help please

please can any one help my 10yr sons behaviour has never been fantastic but we have managed till now! i have just had 2 pick him up from school for the second time in a month 2 be excluded, the school think its chosen behaviour but wat do i do? i have tried every thin i can think of so some one some where please give me ideas to try. thank you

Hi hun, can you give us a few more details about his behaviour??
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well where do i start lol, his attitude the way he talks 2 ppl, the way he knows his teachers cant do any thin apart from exclude him that he thinks is great!!! i don't lol. and also the way as his teacher says is so manipulative to other children and staff members. i feel i have tried every thin. i got told a couple of months ago he had borderlining dyspraxia but yet not got it in writing

Doesnt sound like he has a good attitude at 10!! Does sound like my 16 year old daughter though!!

How do you deal with his behaviour at home??
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PS. Have to go off now as about to do school pick up so not ignoring you if I dont reply in the next couple of hours

i have tried to ignore bad behaviour, punish bad behaviour by takein his tv and ps2 dvd player off him, i also give praise for good behaviour like treats or days out.i just dont know wat way 2 go now i have got him an app at his gps later this evening

My children are much younger so I don't know exactly what it's like to discipline an older child but I have a step-sister who is 10. She seems to be better behaved when she has things to do-activities to look forward to, a day out, a friend to play etc. When she gets bored and knows there's nothing exciting happening any time soon is when she plays her mum up.
Also rather than just telling her off sometimes her mum makes it clear that she is actually disapointed in her and that seems to make her think more about her behaviour-sometimes!

Hi, I'm Tammy, I don't think I'm gonna have very good advise for you (I am mom to a 4 year old girl with an attitude to match a 16 year olds LOL) but most of the time she's a pretty good kid. I really wanted to just send ya a big ((((((((((HUG)))))))))))) and say that I hope you get some good answers and help at the apntmt today . My sister is mom to a 19 year old boy with lots of special needs and when he is in the mood he can be a real handful with a big attitude so I can sorta relate sweety... Good luck today, let us know how it goes and come back to vent if ya need to, too

i have tried after school activities with my son but i didn't mention before he has v.w so cant do a lot of sport and things like that. i will try Wat u said tho bout telling him I'm disappointed

this forum is the only thing that's keeping me sane at the moment lol i just feel so angry that the ppl who i thought i could relay on for advice like the gp and school just cant be arsed

have you tried the doctors hun? my DD (who's 11 now) was (sorry to say but) awful and she started seeing a counsillor (sp) it has helped her, although she still acts like a teen lol

im back at the doctors later to see wat the offer if any thin

stressedmum said:
im back at the doctors later to see wat the offer if any thin

I they offer you some form of support this time, when did he start acting like this???
Is it a recent thing XX

his behaviour has got worse in the last few months, he has never been fantastic though and we managed

DO you think it could be ADD or ADHD

Here a couple of sites to look through not sure if they will help


http://www.med.umich.edu/1libr/yourchild/behave.htm

http://www.acu-cell.com/dis-add.html

thanks hun will take a look at them x

i don't have a clue wat it could be, nothing at home has changed, I'm wondering if he could just be rebelling, he has a blood disorder called v.w that stops him doing a lot of things he wants so maybe summat to do with that??? i just don't know

it could be hun. hope the doctors can do something. there must be some help out there. is her yr only child?

nearly time for the docs with my son..not looking forward to it but hey never mind

Hi there, I know my son is alot younger at five but we are in the process of having him assesed for A.D.H.D,Josh is disruptive,argumentative,manipulative,hyperactive, obsessive,and plain attention seeking through lots of bad behaviour,now I am not saying this is the same as your son, but If he has displayed these behaviours for more than six months in more than one setting then tell the g.p this and ask for an assesment.Or try googleing the Dore project and do an online test,there is also one for dyslexia and dyspraxia aswell i think on there.
Good luck hun, I know exactly how you are feeling so dont hesitate to message me if you want to chat, we are all here to keep your head above the water so take a deep breath and start swimming you will reach dry land I promise you!!!! xxx kel

yep first and last lol