UPDATE on my daughters dad

i posted a thread over a week ago about a fight my daughters dad etc, i just wanted to update those who gave me support and advice..

last night he text me asking me if it was okay to give me less money this month as he didnt have a good pay packet and with it being izzys birthday aswell and that hed make it upto me the next couple of months payments, I then asked him if he wanted to go halves on a rocker you can get in the elc for £50 and then shed have a present from her mummy and daddy together or was it going to be mummy and sum1 and daddy and sum1. he replied i dont love you anymore u dont like the person youve become, i just dont know anymore. i cant remember what i replied and he replied i cant see myself with anyone at the moment, i dunno what i want but i dont feel like a couple with you, i not in love with you and he also text youve changed you hadnt when i was fighting for you (talking about when i left him)

later i text him how i felt saying (i warn u it was a long message)it said: on sunday i was ill. u said u couldnt see me as i was looking forward to seeing you i wanted to chat to u about something i wanted to hug u i miss u so much. i know i changed a bit but i cant help that it a change i had to make to survive i dont want to be this way forever i want to be back with u, we can share things i wont be like this when that day comes. im sick of our arguments they are tearing me up inside im sure they doing the same or something similair to u. i cant see myself with anyone else or apart of anyone elses family, i feel apart of yours. do u feel that. when i left u tried so hard to get back now it slowly slipping back to how it was. if u can only see yourself with me and that u me and iz are going to be a family etc please tell me so we can come up with a plan to work at it make us work see each other for more than a few stolen hours a month i miss u so dam much it killing me slowly. do u miss me? i love u xx

that was last night and im still yet to hear from him. i asked him to meet up with me so we can chat. i dont know whether to try and get this weekend off work and drive upto stoke and see him and chat to him if i dont hear from him. does it sound like he met someone else and doesnt want to tell me or that he just feeling insecure and wanting to see if i do love him and if id fight for him like he did for me?

all opinions and advice welcome please hopefully some of the guys on here can give me some insight as well in to what might it be.. im confused..

Hi hun, I am going to be bluntly honest here, it sounds to me like he is just trying to get out of the relationship.. It might be best for you to try and look at it that way and try to figure out how to move on. He should still be responsible for Izzie... maybe down the road things will change but I think the more you try to convince to stay and work out the relationship the more it is pushing him away. Let him go this time and see what happens, try to move on with your life and there will be good out there for you and something more meant to be. Hugs to you hunny I know how hard this must be for you, hang in there

ok.. im even more confused... he just text me saying he cant afford to come up and down the motorway n on his days off which he has very few he just wants to relax and that this months not a good month as hell also find out if he gotta find a new job and that he sorry at the moment he cant. so i asked him if he coming for izzys birthday and if he wanted me to come up and he said that he going to try and come for izzys birthday for the day and that there no point in me coming as he only has sunday off and hell be sleeping most of the day and hell just get moody with me...

im now a bit confused could it have been that hes just tired and stressed at the prospect of having to find a new job at the end of the month because at the moment hes on very good pay.

Sorry to hear this hun, guys are really confusing!!

I'd just let him do whatever, just think about yourself and your little one! . I hope it gets sorted.

aww hun i really dont know whats going on....u are gonna have to just ask him outright what the hell he is playing out coz its not fair on you or izzy!


sorry i wasnt much help

Hun, he is making my head spin, god knows what he is doing to yours!

I think that if he is on with you one minute and off the next he doesn't know himself what he wants. He sounds like he has no idea what is going on in his head so maybe just leaving him to it for a while may help him come to what he really wants.

Sending you hugs hun, sorry I'm not much help x

Well this I guess is it we broke up at the weekend on sunday officially he text me about izzys christening and said that he thinks we should be mates as we not working. he still having izzy once a week but doenst think hell be able to make it to her birthday which kinda sucks.

im ok about him and i breaking it up it wasnt working and we both knew it wasnt it still a bit hard to accept but im holding up and moving on and living my life.

so sorry to hear that hun

I'm glad to hear you're handling it well hun I'm sorry things didn't work out, but just must not be meant to be

xx