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Is this unusual?

glittergirlglittergirl
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
My meggie has always loved the 'skin to skin' contact we've always had. I've never been one to hide my body from her so she knows i've got boobies and a 'fluffy tuppence'... Embarassed

She's now 5 yrs old and she's just started doing the following. She loves snuggling up to my breasts, which is fair enough, she says she loves it because she feels warm and that they are 'soft and lovely and always smells nice'.

We were in the garden today and she wanted to put her head under my tshirt so she could snuggle in. If she had her way, she'd have my t shirt and bra off in a sec so she could snuggie into my breasts. Every night before bed, she lifts my tshirt up, scoops out my breasts from my bra and snuggies in as part of our bedtime hugs.

She was never breastfed as she wasnt able to and my milk didnt come through anyway. Is this just a comfort thing for her and is it unusual for a 5 yr old to be so obsessed with their mummy's boobs. I actually love it personally but its not something that i want to be happening when she gets older or..in public.. she wants to snuggie under my tshirt even when we're sitting out somewhere!


LadybugLadybug
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Not sure, hon.

I reckon a lot of people would be really uncomfortable with it... hmmm it is a difficult one.

Katie has just started puttin her wee (freezing) hands down the front of my top, as a comfort. She doesn't do it very often, but I've put it down to the fact that she was breast fed up til 15 months. I don't really stop her (it warms her wee hands and she only does it for a matter of seconds), but tbh I'd probably discourage her from putting her hands right inside my bra.

It really is a very personal thing, and I can see why you're asking about it. I wonder if the question mark in your head that made you post the question is a sign that maybe you should be (very gently) discouraging her... who knows. I'm keen to see what everyone else's honest opinions are on this...

glittergirlglittergirl
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
i'm just wondering if its due to her not seeing me quite a bit. I share residency of her with my ex husband and although they do snuggle, its obviously different to 'mummy love'. I'm also wondering if she's getting more curious about her own body and how it will develop. She knows that breasts are for feeding babies. On the other side of the coin, i have had to stop her from hitting them too. She does like to play fight with me and my breasts always seem to get a pounding. I've explained to her that mummy's boobs arent punchbags!

I'm not embarrassed as such by her wanting to snuggle into me this way, although i've had to tell her that when we're out in the front garden, the neighbours really dont want to see mummy's boobies hanging out! Embarassed Shocked She's happy to snuggle into me with my t shirt on too.. maybe its the 'skin to skin' contact she still craves even though she's now 5. It cant go on forever though, but i dont want her thinking that what she's doing isnt right..its perfectly natural to want to be close to yr mummy at that age, although part of me thinks its unsual for a child her age to want something that extreme. She was looking at my nipples today and she told me thats where babies suckle to get milk.. i almost expected her to ask to have a go! Embarassed The last thing i want is to upset her, we have such a close bond but there comes a time when certain things have to come to an end. Crying

candgsmumcandgsmum
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Honestly I'm not sure I would be comfortable with Charlotte hugging my boobs like that and I would stop her from sticking her head up my top but I really haven't got the sort of boobs that you can do that to anyway.

I think it is down to how you feel, if it is beginning to bother you maybe get her to tone it down a bit. Have love time but where you both have a cuddle and a book for example.

We are all different in what we class as acceptable around our own kids x

glittergirlglittergirl
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
to give meg her due, she doesnt just whip my tshirt up whenever she wants to. The only times she wants to snuggie that way is when its just us alone ( although she thinks us alone in the garden isnt quite what i class as 'alone'.. Wink )

oh its so hard to know what's the right thing to do. Part of me thinks its a natural skin to skin contact, like we did with them as babies.. but the other part thinks she's no longer a baby and some things should now stop.

i'm soooo confused!!!

HayleyHayley
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
i think its ok hun, its when YOU start questioning it and feelin uncomfy then thats when it should stop! xxxxxxxxxxxxx

hapydazyhapydazy
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Hi hun, I don't think it seems unusual, not to be personal but if you are of the voluptious (sp??) kind, it's probably just very soft and comfy there Suspect When my nephew was little he loved woman with big boobs, especially very large woman with big boobs. My sister and I had a friend who was like this and everytime Chad saw her he would hug her and kind of snuggle into them LOL. He outgrew this, as much as a man can I guess Wink .

Aaralyn is very affectionate with me and others too and I've had to teach her when it's ok to be snuggley with someone and when it's not (as in someone we don't know, or don't know well).

I know I wasn't helpful but just again wanted to say I wouldn't be worried about it at the age she is now. Smile

glittergirlglittergirl
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
hi

well yr right, i am rather well endowed Wink I am beginning to think its more of a comfort thing than anything else. She only wanted to do it once today and that was cos she was tired. We were on the sofa and she wanted mummy love. Its been really hot here the past few days so i've been wearing vest tops. She snuggled into me, then she lifted her head, pulled my top down a bit more so she could rest her cheek against my breast and she nodded off like that. I'm not encouraging her to do it but i wont say anything to her if she wants to at the moment, as long as it isnt an inappropriate moment. I think she just wants to be as close to me as she possibly can. I suppose i keep forgetting that although she's growing up fast, 5 is still very young and she needs comforting still when she's tired or upset. Kiss

pinknfluffypinknfluffy
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
sounds like its a comfort thing and to be honest it probably isnt about your breasts - she will be able to hear your heartbeat and feel soft skin which even at 5 is very reassuring and safe.

if its a personal one 2 one thing i dont see a problem - see if you can encourage her to do it last thing before bed as part of your routine so that she will eventually know that this is an acceptable time and wont be harranging you in the garden lol11!!

glittergirlglittergirl
posted 1 decade 3 years ago

pinknfluffy said:
sounds like its a comfort thing and to be honest it probably isnt about your breasts - she will be able to hear your heartbeat and feel soft skin which even at 5 is very reassuring and safe.

if its a personal one 2 one thing i dont see a problem - see if you can encourage her to do it last thing before bed as part of your routine so that she will eventually know that this is an acceptable time and wont be harranging you in the garden lol11!!


I think thats a great idea. She hasnt wanted to snuggie in so far today. I did have a shower and she wanted to put talc on me so i let her and bless her, she said she'd let me powder my own 'delicates' Kiss

She's told me she loves my 'boobies' as they are really soft and warm, i actually forgot about the heartbeat reason Cuckoo Very happy Wink

I think i'll tell her we'll keep those 'special snuggies' for bedtime hugs and when she's poorly etc.

thanks! Very happy

LadybugLadybug
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Huzzah a solution found Smile

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