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How do you know when your ready??

posted 1 decade 6 years ago

Hey everyone. Iam actually new here I just signed up today. I just wanted to know how everyone knew when you were ready to have kids? I have always said when I was younger "Iam never going to have kids". LOL. Now that im married my husband and I talk about having kids one day. I will be 22 in 3 weeks I think about babies and how geat a dad my husband would be and school projects, baseball etc. We definantly don't have the money for kids. We are in alot of debt and we are getting ready in jan for my husband to be in a comission only job. A little backround for me--I was adopted and I don't know my biological mother so all of my medical history is a mystery. I know when I was ready, I would have an urge to find my mom for the medical history for the baby. Sorry it is so long I just have alot of thoughts Smile

posted 1 decade 6 years ago
when ur ready u will no hunni if u think u r then maybe u r
good luck with whatever u decide babe
and welcome to jp

posted 1 decade 6 years ago
Well I was not ready when I got preggies with my daughter but she was meant to be regardless of how ready I was or wasn't.

I agree with Bunnigirl, you'll know when the time is right if you are able to plan every thing. Good luck hun with whatever you decide to do. I kinda thought I didn't want kids at one point too (scary world!!) but I am so glad that I have her now, wouldn't change any thing ... and in some ways, she's made the world a much less scary world Very happy

BTW, I'm Tammy, 38 year old mom to 4 year old Aaralyn... welcome to JP hun, it's a great site especially if you decide to try and conceive, you'll get lots of encouragement and support from people here Very happy

posted 1 decade 6 years ago
I just started feeling more sensitive and emotional when I saw children out sitting on their dad's shoulders. Or looking at little clothes and imagining going out buying stuff for my baby. Also my hubby (we weren't married then)had always made it clear he wanted a family one day so it was really for me to say when I was ready. Atleast you have a good secure foundation in that you are married and so you must be serious about sticking together. If you really want a baby there is financial support out there with tax credits etc. Only you will know when you're ready, but you've got time to wait.

posted 1 decade 6 years ago
i think you know when your ready, but be carefull if your in debt. good luck babe Smile

posted 1 decade 6 years ago
My hubby and me had talked about it but our first was a surprise, she wasn't planned so I guess I would say we weren't ready, especially when our reactions as the test came up with two pink dots was 'Oh my god. What the heck do we do now?'. Not the best of reactions lol!

We came round to the idea quickly though and although we didn't have alot of money (and have even less now), we managed.

posted 1 decade 6 years ago
deep down i dont think anyone is 100% ready,we all say we would love kids but when we see that + on the test,everything runs thru your mind!

as for being in debt,i dont think thats a huge problem as there are always ways to get back on track with debt management schemes etc,we were in alot of debt,but luckily thats all behind us now,everyone struggles,butthe way i always look at it is,theres people out there worse than us.

now iv got ethan,i give him the world,i now walk past that gorgeous top in the shop window,as long as your gonna give ur child all the love and attention,nothing else matters.

posted 1 decade 6 years ago
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First off I dont believe anyone can say they are 100% ready for the experiences of parenthood! When I fell pregnant with Mia I was only 18 and it was a complete shock! I used to love looking after children and had a 2 year college course in level 3 diploma in childcare behind me but I was as far away from ready as anyone could be! I knew one day I would love children but never expected it to happen then! But hey hunnie you have to make the best of every situation life throws at you and now I have Mia I cannot remember life before her! I would love more children but like you say I just dont know if we are ready but hey is anyone? Suspect

posted 1 decade 6 years ago
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Hi I was not ready when I had holly I was only 15 but I grow up quick I love her lodes and her and her little sister are my world and my son that’s due on Christmas day.

Their’s no book saying when to have a baby or how and when to raise them its when you fill its right go for it but I sot out the debt 1st they cost a lot lol

well good luck in what ever you do

posted 1 decade 6 years ago
no matter how much you plan and prepare for a baby i dont really think anyone is ever really ready hunnie. they dont come with a hand book, you can only be the best mummy you can Kiss

posted 1 decade 6 years ago
Thanks everyone. You are all so supportive and have such great info I love it. Very happy Iam so glad that I signed up here so I can get more info on being a parent.
thanks, Sam

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