female help needed --- your views

hi,
im new to the site,and joined to meet new freinds as just recently being feeling very low. but...

maybe i should start a poll. to find out what the majority of women on this site enjoy about their relationship and why they think it has lasted. what you really want from a guy and what just makes you think- oh my god.
i think most of us guys would be very interested to find out, so please you all come and spill !

My input wouldnt be very good at the moment as have a huge downer with my other half

OK, here goes... HONESTY!! to be able to be trusted around my child (actually that is #1!), I think it all just really boils down to chemistry and compatibility... Be who you are right off the bat when you meet someone... don't ever try to come off as anything else to impress a women because true colors come out eventually... You have to let them see who is inside you, good things and things that they may be annoyed with. My boyfriend can really get on my nerves sometimes but I could see that right from the start because he never tried to hide his WHOLE personality... does that make any sense? I hope so... Good luck hon... and as others have said on another post recently don't go looking for love, don't sit idle but just be out there and be YOU and you will meet the right one eventually (and I strongly believe there is more than 1 right one for everybody too) and one more thing, we have a great intimate life together too and I think that is very important

no all input is good

the more things you say about how you feel and what you want,how you want things to be the better.

we can all learn from each other, so dont be shy alis378 to open up.

Just posted my downer on the forum for blokes input
x

well me and other half bee gether 9 years 5 months
met him wen very young 15 for that matter,, he is 13 years older than me,,weve had four kids. our first born assd away 6 years ago at the age of 10 months of meningitus,,i suffered a m/c a few months later which like messed me up more.aimee came along in 2002 liam in 2004 and baby jadey in 2005
weve never really fallen out only in the first year of our relationship i was a kid wasnt oo serious to me.we dont fight or argue we have cross words.
anyways ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
for me in a relationship ther ehas to be honesty trust love, hugs n kisses i just thrive on
dont judge a book by its cover
dont be something you are not
partnership is equal
showing u love some one and have feeling for them is important to me jus tso u no u are valued x

god me and dave have been together for 3 and a half years and we have mia ruby who will be 2 soon! however he can really make me mad, i do trust him which i feel is important but i do feel sometimes that i do everything for mia!(not of course that i mind!) i will give him his due though he does do alot of the cooking and helps clean up, he only works 2 days a week at the minute! but i get really wound up as i feel if i didnt do things for mia they wouldnt get done! i.e. getting her dressed, ready for bed, changing her nappy, bathing her, i would really appreciate it if he did some of this more without being asked! sorry for the moan! xx

my james is an angel and i love him to pieces met him almost 6yrs ago in an internet chat room. we hit it off straight away. met a week later and i moved 300 miles to be with him 9 months later.
he's honest, caring, affectionate (always kissing, cuddling and telling me he loves me)
he helps round the house and with the kids. we have 2 kids together and i have jami from my previous marriage, who he excepts as his own. every night when he gets in from work, he watches the kids while i have a soak in the bath. blimey that sounds really corny lololol but thats how it is

i think honesty and trust are most important. and a great sex life helps too

maybe i just had a messed up woman then, cos i trhink i was trusting, we had great days together,laughed and cried at things, and a fantastic intense intimate relationship.lots of hugs and kisses.i bought her flowers for no reason. surprised her and cooked a meal then went back home. the spark was amazing when we met and i never felt anything close to that before. i was completely at ease and myself with her.

all i know is that i enjoyed being in her company and spending time with her, even if it was just going to asda. to me i was happy and never thought i would want to stop,i got lots of mixed signals which made me not know anything. which is why i asked what women enjoy about their relationship and what they think makes it special.

ok, ive rambled on far too much

sparkyk said:
we had great days together,laughed and cried at things, and a fantastic intense intimate relationship.lots of hugs and kisses.i bought her flowers for no reason. surprised her and cooked a meal then went back home.

awwwww hun. alot of women would love a man be like that with them. dont worry bout rambling. thats what were here for

gee, thanks
im smiling see
dont know how i ever stumbled on this site, but pleased i did

i know what you mean its a brill site really friendly and ppl are honest. thats what i like glad yr smiling

Igot married the first time at 18 and yes i was in love but as the years went by (4 years )i guess it got convienient. we never had children and my now x led a very secretive life.I never thought i had reason not to trust him but he always behaved like i was doing something wrong so i followed my gut and did some digging and found out he was unfaithful the whole 4 years from begining to end.................
But my life now is sooooooooo fantastic my hubby is lazy,sometimes a bit grumpy but the love is always there i think over all we just want to be loved and accepted for who we are and supported in what we do but it has to be a two way street with loads of communication.Sorry guys for ranting and raving on

I'm with you sparkyk

I gave my wife the world. Outside of work, which is long hours, my entire focus would be on her and the kids. I bought her flowers and gifts, and recently took her to New York to try and get things back on track, only to come back and for her to jump into another man's bed the next week.

Start feeling like nice guys don't win.

Hey, nice guys do win with the right girl. It took me 20 some odd years to figure out that I really wanted to be with a nice guy and now I have one and I love him and appreciate every little nice thing he does Please don't go bitter sweety, it will get better, it really will!

I thought I had the right girl, obviously I was wrong. Although I'm hurting as this is all going on as we speak, I hope in time I can sort myself out. I may be able to find love again, but it is already too late for the kids whose lives are about to be ruined by what she is doing.

aww good guys so do win with the right woman! i would love dave to do some of the things other men do for there partners but he isnt like that and prob never will be but i still love him dearly, and wouldnt want him to change if that makes sense, trust me guys you will eventually find the right woman and you will be the happiest men alive! xxx

mmmm.
i wouldnt say i gave her the world, or put her on a pedestal, just said she looked nice when she did, and pay her other compliments, i believe life is short and if you have nice things to say about people then you should just say them and not wait untill its too late,plus it might just brighten up there day.

it just seems sometimes that women seem to like the challenge and uncertainty of not knowing where they stand,as soon as the game is over and they realise that they have you and can trust and depend on you,there off looking for the next thrill. its a shame, sometimes i think that in years to come they will realise thats not what they wanted all along,but obviously by then it will be too late.orc30 right, i dont think decent blokes will ever be worthy in womens eyes

we men are simple and most of us want just the same as you women so in reality,everything should be fine !

orc30, if you need someone to let steam off to, then feel free mate.

o i am sorry but i totally diagree with this! you are making all women sound the same, and believe it or not we arent! i have a decent bloke and he definately worthy in my eyes, or i wouldnt be with him! and i completely trust my partner and i definately dont feel the need to go out looking for my next thrill!

i will apologise in advance if i have took this the wrong way but i simply need to get my point across!

i understand you have been hurt but please dont think we are all monsters as we arent! we have feelings to and we are all totally different! xxx

ooopps, sorry all. whey too much ranting, i am pleased with all the input though,your right miaruby, theres lots of good women too, just need to find em