help

I have been seeing my partner for 5 years im 21 years of age he is 26, i realy thought i wanted to start a family it is my dream, but i think i have changed my mind, he seems to like his drink on the weekends, and im not a mega drink person, i had a bizzy weekend at work and he came home drunk again having a go at me saying i dont love him im not sure i do anymore, then he cept me up all night and i hato work early the next day, i was nakerd.
there also is a man at work that im bonding with quite well and he texts me and stuff but he has a GF when i ask about her he says he is only seeing her nothing serious, i dont know what he thinks of me.
im scared id lose my house if i finished with my partner i dont know what to do.

I think maybe you should speak to your partner before you get into anything else with this other guy.
It sounds like your looking for the attention your not getting from your boyfriend...which is understandable i would be the same!


Try and have a talk and sort things out.

Good luck x

i agree with staceyj18 babe u should talk to ur fella maybe thats what u both need some time togehter and a long chat so u both no where u stand
good luck
xxx

what do you think i should say? im so scared

Perhaps just ask him how he is feeling about things at the minute and thenthat will lead to you saying how you feel. It will soon become clear if you're on the same wave length with your plans for the future. But if you just don't want to be with him any more then the sooner you make the break the less messy it will be. You said you are worried about losing your house which is something you would have to look into; but if you stayed together and had a baby and still weren't working out it would be so much harder to keep your house financially speaking. Not to mention the emotions involved. It can be so hard to break away from your first real love and obviously if you've been with him since you were 16 he's been a huge part of your transition from child to adult.

i had a word with him about the going drinking every weekend biznes and he dont c nothing wrong he said he will try to stay in but i know if a friend calls 4 him he is beging me to let him go and then be moody with me if i dont let him

With what I know about guys he will only change his behaviour when HE gets bored of it, not when YOU tell him. I'm lucky in that my hubby doesn't drink but he has his other vices which take up time and money. You just have to work out if this is a 'bad patch' or a 'bad relationship' then you'll know what to do

If I were you i would try to sort out your current relationship before you even think about starting something new, as people have rightly said, other prospects tend to look very attractive when you're not getting any attention or care from your current partner.

If his drinking is really unacceptable to you then I would lay it on line and make it clear to him that this is not acceptable to you and that if you cannot come to a compromise about it then it will be over. I know the house aspect is a worry but as others have said, to stay with him, have a baby together etc etc.. and then split up is going to be a million times harder to do than to break up now. From what you've said, it sounds as if you doubt that you even love him any more- do you think it really is his drinking that is bothering you or is it just him? Bottom line hon, life is too darn short to stay with someone who makes you feel unhappy and unloved. You deserve someone who really loves you and vice versa and so does he. I think someone once said that they would rather deal with a flood of pain that is temporary than deal with the drip drip drip of a constantly unhappy relationship that drags on for years.

Maybe you guys do have a future, who knows? but I would try to make a decision either way now before you think about starting another relationship. Good luck hon...

we have booked a holiday for november i so want my relationship to work i dont know what is the mater with me. cant wate for us to have some time together mabie thats what im missing xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx thank you all for your support xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx