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Free Birth - whats your opinion?

ellee1984ellee1984
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
I dont know if anyone saw it but I was watching gmtv this morning and on that lorraine's show they had a couple who had a baby via something called free birth which is basically where you see no doctors or midwives throughout your pregnancy and you give birth at home with no medically trained person about which i personally think is a bit dangerous to the mother and the baby and i wouldnt do this.

Just wondering what other mums think to this and would they consider doing this


hapydazyhapydazy
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Yikes, I'm all for midwives, natural births (although I had an emergency C-section) but that does seem a little scary. I had a rare pregnancy related disorder called accute fatty liver pregnancy and presented no symptoms of it except high blood pressure. This occurs in something like 1 in 18,000 pregnancies and with no symptoms to know what to test for, I was lucky that another woman had the same thing a few months before at the same hospital so they decided to check me for that (after ruling out several other things). Luckily they did and called me to the hospital because with in an hour of my arrival, my daughter's heart rate had dropped dramatically due to the stress my illness was causing her. Had they not checked for this, I would not be here to tell this story as my liver was over 50 percent fat when I delivered (delivery is the cure). Aaralyn was born 5 1/2 weeks before my due date and was 4 lbs but a feisty little you know what right from the get go. Sorry, I do go on, huh!? my whole point being had I not had the medical expertise it would have not been a good situation at all.

candgsmumcandgsmum
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Um not for me, I'm rhesus negative and didn't know until I had Charlotte, I bled in both my pregnancies and needed anti d injections to prevent blue babies!

I would not choose to have a 'free birth' personally.

catgirl_872catgirl_872
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
no way anythin can happen to ur baby or urself,i wouldnt do it unless u can see the future lol and know all is gonna be good Smile xxx

miarubymiaruby
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
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god no definitely not for me either! when i was 30 weeks pregnant wih mia i was diagnosed with cholestasis(may be spelt wrong ha), this was to do with my liver not working properly and was given steroid injections in case the tablets i was given didn't work as Mia would of had to of been delivered early! without this medical intervention me and mia could of both had dificulties, Sad Face so i wouldnt want to take any chances with any other pregnancies! Embarassed

GTTkelGTTkel
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Also apart from what you've all said about health problems going un-noticed or problems in labour; I have to ask when the baby is born what do they clamp the cord with and what do they do with the Placenta? How about weighing the baby and checking(you know the apgar score) etc.

Fiona25Fiona25
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Absolutely no way!!! I was so grateful for all the help I received throughout my pregnancy, and there was'nt a hope in hell that I could have went through labour without the help of the brilliant midwives xx

missscarlettmissscarlett
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
One would assume that when a woman makes the decision to have a "free birth" the decision would be an *informed* one. I would not expect this decision to be made without any research. I don't think it would the case of... "oh, we're pregnant and we're not seeing any doctors and we're not taking any precautions and we're not going to do anything to make sure everything is safe for baby and mummy/mommy and we're not going to... hmmmm we're just not going to do anything that's responsible..." kind of like that...

I would assume the parents did extensive research into what's available to women in terms of responsible pregnancy care without medical intervention.

Women can have babies without going to hospital and seeing a midwife. Women have been birthing since the dawn of time. Unfortunately medical intervention has gotten in the way of nature's way and some pregnancies do go ahead when they shouldn't. (my DH has a friend who's very young DD went to term, then the baby died in the womb, then the young teen developed blood poisoning and now she has to wear a colposcopy bag for the rest of her life).

To answer... cord gets clamped with special scissors, the placenta gets buried in a special place in the garden, the baby is washed and checked to make sure all outside physical signs are all good, and weighed on a set of scales.

Tell me did the show point out whether the parents were making any preparations and whether the parents were making sure that the health of both mother and baby will be of the utmost importance or did the show run along a very biased point elliminating certain points? Shows like this are meant to stir the pot but all aspects needs to be shown or the viewer will only get a snap shot into what is really going on.

So long as all precautions are in place there is absolutely nothing wrong with having a *free birth*.

Good luck to them and their bub.

BedheadBedhead
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Although I agree with the point that women have been giving birth alone since the dawn of time I don't think that this is really the point. Mortality rates for newborn babies and mothers used to be much higher than they are now and in countries where medical care is not freely available they still are. In my opinion to refuse medical care that could potentially save you or your babies life is just daft! Just my opinion.

imakeboysimakeboys
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Funny this should be brough up in topic.
I today found out im pregnant with number 3 and i will be doing this whole free pregnancy and birth thing. Though if in labour i want a midwife i will call one out.
No one will know im pregnant in the medical profession, that is for the better.

My last pregnancy was a nightmare.
The "medical" profession round here is sh**.
They forced me into a caesrean section that i didnt want, nov 04 then tried forcing me into another just becuase it was easier the 2nd time round, and as i recall my consultant told me "youll give birth to a dead baby and IF you survive you will need a hysterectomy" i think they are the words of an uncaring profession.
They caused me un-neciasry stress through preg and birth so i think these free births are good and lets hope many more women realise that this so called caring proifession is nothing more than grown up school bullies.

hipmommahipmomma
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
WOW imakeboys!

