for her or they had to alter something.

Glenny- I agree, alot of teens with read this and think the money is alot, but in reality it sounds alot but doesn't go very far, esp with a kid in her case 2!!!

GTTkelGTTkel
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
And you can bet your life that in 15 years time her kids will be practicing everything they've learnt from their mother. If I were her mum I'd have stepped in and tried to drum some decent parenting skills into her and teach her that cooking proper meals and getting exercise with your kids may be hard work but that's what being a good parent is. We all have it in us to be a good parent regardless of age, financial status or social back ground. It's simply a question of how much effort we are willing to make.
I could rant about this all day but hey you all know exactly what I'm thinking Tounge Out

candgsmumcandgsmum
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
I would consider myself to be a young mum, but my circumstances were a lot different when I got pregnant. I was only 19, but I was paying a mortgage, working full time and engaged to my now husband...but all this counted against us when we went to see if we could get any other financial assistance besides child benefit as we struggled to keep our heads above water anyway just keeping up with the mortgage. We were basically told because we lived together and we owned our own house we were entitled to nothing. Child credits were newish and we were told we would be entitled to them too, but only after baby was born.

Just about everything besides bottles were second hand as we couldn't afford anything new baby equipment wise. I had to return to work full time when Charlotte was 3 and 1/2 months old because we were struggling to pay the mortgage.

I understand that most young mums don't get pregnant for the benefits or to get a house, blimey I was tarred by that same brush by some bloody know-it-alls. 12 is young to have a baby, I was only worried about homework and friends at that point, but she has obviously had to grow up quickly and maybe hasn't been set a great example by here own experiences of her parents. I hope to god that Charlotte never comes home pregnant at a young age, I want her to live her life a little bit. If she did, however, end up pregnant then I would show her support, even if it meant me looking after the baby and she continue schooling so she would get the best for them in the end.

As for feeding her babies kebabs and cola all the time, thats just stupid, although it looks like the mag have blown it a bit out of proportion by making her pose with bottle of cola...maybe to try and make it worse than it really is, who knows Suspect But no surprises she never has any money if she buys ready meals and takeaways all the time. It takes 20 mins to make fliping pasta bolognase for gods sake and it costs, what, £1.10 for mince, 15p for a tin of tomatoes and less that £1 for a bag full of pasta? hmm that works out at less than £2.50 and she would be able to feed them it all and freeze some.

Something else...where are the HV's people like that? Why aren't they doing something, they had enough to say to me about George when he struggled to put on weight...question my parenting skills and try to dig up any crap they could (not there was any to dig up). She is blatantly flaunting that she is not feeding her kids properly (unless this mag is blowing it out of proportion) and can't be bothered to get out of bed and take her kids to school. Why aren't they helping her?

miarubymiaruby
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
- My blog
This is my question Why arent social services involved? when I fell pregnant at 18 with Mia I was so scared that i was going to do somehing wrong and social services would be knocking at my door! She is flaunting to the whole world that she is a poor mother and nothing is being done about it! Hope I dont offend anyone with what I say but she needs help in bringing these children up or they will just turn out like her! Life is hard and I was only just 19 when I had Mia and I still felt so young but I would never in a million years do the stuff she does to her kids! Coke in a bottle? what is this all about? I think the fact she is proberly getting paid to do this interview is wrong! why should she gain from tellling the world she is a young mother with 2 kids living off all this benefit! Its not clever and certainly not something that should be displayed as good! xx

kimbekimbe
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
ooo i new that would rattle you mia ruby hahaha

mitchmitch
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
Shocked shocking is all i can say

orc30orc30
posted 1 decade 2 years ago

GTTkel said:
And you can bet your life that in 15 years time her kids will be practicing everything they've learnt from their mother. If I were her mum I'd have stepped in and tried to drum some decent parenting skills into her and teach her that cooking proper meals and getting exercise with your kids may be hard work but that's what being a good parent is. We all have it in us to be a good parent regardless of age, financial status or social back ground. It's simply a question of how much effort we are willing to make.
I could rant about this all day but hey you all know exactly what I'm thinking Tounge Out


I agree it will end up in the never ending circle where the kids will grow up thinking that this is all there is to life, and if it's good enough for mum then it's good enough for us. It's one of the reasons that I hope to move house next year as I can see it happening all around me where I am at the moment.
I wonder what happened to the father(s) of the kids. As far as I am aware that is affectively staturory rape (or something along those lines) as it is sex with a minor (less than 16 yo).
She must have income from somewhere I assume as she is having to contribute towards her rent, as I am pretty sure that if you get any income support then you automatically get full housing benefit (unless she's renting privately).

kimbekimbe
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
she pays 25 quid a week 4 er council flat ,, da first babys dad was a 15 yr old gambian/jamacan boy amy says he also fathered her daughter but her neighbours say he was a 20 yr old black man hmmmm Gag

miarubymiaruby
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
- My blog

kimbe said:
ooo i new that would rattle you mia ruby hahaha



It certainly did Kimbe, its just gets to me so much as I have had all the dirty looks off people as I am young mother, and as you know I was the first out of our circle of friends to fall pregnant! and yes it wasnt planned but she is the best accident in the world! It grates on me though that people look at me and see a young mother and judge me for this, even though I try to be the best mother I can, Mia never wants for anything and is well looked after and eats a healthy diet! arrr sorry it just really gets me down sometimes Sad Face

kimbekimbe
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
lol mia dont want 4 anything ano pat ,,,but she does want for burgers chicken peppa pig bubbles lola etc lol o night garden going to bed seeing nana going in car oo jucie oo and we cant 4get BEAKER !!!!!!1

miarubymiaruby
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
- My blog
ooo god that day in town with that bloody beaker, she wouldnt stop shouting beaker beaker beaker all the way round! hehehe she is a funny thing! Very happy

GTTkelGTTkel
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
Also it's people like this girl who give young mums and single mums a bad name. Many of you on here are single parents or were young when you had your first baby but I'm sure you are all great, loving, responsible parents. I am aware that in past posts some of you have said you had people look down their nose at you which is of course totally unfair; but it is because of girls like this and the worst part is she obviously doesn't care.

jo-jojo-jo
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
Tounge Out I have nothing at all against young mums, but this girl is wayyyyyyyy to young.What ever happen to playing with Barbie dolls or Jump rope with your friends???????????? 12 YO ???????????
Am i being old fashion?Who in there right state of mind would ever give there child soda/cola and take aways ?????
I know so many young mums that i socialise/work with and as miaruby stated these children are well looked after in everyway physically,emotionaly etc and it is women NO sorry CHILDREN like this one that give young mums a bad name.
Sorry for the huge rant.... Tounge Out

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