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Did you get the birthing experience that was described on yo

missscarlettmissscarlett
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
Say like you’re in a restaurant and you order the fish and they end up bringing you the chicken, you’d be telling them to change it and you wouldn’t be very impressed if the Waiter said, “hard luck this is the only thing the chef knows how to cook!” Well that happened to me when I was pregnant with my breech daughter. The hospital didn’t know how to deliver a breech baby, so they said tough luck you have to have a caesarean.

So, what about you, did you end up with your Birth Plan or did you have to take whatever was put in front of you?


staceybstaceyb
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
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i never made a birth plan cause i knew it probably wouldnt end up going to plan lol and also my MW never even mentioned one to me which i did think was strange
i had all 3 naturally and pretty uneventful so i cant complain.

miarubymiaruby
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
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hey i also never made a birthing plan, i decided to just take it as it comes, was very unsure of what to expect as it was my first! i knew i would want some pain relief, but thought i would wait to see at the time, i ended up having pethidine and gas and air! my midwife was so good as well! really enjoyed my first experience of birth! xxx

staceybstaceyb
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
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oh yes. gas and air a big must have lol

hapydazyhapydazy
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
My plan was to have my best friend and my daughter's father in the delivery with me and go as natural as possible. It didn't turn out that way due to medical problem... they did the c-section while her father was driving to the hospital and my best friend didn't get to go in with me because the scrubs they gave her didn't fit and they didn't have time to wait for another as it was an emergency. I had my daughter at 10:02 pm on a monday night (unconcious during delivery) and then we were both in ICU (her in NICU) so I didn't get to see her until 2pm the next day. I was so upset and the camera was broke at the hospital so I couldn't even see a picture of her Crying

miarubymiaruby
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
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aww hun thats awful, hope if you have any more in the future you have a better experience hun! xxx

GTTkelGTTkel
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
Both my deliveries were exactly as I'd planned,better possibly and the midwives both times were supportive which was a relief

candgsmumcandgsmum
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
I never had a birth plan with Charlotte and just decided to go with the flow. I was induced and had pethedin and the birth went well.

I had a homebirth with George so it was important to have a fairly good birth plan. I made this big thing in my head that I wasn't going to hospital. I didn't pack an emergency bag so when it came to George having difficulties during and after delivery, instead of just getting straight off to the hospital me and DH were running (well me sort of) around the house trying to get stuff sorted! He was rushed off to Special care when we got to hospital and I just felt a complete failure as I hadn't done this whole birthing at home properly. It hadn't been this great family experience or relaxing at all. I know deep down it was something that would have happened anyway as it was discovered that George had a knot in his cord which caused his distress.

I had great mw's both times though, very supportive and firm when they needed to be.

supernannymjsupernannymj
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
I did NCT antenatal classes, which gave us loads of information and I was convinced everything would go smoothly, I write a really detailed birth plan, despite the fact my mw never mentioned it to me, but I don't think anyone even looked at it.

I was supposed to be in the mw-led birthing unit and requested a pretty natural birth, followed by skin-to-skin contact asap with either my or DH but it went differently from the word go.

I was hooked up to monitors and made to sit upright which was agony and couldn't move around at all - the birthing ball stayed in the car and I ended up being induced, having all the drugs including pethidine and epidural and in the end, an emergency section under general anaesthetic

I was unconscious for the birth and DH wasn't allowed to be in the room. To start with the nurses didn't even want to let him hold DS after the birth in case he dropped him - but he insisted, thank goodness, and they were both sitting next to my trolley waiting for me to wake up.

So instead of the natural birth, the first time i saw the baby he was already dressed, which was odd.

Still we haven't had any trouble bonding so i guess all's well that ends well

ellee1984ellee1984
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
i never made the birthing plan i knew what i didnt want and the hospital knew that aswell, as im needle phobic they avoided all needles for me i had the one that makes the placenta come out quicker as they said i wouldnt even notice that and they knew i really didnt want to go to bristol to give birth and when my waters hadnt broken and id only dilated 1cm in 4hrs they broke them and if it hadnt speeded along they would have and apparently they were on about sending me to bristol anyway but my student midwife fought my corner for me and persuaded them to keep me there as she was with me for most of the day and knew what i wanted and didnt.

i honestly didnt see the point in making a birthing plan because i dont see it as something you can say i want this to happen and this to happen i mean you cant guarantee there that something drastic is going to go wrong so i just say hope for the best and and dont be disappointed and upset if you doesnt go the way you planned at the end of the day you got your baby and the labour is just a few hours the child is there forever

AlexAlex Moderator
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
I never got the birth I wanted either

I wanted a quiet delivery in the local MW led unit but then at 40+5 days baby stopped moving and they didnt know if he was destressed or had a high base line so I was sent to the consultant unit 30miles away where I was observed overnight and induced the following night. When I started having contractions I was told it was after pains and to go to sleep (which I couldn't I was in PAIN so they gave me something to help me sleep- DIAMORPHINE!!!) because I was given the drug I couldn't build up my tolerance to the pain so ended up having more and more to mask the pain. because I was hooked up to monitors I couldn't move about nor could I get in a comfortable position (they lost baby trace if I moved) had to give birth on my back. I then had baby whisked away because he was blue and couldn't deliver my placenta so I was taken to theatre and mum was left holding baby. I will never be able to have another baby in a MW led unit will have to be near consultants because I retained my placent!

Kelly_CaitKelly_Cait
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
I had planned a water birth because I didn't really want to have pain relief but I had a quick labour and didn't get to have one. I am glad that my labour wasn't that long but I missed the experience if you understand what I mean, can't really explain it. If I have another baby then I will try and have a water birth.

ButtercupButtercup
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
i would say mine mostly went to plan. I got to try in the birthing pool,moved out into a room and got to move around while also getting pain relief. My m/vs were brilliant. One of them had been voted mamas and papas midwife of the year for 2004 Very happy

My only complaint would be being told i didn`t need stitches to find out later i should have and ending up with a nasty scar that needed further surgery Mad

CathyGCathyG
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
didn't really have a plan so to speak, but was pretty sure i wanted a natural birth at local MW unit, using the pool. etc. Didn't get that. at 40 + 10, was taken to hospital with High BP & Protein. Also had tummy upset - was kept in isolation & not induced for 2 days. Waters were broken, then 12 hours later taken to delivery, was hooked up to monitors etc, for the remainder. had all the pain relief going + epidural, need stan monitor for baby & then ventouse delivery. Had dodgy blood test results, so ended up staying in for a week. Nevermind! we all came out unscathed & happy. xx

casey27casey27
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
i didnt make a particulary detailed plan. i was gonna be at home and just on gas and air. they were the only two things that i was really bothered about having it my way. i didnt wanna leave it too open for people to do anything they saw fit but at the same time i didnt wanna limit too many options in case it made me feel i had failed in some way xxx

hollybeehollybee
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
ended up with emergency c-section last time, nothing like the plan but it was still amazing in the end!!I'm not making a plan 2nd time round...

catgirl_872catgirl_872
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
i didnt have a water birth cus the baby came too fast but i did have gas and air and i loved it lol xx

mummyheathmummyheath
posted 1 decade 2 years ago
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the only thing that went wrong with mine was i wasnt able to have her straight on me and hubby couldnt cut cord as she wasnt breathing when she was born.
had quite a tough labour and pregnancy xx

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