It took myself and my husband 11 months to conceive our second, I started eating healthier and going to the gym within 2 months I was pregnant! Although I'm sure you stressing about the birth won't be helping you concieve.
I found the labour pains easier to cope with when I had George, I had a homebirth and managed with just a tens machine and I'm the biggest woose going LOL! I think it is sometimes getting yourself into the right mindset, I always focused on the end result, a healthy baby and getting to see him after feeling him kicking me for all those months, then I didn't get hung up on the pain thing.
Also after all, they do have pain relief for labour so if you decide you just can't go through the pain, ask for the epidural!
Did you have a bad time with your first birth? x
Good luck
TTC and I hope you get your BFP soon x