I then married my 2nd husband in 1998, again the sun shone out of his backside as far as my mother was concerned but it didnt matter as we were happy. But then i lost my 4th babe ( lost 3 with the pig) to stillbirth and my mother basically treated me like i'd had flu. She expected me to get over it in a matter of weeks and treated me like a fruitloop if i was feeling down. I then fell pregnant for the 5th time. I spent 2 months in hospital and not once did she visit me. She only lived 80 miles away and her excuse was that there was no one to look after the dogs! After i finally gave birth to a living child, she changed towards me and gave me recognition. But then i developed pnd and my husband, mother in law and my parents said i was 'attention seeking'. My marriage broke down and we went to court for residency of our then 2 yr old. I was devastated to find out that my mother had written a statement to the courts saying i was an 'unfit' mother, was too 'overweight' to be a good mum ( all i had was post baby weight!!!!) and basically said my daughter would be better off with her dad. It was pure snobbery as my ex husband's mother has a bit of money. All claims of me being unfit were blown out the water by CAFCASS and the health visitor but the damage had been done, i felt so betrayed. She even went to COURT on the hearing day and sat on HIS side!!
I've been in a very happy relationship now for 3 yrs but she will not acknowledge my fiance and his son. She did meet them once but told my stepson to ' not take any notice of me cos i'm a bitch'... but my ex husband has now got a relationship which seems serious and new gf and her kids have spent days with my parents and she's over them like a rash!
How can a mother do that to her own daughter!!! I could understand it if i'd done something dreadfull but i havent!!! She kept saying that my actions reflected on her, ie two divorces. I've cut all ties with them but i do send them cards and presents on behalf of my daughter until she is old enough to do it herself. My ex husband takes her to see her grandparents and i encourage this as she needs to have a relationship with them. Its not her fault they are pathetic.
I do cry over it, after all, she's still my mother and in a warped way, i still love her. I used to be so close to my dad but she's turned him against me. My fiance keeps telling me to forget them but its easier said than done. How do i get over being betrayed yet again?