Good luck, I think your reasons and bang on and I really hope this works for you. But if you do feel unwell please se a doctor Kiss

imakeboysimakeboys
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Thanks hipmomma, and im not stupid i will.
My 2nd pregnancy's birth was just how i wanted (successful home birth after c section) so i know whats normal or not throughout labour.

xx

staceybstaceyb
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
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congratulations hun. hope it all goes well xxx

imakeboysimakeboys
posted 1 decade 3 years ago

staceyb said:
congratulations hun. hope it all goes well xxx


thanks hunni

Very happy Very happy

ellee1984ellee1984
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Youve obviously had a very bad experince with the medical profession imakeboys and its not like your a first time mum you know what to expect and what not to expect in your pregnancy and labour so as long as your careful and viligent I hope its very successful for you and your family.

what concerns me more about free birth is first time mums doing it because its the latest trend and they have no idea what to expect and whats normal and whats not in pregnancy. I was lucky and I had a great team of midwives before I went into hospital and whilst in hospital I did go to a midwife based low risk unit and recieved great care and there was only a handful of us in there and got more personal care for the midwives and healthworkers.

I did come across one or two not very nice midwives as I have a phobia of needles and my wrists and cant let anyone touch them and when they wanted to take blood when I had a miscarriage before I had my LO I couldnt do it and the women wasnt very nice and told me that I could be carrying ectopic and I obviously dont realise how serious this is and I could die if I am, I do know how serious carrying ectopic is as my mum had an ectopic pregnancy and my mums friend died from an ectopic pregnancy. But my 2 midwives I was seeing at my GPs were amazing and they referred me to a pychiatriact specialist who with his help at 36wks I managed to give them blood and my midwife actually took it from the back of my hand and I was the first person she had done this to, so I hope that her being able to do that now has opened up the doors to other people who are like me and have phobias which mean they cant give blood when needed to in a pregnancy.

During my labour I actually had a student midwife who did deliver my daughter under supervision of the experienced midwife, the student midwife was amazing unfortunately I found the experienced midwife was very rude and horrible and I didnt like her, I did think ok it could be because I was in labour I was taking it too personally but I found that during the aftercare when I was on the ward she was the same I think that it could be because she and possibly the same with your midwives/consultant imakeboys they worked in the business so long they have hardened up and dont really care about your feelings and are basically like robots do this do that etc.

Sorry for my ramblings on, I hope it all goes extremely well for you and you have no complications and everything is straight forward and you take care of yourself imakeboys and keep us posted on how you are keeping and doing.

imakeboysimakeboys
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Thanks Ellie for your reply.
You are guessing right about bad experiences within the profession. I too have a bad needle phobia, when i was forced into my caesarean section, i was in the anaesethic room, and all 5 staff agreed NOT TO DO ANYTHING TIL MY HUSBND RETURNED (he was ordered to get baby clothes, and he told them im a needle phobic etc..) anyway he went, i was told to come thru, then get on bed.. then out of no where they were all pinning me down and as i looked to my left arm saw a fookin great big needle, shouted and begged for him to stop and he didnt.
When my husband returned i was screaming, and having a panic attack, then i went under..
I woke up to hate - i mean phyiscal hate my baby. Though i breastfed him for a while i hated him, i even wished him dead. I soon learnt that it wasnt his fault, i kissed him and regret all these feelings until the day i die. Crying Crying

Getting back to the topic in hand here - first time mums SHOULD do all relevant research whilst preg to make sure everything is ok etcc. As to finding out whats normal and whats not they should be able to look this up or indeed call NHS direct, for hints and tips. They are fools if they do not.

Sorry ive dragged on and now ive proper flooded the keyboard with yet more tears ill say over and out, xx

ellee1984ellee1984
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
I had a carefree labour in comparision to what you had to endure. I unfortunately suffered from PND after having my lil girl and I couldnt bond with her and had hardly anything to do with her I even bottle fed her so I didnt have to do anything. Izzys dad fed her, bathed her, changed her and did virtually everything for her and then we moved into his parents house and his mum started doing everything for her I am now on my own with her and am really starting to bond with her now but am finding it hard now for obvious reasons as im now alone

imakeboysimakeboys
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
bless, that sounds aweful. Poor you,

((hugs)) i suffer(ed?) from PND and PTSD post traumatic stress disorder for a few yrs, still possible do, so i no what its like ((more hugs))

hapydazyhapydazy
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
Hey Ellee, I'm sending you some (((((hugs)))))))) too. I was alone with Aaralyn until she was 2 1/2 then dated a great guy for a year but we were just meant to be friends. Now I'm dating another great guy (for a year now). Maybe this time alone with your daughter is meant to be so that you guys can keep building that bond. You're not alone cuz you will always have her Kiss

ellee1984ellee1984
posted 1 decade 3 years ago
thanks I'm still suffering now I think the doc just put me on sum antidepressants which I wasnt too keen on. But what got me is I had depression during my pregnancy and was actually signed off work for nrly 4months with it and so I just thought that my healthworker would keep a close eye on me afterwards as it would be on my record, this wasnt the case and I was virtually left to my own devices even after I did a test for her which she then told me that I was showing some signs of PND, I still recieved nothing. The whole family even noticed this and were worried but none of them talked to me about it but they instead talked amongst themselves about it.

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