This is not good news.(ive changed my mind, it is good news)

I'm pregnant.

I can't be sure who the father is. Please don;t judge me.

I am 80% sure it is the guy I have been seeing.

I only slept with my ex husband once and I was very drunk and don't actually remember what happened. I am unsure of when my last period was, but from when i think it was the dates would look to be away from when I slept with my husband when I got pregnant.

I honestly thought my life was as complicated as it could get. This is so stupid. I'm not a kid, I shouldnt be in this position. I honestly don;t know what I am going to do.

I dont have a settled relationship with anyone. I dont even know where i am going to be living in 3 months.

If i dont know who the father is then no one is going to stand by me through this.

Im terrified.

Big hugs to you hun,i dont really know what to say???I am assuming you have gone to your gp and had it confirmed?

no, done two tests. in our area they dont bother doing another test there bcause bought ones dont lie anyway.

thank you for the hug....

its odd. just over a week ago i decided to stop drinking...

hey hunnie dont worry I wont judge you, mistakes happen and wether its for the good or bad you will find your way through all this! Its hard but you will know deep down what is for the best and if you ever need to talk you now am here! x

Aww sorry to hear this hun, we won't judge you, pregnancy is a serious matter and what is done is done, you can't change it. Have you spoke to your ex or this other guy??

i havent spoken to them yet. i will speak to them both tonight

I have decided to keep the baby tho! I couldnt not, i dont have it in me. not matter how bad the timing, or how difficult the situation, this child will have all the love in the world.

and a part of me is really happy despite everything

hey hunni - i certainly wouldnt judge you, noone would have the right - as you have said whatever happens your baby will have all the love in the world - good luck with everything

Well as i said i had already as it happened packed in drinking, so i just have to knock the cigs on the head now, i know within a week or two they will be totally gone.

Im off to the doctors today, gonna ask for a dating scan as my last period was very light so im wondering if im a bit further gone. anyway, i will be sure to let you all know!

xx

A loved baby is a happy baby
Congratulations , i'm sure it will all work out for you XX

did not see this one coming no judgement here either sometimes babies are just ment to be i had only been with mr joe 6 weeks when i fell pregnant dont beat your self up its great news

this is great news that you are keping the baby hunnie am be sure to keep us all updated! i always say that everything happens for a reason! x

You can count on us for support, I imagine the next 9 months will be very emotional as your relationships with both men will come into play and until the baby is born you may not be certain. But hun these are two men who are both influential in your life and it's not like you've been sleeping around with loads of random guys so I'm not judging. I just really hope a dating scan will be able to help you figure who the dad is xxxxxxxx and hey you're gonna have a

another baby yayy - congratulations!!

hun - nobody should judge you because you aint sure who the father is - this babys got you as his (oops put his there!!) mummy and that is all that matters.he will be this gorgeous bundle of joy who you will love more than anything - regardless of the confusion with his conception (why do i keep refering to it as a boy-haha!)

do both men know just incase? have you made them both aware that your pregnant and your unsure of the actual father? when youve had your scan that should give you more clues shouldnt it with the dates and things - or who he looks like!

just enjoy this pregnancy hun, the last thing you need is stress over this and the men giving you stress about it.xx

hunnie nobody is going to judge u on here. we all make mistakes or do silly things. me probably more than most. i was still sleeping with my ex husband for a year after we seperated, its just one of those things that happens and is more common than we all realise.i hope the talking goes ok for u hun. i'm here or on msn if u need a sound off or a chat. GOOD LUCK babe

thank you everyone. i have spoken to my ex, and the guy I was seeing. My ex has been fantastic and supportive about it. He will be there for me, his kids and the new baby if it is his or not. Brenden, guy who is most likely to be the father, hasnt reacted at all well, but i think he needs time, and i fully believe that he will take full responsibility if that is the case as it ends.

Thanks again for all your support.

Just wanted to say congratulations!! We all make mistakes no-one has the right to judge you!